Forgive or Revenge?

What I would like to do is just forgive the person no matter how terrible the case is because forgiveness is the key to a clean conscience. Although I can't really say this is true because I'm only human and made a lot of mistakes in my life. These mistakes, though, had led me to many realizations for the improvement of my personality.

debs90 i also prefer taking revenge but silently. I am do not believe in harming or vengeance. If someone had done something wrong to me, i don't like doing the same thing to him or harming. Because in that way i will be the same as him/her. I prefer making him or her realize what he/she had done to me, and I think NOTHING IS MORE PUNISHING THAN REPENTANCE,REPENTANCE IS THE BEST REVENGE. If someone harms me i just stay calm and tell him not to worry. I don't let him/her to laugh at me, i laugh at myself,call myself fool and whatever i want to say him i say to me in front him using the "I" and "ME" word. And if some one comes to me to say sorry i just tell him not to worry,its okay etc.I do not pardon them,but i give them a silent treatment so that they will think twice before doing the same thing to me again or to anyone others.

Most of the time, revenge can make things worse. I have a forgiving heart but of course, there are times when revenge seemed like the best option at the moment.

I do not think that there are only two options here. I also think that it depends on who the person is, what they did to you, and whether or not they are sorry for what they did. I do not think that revenge is the answer, although I can understand why a person would consider it, especially in certain circumstances. If I can't forgive and forget (or I do not want to), then I would just try to avoid this person and putting myself into a similar situation.

For me i think revenge is not a good thing for me because it will make it worst. I may forgive that person but i certainly don't forget. Example situation is this. My friend borrow money from me, she told me that she will pay it after a month. But i know that she can't pay it so without telling her, i told myself that its a help. Cause i will just spend my whole life reminding her about the money rather than enjoying my life. There is someone above who will take care of bad people. :) Sometimes we want to revenge but it will make the 2 of you BAD!

hi:) sorry but I don't believe in revenge, because I believe that if one person done wrong to you they will have bad karma, so what I do is just ignore them and live it all to God.

Hi Debs, I'm not big on revenge. I think that only succeeds in putting me on the same exact level as that person and ultimately I will feel bad about myself and still angry at the person. I prefer to work through my anger (not always easy) and forgive. By forgive..doesn't mean I have to forget and be best buds with the person. I just don't carry the anger. That's really hard sometimes, depending on the crime. An eye for an eye...I'll leave that one for the higher power to handle. When you treat people wrong, bad things will happen to you . When you treat them kindly and with compassion, bad things might still happen but you will have more good people on your side to help than the guy that does the hurting. I think that if someone hurts me, I would not really care if they think I'm weak and a coward if I don't take revenge. Their opinions would not be anything I really cared about.

It's hard to forgive a person who has done wrong to you when the wound is still fresh. In times like this, it is just normal to think of a revenge but really, I don't have a heart to do that. Since I cannot also give my forgiveness, I just keep silent and keep distance to whoever it is that wronged me.

I could forgive but not totally forget. Guess, I get long memory fro wrong. To be honest, I just could not forget. Especially those who pretend to be the best but the real fact is the worst one, I could accept any honest arrogant reply than a sweet lies. I also hate those who pretend to be honest but actually a liar and hide something real secret that ready to be expose.

do not unto others what you don't want others do unto you.. probably it is better to forgive and forget, realize and be wise, and move on. the option of revenge only creates negative thoughts, and that eventually would tend to make you feel uncomfortable and irrational.

Forget and forgive is good for you to do. Do everything good to him and his conscience tell that you're to good to be punished.

After may be knocking a few teeth from his mouth, does it make you fell better,or will it take away the hurt you feel inside? I don't think so, You should put yourself in his position and see if you like someone revenging on you. What you give is what you get,remember that. I still think forgiving gives way to healing and making you the better person. Its not a show muscle game. How would you feel if your child never ever forgave you for the rest of his life or they took revenge on you.

If you forgive someone, Its like letting out the pain you have in your heart. If you don't, the anger and frustration will eat you up and even cause you to have ulcers. I prefer to forgive then with time after healing I forget. Life is easier without carrying baggage's in your heart.

No I won't take revenge, not because I don't want to but because it's just plain wrong. Better to forgive unconditionally - they might well re-offend, but it's still better to forgive.

Revenge! Forgiveness is not fair, they need to pay for what they did. And it bugs me when I forgive knowing that just means the person is gonna get away with it.

When someone does us wrong, it is our duty to let the other person know his mistake, otherwise, he'd be thinking that everything is fine and he won't have a chance to correct his mistake. Whether or not he chooses to correct the mistake is beyond our control, it's his option not ours. Forgiving the transgressor is the right thing to do. But, forgetting is not possible. Nothing is forgotten, every event in life is stored in the brain. There are things that cannot be recalled at the moment, but it will always be there. On my part, I can forgive, do my best to be decently cordial when I see the person, try not to recall the offensive event, but I can't pretend to like him and be close to him/her. In that way, I will be able to minimize further problems.

Forgive or revenge . Tolerance is a virtue. Harmonious life is beautiful.

Doing something wrong to others can create hatred and that hatred will encourage you to get revenge to that person who hurt you. After you take your revenge to that person it will create another hatred and that person think on taking revenge on to you. Revenge can create more hatred and will result to more revenge. Better forgive that person and move on in order to have a peaceful life. Let God punish those who hurt you..

I would definitely prefer forgive because revenge will only worsen the situation and the golden rule is your enemies can also be your friend.

It depends on the situation if they do something serious i will find a way of revenge or a reslution to just stop it all right there and then. I don't think i'd fight any one the only time i've fought is in hockey other then that i don't realy like conflict so i'd probably forgive if they truley were sorry and if it was an accident.