Some Love Never Dies

When I was in my late thirty I met a guy named T.J. I loved him dearly and things happened between us I may not have been party to with anyone else. He was very sad and had been hurt very badly by his ex wife. I don't think he was ready for a relationship although I believe he cared for me. We seperated but years later I met up with him again and spent some time. We both cared very much for eachother but he was just too shattered to try to make it work with us. It was very devistating.

I couldnt morn my x he did all that too. s o I got where I didnt love him really hated him nope couldnt love him more.

yes, but its complicated...

i could say yes, i have loved someone but couldn't live with her. i think i remember, i loved her but she married another guy with our daughter in her womb. i could not make a move as i was still in college and because if humiliation, she had to accept the proposal of the other guy which she was forced to get involved with even when we were still sweethearts. does this one acceptable with this topic?

Oh yeah, believe me I know the feeling. I was kind of amused really reading all the "good" qualities he had when he was still living.It one whole complete package you need to hate marriage. Haha.Well I am glad you had the guts to put a stop on it or you might have be gone earlier before he did.

Dearest Antiquelady that makes me so sad you loved this man but were unable to live with him. Yes I had that experience too. Before I met my husband I was together with someone who impressed me a lot. He was a male bookworm and he believed in God. Wonderful. The problem was, he loved his solitude more than anything or anyone else soooo in the long run it was a tough situation with our long distance relationship. He was happy and content to see me every third weekend or even less and I loved him so deeply I would have liked to spend more time with him. It tore my heart.

Personally I think that this is actually only a normal feeling. Because even if you are not able to live with them, they will always be a part of you in a way, especially when you were married to them, so when something like this happens and they die from Cancer, etc. it does make you feel Sad. I would just hope the Best for his family and in time you will be able to move on.

I am sorry for your loss. I don't know if I knew about this. I must have but with the seizers...well you know they take my memories all the time. Yes, I have loved someone and just could not live with him. There is a thing as having differences in the way you want your life to go and they have a different way they want it to go or they have no real ambitions like you do. This was my case. I am ambitious and wanted things and a better life where he was quite happy just being and not having anything to speak of. They say behind every good man is a woman pushing him well you can only push so much but when they are happy where they are you just don't get anywhere with pushing for something. So I went out on my own.

I am sorry to hear about your ex. Of course you can still love someone and not be able to live with them. I am going through something like that myself right now. I have an ex that I broke up with 2 years ago after 12 years of living together. I still love him deeply but I couldn't live with him anymore. He didn't physically abuse me but he mentally abused me, he was very controlling. I can't put all the blame on him as in people treat you the way you let them treat you and I let him control me.....until I couldn't any more. We still talk by email about once a week and I still love him but I can't let him control my life anymore and I had to take my independence back. I can't live with him anymore and to make sure I stay true and strong to myself I left the city we lived in and moved 1400KM away from him. I didn't trust myself, I left before but always went back to him, so this time I made sure it wasn't that easy to go back. Now I am glad because even though I still love him it was the best thing for me. I talked to him on the phone the other day and his arogant laugh just confirmed to me that I made the right decision by leaving. His laugh got to me......

Hi ya ANTIQUELADY I am not sure if I should sorry to hear of your loss or not! Anyway, my kids dad was more or less the same as your ex. I haven't seen him in about 5 years, well not properly, and I know I have no feelings for him along the lines of love but I would be sad if he passed away as he is someone I know/knew. I am not sure anyone would tell me if he did pass away either!

Yes, I have.... my current boyfriend. We've been together the better part of the last 4 years, but there have been SOOOO many times when I've been seconds away from just telling him to hit the road and don't bother looking back... but I can't do it. He's not cruel or abusive, but he has some mental issues that just, at times, making being sociable a real task for him. He has no insurance and can't afford the $800+/mo medications that he needs to even out his moods and anxiety, and as a result has turned to other means to deal with it, including binge drinking. Other times, he hurls himself into projects and just doesn't bother to call me or get in touch with me for 1-3 weeks at a time. And it REALLY hurts. But no one else that I've met can relate to my sense of humor. No one else I've met or even dated is okay with those times where I'm fine, but just might want to be left on my own for a day or two at a time. No one else would look at me crying and tell me that "It's okay, but you need to dry it up." They'd want to be smothering me with comfort, which I don't like. Those times when he goes off and does his own thing for so long at a time are hard. It's hard to sleep and it's hard to not feel anxious. When we broke off our relationship for a few months, all I could do was cry day and night, even though it was initially my idea. I missed him and it hurt. I can't even stand the thought of life without him.

Yes I have--my first husband. There were times when he was a lot of fun but others he was just impossible and there was no sign of when that change was going to take place. That's what made him impossible to live with. Now that he is gone (Congestive Heart Failure) and I have his daughter, I find that I do miss him a bit at times; his smiles, when he was kind, when we did talk intelligently about things, and when we just enjoyed being together.

Oh no thanks God it never happen to me, Those that I fell in love, felt the same for me too. I am so sorry for your hard time with that person, I hope he had learned the lesson, living the life like that will not giving us a good end. Be happy that God took that person away from you before he hurt you more. Happy lotting!

I really love one guy but we cannot live together.I am sad about this situation.I try my best to forget him but I cannot do that. It is really bad situation.

Yes, I have. I have a couple of people that I did truly love, but I could not be in a relationship with either of them. It is sad but a part of life that we must accept. Let me say how sorry I am that you lost someone special that you once shared your life with.

Sorry for your loss. I often wonder why it's so easy for us to love the wrong people. I had a similar ex-boyfriend. I was only with him a year, but the experience has stuck with me. Though I owe that ex a lot. Had it not been for my relationship with him, I never would have gotten with my husband. The primary reason I chose my husband was because he was a complete opposite of the ex. So I have been safe and secure for the past 10 years, and when things get rough between us I keep remembering what else is out there vs. what I have here and I try to appreciate that.

Yes, it was like that with my ex husband. He is a lovely man and although we’ve been divorced for almost 22 years I have never had any animosity toward him because ours was a case of two mismatched people getting together way too young ( I was 15 and he was 16) I still care for him a lot but I know that he was not the type of person I could live with for life, it is a shame but we both remarried and we are happy now. Sometime people come into our lives to teach us lessons and move on and that is okay.

I hate to hear that Jo. It's not easy loving someone you can't live with. It's a shame that he treated you the way he did too. I have always heard there is a fine line between love and hate. I think it might be a saying because when you love someone so deeply..you can hate them easier and more than anyone else when they abuse you. I have loved someone I couldn't live with. I used to have to remind myself sometimes why I couldn't live with them. I don't have to do that anymore though. I am ok. I really lucked up when I met the fellow I'm with now. You never know what life has in store sometimes though. Take care

How sad that you weren't able to be with the one you truly loves. Yes, some loves can really be so true like yours. I salute you my friend for having just one true love in your entire love!

hi:) my aunt is just like you, she love her husband but cannot stand to live with him, for the reasons that her husband have mistress and always drunk all the time, so they decided to move but she keeps telling my mom when she visits that she would not have other relationship because she still love my uncle and only waiting for him to change and beg her to comeback.