did you ever got TIRED listening to a friend whine?

I do have a friend like that. She asks for advice but never listens or follow what I said. So, i stopped giving her an advise because i am sick and tired of it also. Her life is miserable and i really wanted to help her but i believe only herself can solve the problem. I just want to believe in her. She'll be fine i think.

Yes. Unfortunately she is not my friend any more. She got marry the guy who was 10 years younger than she was and needed British visa to stay in UK. She loved him very much. In my opinion he wanted to use her. She made all sort of debts on her name. He has comfy life while she had to work in 3 jobs. Three years after wedding he received visa and he announced her that he wants divorced. He left her with debts. I told her that he is not worth her. I told her so many times. After he left she did not change opinion about him. She still loves him and believes that he will come back. How naive you can be? I was tired to listen to her. I moved to other area of London and we lost contact.

Hi chiyosan! I've encountered a person like that. At first it was okay, we can share sentiments with them. But as it goes on and they whine and complain about the same things over and over again, it becomes annoying. Your ears get stressed and it will ring everytime you hear that person's voice. It's difficult to deal with them especially if they are stubborn and do not listen to advices given to them. Sometimes I just ignore what they said and change topic.

I have a friend who was having a really hard time this year, and I had to spend a lot of time talking to her and trying to calm her down as a result of that. I was a little bit fed up about it at times, but then I remembered that she would always be there for me if I needed her, so I decided that I would be determined to be the best friend to her that I possibly could. I think that, in any friendship, you have to "give and take" to a certain extent. Everything will even out in the end, but in any friendship you have to be prepared to be there for people as you would like them to be there for you if you needed it.

This is actually a test of patience. We definitely have friends who need a crying shoulder to lean on to. We definitely know of people who need someone to talk to. We definitely have people who need others to give them the much needed advice for them to get through life. In other words, there are many times that we are really needed. However, we should always make ourselves available only when needed really importantly or urgently. There are so many people who just want an audience to listen to their stories, just to make them feel good into thinking that there is someone who is listening to them. These people, I always stay away from. It is because these are also the people who do not give you the respect. Many times these are also the people you ask to stop talking, and they just do not stop. In fact, these people are the same people whom you wish a piano would fall off the sky on them as they continuously talk.

you need to have a chat with her. when do this she might under stand, also you need to understand her and her problems maybe then you will know why she does that.

I let my friend's vent then just let it slide off my shoulders. I don't see the point in sitting there and letting their problems get to me when they won't take my advice or I can't help. I have found out that I have to many issues of my own that set me nuts that I don't need a friend's help. My daughter on the other hand, is such a bleeding heart. She feels for all of her friends if they're hurting or need help. Then they turn around and are never there for her when she needs them. There's only one friend that has split the drama with and they have been friends for 17 yrs. Friends like this are hard to find but they make having issues and listening to them easier because it's a give and take relationship and they still have fun together.

I think that we've all known someone who was like that. I can't say that I've always enjoyed it, when these individuals came to me. At first it was alright, but the more they did it, the more annoying it became.

Next time tell her the opposite of what you really feel and then see what she does, Kinda reminds me of a friend I had....she always asked me what to wear and when I told her I liked that outfit she wore another

Sort of, I have a friend from my previous job who text me once in a while her lovelife and life. It was like ok, do what you like to do cause in the end even if I give advice and suggestion, she's still do whatever she likes.

YES. This girl I knew in high school became a classmate in a foreign language class in college. She recognized me and asked me if I wanted to ride home with her since we live in the same area and she drives. I took her up on her offer. While her kindness is greatly appreciated...her whining was too much. She wasn't whining about petty stuff, which is what whining can often imply, but STILL. She'd use me as a sounding board and as much as I really wanted to help her, there really wasn't anything I could do. She'd even call me up in the middle of the night and talk about the same problems. It seemed like the only way she could get over her life was to talk it out and ask other people what to do. It reached a point where I had to avoid her because she was such a draining presence and I had to skip class because I couldn't take any of her problems anymore. She and I are Facebook friends. She messaged me recently, asking to pray for her, but I knew better. It may sound cruel to others that I would skip out on hearing her out or to even pray for her, but knowing her, it's time consuming and I'd rather talk with her when things are pleasant.

I have a friend just like yours. When she has a "small" problem, she makes a huge deal out of it. I tell her straight away the simplest thing you can do but she keeps countering all my advises saying what if this happens or that. If she already knows the outcome then why bother asking me? And then her problem drags on and on and she asks almost everyone for advice and everyone basically has the same advice. Her problems are so immature, they make me laugh but as a good friend, I try to help her but after my advices she has stopped coming to me because I just brush it off as something small.

All the time :) i try to help them but sometimes i think they don't want to be helped so i let them get on with it and when th2y are doing my head in i just good by

For me, there's a limit to when my friend is asking for advice vs. when they start to whine and complain about all the problems in their life. I understand that they may be going through difficult times, but it doesn't mean that I am not also. I have this one friend, where every time I try to confide in them, they come back with their own personal problem. It makes me frustrated that I listen to them and they do not listen to me ):

I can relate to that. Yes, I have a friend now here at work too... She always cry and when I'm advising her what to do, she also doesn't do it all and always end up crying... She is also so hard headed.

Man, I have a friend like that. Every time she would come up to me and talk about her problems, I would give her all sorts of advice. None of which she listens to or even considers. That's when I realized that she wasn't asking for advice. She only wanted someone to listen to her problems. In a way, it was her form of release. When she's able to unload her problems, and whine and complain, eventually she would reach a decision as to what to do about her problems. Sometimes, it's really tiring to listen to her talk about her problems and mix it all up with other complaints. She has serious issues at home, and with her marriage, to which I'd be glad to lend an ear just so she can unload. But sometimes she also talks about work, and complains about a lot of things about work, and that gets tiring because we work in the same company! Imagine, I'm dealing with the stress in the office and I happen to like the place where i work. and she's doing nothing but complain about how things are run, but does not do anything to change any of it. It can get tiring.

It is hard when we need to listen to them then they asking for an advice but then they refused to do what we have suggested. I don't like that kind of person. I know it is up to them because we just provide them with suggestion and they have right to choose it but come to me like your case then complaint about the same thing over and over again, I will get tired. I am a person who tend to feel bored easily when do same thing again and again or people told me things repetitively. It will make me less interested to the subject so yes I do get tires and bored when listening to friends who keeps telling me the same good/bad things.

there are a LOT of people like that. from my friends, yeah, i kinda get tired giving advises to someone like that. you're always telling the same old story to a friend telling you the same old story. sometimes they get into my nerves that i could actually gets really irritated and i'll just say, "CHE!" the moment she/he would start whining same darn stories all over again. i'm a hot tempered person^^

hi:) I have a friend like that before, she always ask us for advice but she followed neither of that, until I got tired and told her that if ever she will ask us for some advice again at least do some of it or just stop asking us, because she's doing the same mistake over and over and us her friends keeps repeating same advice, somehow tiring.