my bf's other woman texted me.. =(

Now that sweetie, was low from both of them. Why didn't he tell you from the start that he was seeing someone else? Sorry, no offense, but i am glad you made him cry. Now he will know what it feel like. Hope you will be fine though.

I know it hurts but if I were you I would be glad it Happened and you found out about it before there we're kids and a marriage involved. I would definitely keep him dumped, crying is something he did to make you feel bad, but think if it this way, he was not feeling bad for you when he was with that other women. I know you are hurt but do not take him back. Once a cheater always a cheater.

Just know that you are a better person than that and do not deserve to be treated like that. I busted one of boyfriends about 15 years ago, I had a suspicion that he was cheating, but could not confirm that he was until one day we were talking in my car in front of his house and she showed up. She pulled her car behind mine and got out. I don't usually judge people on their appearances, but took one look at her and I was thinking "You slept with her?" This girl was talking crazy and saying that she was pregnant, blah, blah, blah. Once she left and he got back into my car, I said "It's me or her" and of course he said it would be me. So, since I was young and naive, I stayed with him and she kept calling saying she was pregnant, then she wasn't, she was pregnant again, then had a miscarriage, then she was pregnant again. Oh, the drama! But when we ended our relationship, I was only sad for literally one hour. I am so much better than that and if he did it to me once, he would do it again. And who knows how many other girls there were. He did not deserve to have me. I didn't blame the one girl that showed up because I'm sure he was the jerk that was sweet talking her and telling her the same things he told me. Amazingly enough, he called me a year later, but I had moved on and was having a great vacation in Las Vegas when he called. I never returned his phone call. But this relationship made me a much stronger person and I do not put up with any crap from a man.

Yuck! This guy is a loser because he can't be honest with you plus he's juggling 2 women. I personally have no patience for foolishness like that. When I was dating, I was looking for a potential husband to spend the rest of my life with. I did not want a cheating husband, so it's best to nip it in the bud now that you're not married yet, as after marriage it would be even harder for you. Sorry for being rough with you, it's just that you deserve so much better than what you're going through.

Thar woman texted you the message your bf sent to her right to say that he is going to be with you. It means that your boyfriend choose you instead of her right?? So what's the problem??? Friend, if you feel hurt then you need to think back your relationship with him.If he betray you once you can still give him chance to fix it but if he dare to make it again then think it by hard to go on the relationship or not..He don't have rights to make you feel sad.

Three weeks after I hope you feel better. I don't what is your reality now, if you forgave him or not. But all what I can tell you is that there are a lot of bad people and envy people that feel angry when the others are living a happy life, I don't know if that is the case of that person to call you. I don't know either if you bf is recurrent on cheating, but I guest you know him, if you think that he regret, if it was his first time, if you feel that there is hope in that relationship, if you think you can forgive him. Then forgive him but only if you are sure of what I mention before. I whatever decision you take, you know that here inmylot you have friends to help in that process guide and give you advises.

Men can be pigs sometimes. I am sorry to hear about your troubles. I have been in that situation before and I know how bad it hurts. I actually had my ex's woman call me, when he started cheating on her. I wanted to throw it her face and say "see how it feels" but I didn't. I know it hurts, but if he has done it once, he will most likely continue to do it in the future.

I'm so sorry. Cry if feel like it Don't keep it all in. He is a snake and you deserve Sooo much better . and I know you will not believe me now but there is a guy out there for you . He will respect you and your feelings and truly love you. All I can say is take the time to truly mend and keep your heart open.Take Care.

Well dear I just hope when you say it's all over it really is all over. It's hard to trust a man who cheats. A cheater will not make a good husband so better just wait for someone much more worthy of your love. Le that man cry and beg but don't ever give him a second chance because when you do, expect even much more worse case of cheating to come.

You know almost boys are the same in drama effect. They do things complicated then let their woman suffer to their stupidity. Sometimes they are good to us and sometimes are not. I really hates this scenario when it happened to me long ago. I had a boyfriend and not knowing that he has other woman. So one morning a girl called me and she told that she wanted to see me. I agree with her, we talked and i found out that she is not the only woman too but we are many... lol This lady is now pregnant and the father was he. Our boyfriend. I never feel something during that day but to be a friend of that lady; She is already pregnant. And i am not so why to compete with her, its useless. Anyway on your case is different to me. stay calm as i did. That is life ,

My God, Chiyosan. I can almost feel your pain. I was in this situation years ago. Worse than yours because the guy is already my husband and we already have a child when I found out that he was cheating on me. Not that he went to bed with those women (but who knows, really?) but he kept seeing and contacting those women from his past and even lying to me about them. Also, he was dating other women he just met. He also cried and begged for another chance. What can I do? I forgave him for the sake of our daughter. But the respect, love and trust are also on the rocky edge. Until now, it is so hard for me to trust him again. Despite of being together , there are still questions lingering on my mind. Is he still seeing them or contacting them? Flirting again with someone new after he was dumped by those who found out that I found out about his flirting with them? I have no peace of mind. I can't seem to trust and love nor respect him anymore. I felt so betrayed and I hate him for making a fool of me... If we don't have a child, I will, in no doubt, leave him for good. Why? He cheated, lied, betrayed me once , he can do it again... In your case, it is all up to you really. If you can forgive him and be at peace with still being together with him, then, by all means, take him back. But if taking him back will only make you feel miserable (just like it did to me) please, spare yourself from getting hurt further. It may hurt like hell right now, but it will soon come to pass and you will forget him if you decide to forget him... It is no use to stay in a relationship where love, trust and respect couldn't exist again... Goodluck. God bless you.

If I caught my boyfriend cheating on me, I would walk away. He is not worth it at all. There are better people out that that will treat you right. Anyone who has a good person yet cheats will have the same thing happen to them over and over.

That's too hurtful! Hope you can move on even if its not easy!

I'm so sorry that it happened to you. He was not worth you. You don't deserve lies and being dishonest. You deserve for healthy relationship, someone who will love you and care about you. I wish you all the best!

One thing is for sure, you gals sure are touchy about sharing your man.

Hi chiyosan... That's really sad.. I'm so sad for you... That's really terrible... Tell me where your ex-bf is and I'll punch him in the nose for you! I'll slap him for you! I'll even kick him in the butt for you! For free. No extra charges. Cheaters really make me mad. Gets me in my boiling point. The nerve of the guy. And that woman had the guts to call your bf in front of you?? Tell me where she is and I'll slap her for you! Uubusin ko buhok nya for you... The nerve. Is this related to your discussion about women who do not mind being number 2? Have you had the suspicion before that your ex is hiding something, someone? I feel sorry for you... I know this really hurts. Breaking up really hurts. Especially if the reason is cheating. There's only thing I have to say, don't cry too much tears over a guy like him. He doesn't deserve it.

Its always hard when something like that happens. But if he treated you this way, then you will be better without him!! Its better that you know now. How long would he have kept up with the deception? Keep a smile on your face and keep telling yourself that you are better now. You will (slowly) begin to believe it. Then you will find someone else wonderful. And wonder how you ever spent your time with such a scum bag!!

Sorry for the late response, as I have been really busy lately. I feel sorry for you and reading your post just made me feel sad myself. I can't bare the thought of it if it were me. I just hope you are doing great now and wish you happiness as well. You seem to be a very nice person, you deserve to be happy. Best of luck!

oh I'm sorry for that chiyosan, anyway don't let your judgement be clouded with that girl, analyze it more careful because maybe your boyfriend is telling the truth. but I understand you, I know that's painful, double pain actually because first pain from the woman and second because you drive him away, but it's not too late, think it over and over again, and don't let that woman ruin your relationship with him, perhaps what you need to do is call him so you could iron things out. best wishes chiyosan!

Time to move on