how were you discipline when you were young? will you the same to your kid?
By gelay07
@gelay07 (588)
Philippines
August 10, 2011 1:13am CST
I had a perfect childhood. I could never recall that i was spanked by my parents. I was scolded and was discipline in a way to remember the mistakes i did but that's about it. no violence and no abuses i experience from my parents. Its just so sad that there are kids being abused by their parents. I cannot fathom the idea of parents who can inflict so much pain to their kids. although, i dont have kids but i have nieces and nephews who i love them so dearly. I know they love me as much as i love them. heheheh. when they arrive at home, my nieces/nephews would always look for me. i never hit them, i just talk to them and they understand me. if a kid is brought in a violent way, like being hit all the time, naturally, the kid would grow up to be violent and would have difficult personality. I just hope parents who hit their kids, should realize that kids should be given proper care and love not be abused.
9 responses
@veedee13 (242)
• United States
11 Aug 11
As a kid,i was always taught to never talk back to my parents but i guess that didn't carry on when i became a teenager because sometimes i talk back especially when they accuse of stuff that are not true.will i teach it to my kids?yeah but i can't control them.they have to learn on their own as well.
@pvtandersonbryce (37)
• United States
10 Aug 11
I personally see no problems with spanking as long as the kids are old enough and they did something extremely bad. I was spanked as a kid and I am better for it. As long as they are not spanked when they do not do something. That would be bad
@janey72 (41)
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10 Aug 11
my parents were pretty strict. i got spanked a few times,but my brother got spanked a lot. it was never done in anger, they were just strict. i would never do the same to my kids. i do send them to bed early though, which was one of the ways i was disciplined by my parents.
@QeeGood (1213)
• Sweden
10 Aug 11
It's good to know you had a perfect childhood. I would say I had, but it could have been worse. Certain experience that I had I have not given my children. They've had the chance to make their own good choices with my support. I always given them praise for good gestures and doing well. When they did wrong we talked about it for worng what's right or wrong. Spanking or beating are bad it only creates scars in ones soul.
@miryana (52)
• Bulgaria
10 Aug 11
I have the greatest parents in the world. I hope I will be as good with my own children as they were to me. I remember that I was very good child. But when I was a teenager I was very wild. I stoped going to school for a month and a teacher called my mother. She went to school to talk to the pricipal. After that I was expecting to get grounded or something. But she just looked at me an said "I am very disappointed" I couldn't bare the thought of my mother being disappointed by me. And I never did something that stupid again.
@vivamir (671)
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10 Aug 11
Hi gelay07..
Its nice to hear you had such a love upbringing, and your right, there are many who are not raised in such an environment..
In terms of punishment I think its a matter of the parents persona.. Some may physically harm their children to teach them a lesson or will use emotional/mental abuse- either way I dont understand it that their children are learning every second.. from them..
So what they do to them, naturally theyll do to others..
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@hushi22 (4928)
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10 Aug 11
i was raised by as strict family and a strict surrounding but i dont remember being spanked or physically hurt. i grew up with the adults talking to me in a proper manner and explaining why in some cases my actions were wrong. i think that is my ideal way of growing my kids someday although i know it will not be that easy.
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
10 Aug 11
Our parents raised us up nicely. When we do some gross misconduct our father would spank us with a belt. He would make us lie face down on a bench and spank us with his belt. But he does that only when we grossly misconducted.
I guess, i was spanked one or two times only. We were afraid of being spanked so we behaved well.
I can say that we were raised well by our parents, because we have graduated College, got a job and are now married.
We admire our parents for giving us the due discipline.
@henkiprananda (2729)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 11
well, you are lucky. for me, your childhood was perfect. not like me.
when i was kid, my parent over protected. but they always leave me, for their job. my mother work for government, and my father is an soldier. so,i grew up without a discipline. but i have a good friend, who always remind me, to became a good people.
