How to deal with your bf/gf/husband/wife joining the military?
By courtknee525
@courtknee525 (3742)
United States
August 24, 2011 2:44pm CST
My boyfriend is back to talking about the military and it just makes me a little depressed that he has to do this. The main reason he's doing it is so that he'll be able to pay for school once he's out of the military.
Thinking about him leaving gets me extremely sad because he means the world to me. He'd have to go to boot camp first and then some sort of school afterwards. It would come out to a total of 5 or 6 months with him being able to come home for 2-3 weeks. Going that long without him would be extremely hard, especially since I wouldn't be able to talk to him except for letters and maybe the occasional phone call.
Then when he's done with all that, he could be stationed in another state or possibly another country. He's already told me many times that he would take me with him wherever he goes and that he's not leaving me. I've thought hard about it and I've pretty much decided that I would go with him. I can do school online or find a new one anywhere but what I can't find anywhere is the amazing boyfriend that I have now. I'm not willing to lose him and he's already told me that if he does go in the military and get stationed somewhere else, that he would take me with him. We know that we're going to be together forever so it's not like we have some meaningless little relationship. I think that if this is what he ends up doing, then I'll go with him. I'm not sure my parents would be too happy about it but honestly, it's my life and I love this guy more than anything and I'm willing to go with him wherever he goes..even if it takes me halfway around the world or just across the country.
Do any of you guys have a relationship with someone in the military? How did you handle it?
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4 responses
@trezege (66)
• South Africa
25 Aug 11
Being away from someone you love can be painful and depressing, however id you decide to follow your man then you have to prepare yourself mentally, physically and emotionally. You might find yourself going to a place where the is a complete cultural shock, will you be able to cope? Imagine going to a war zone place such as Iraq, are you going to be able to survive in a hostile condition? Will you be able to put up with anything in the name of love
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
25 Aug 11
He wouldn't be going to a war zone like that. If he does join the military he would most likely just get stationed to another state. If that's the case, then we've already decided that I would be going with him since neither one of us wants to be apart. The military is only an option and we still have to talk about what else he's able to do instead.
@Dominique25 (9464)
• United States
25 Aug 11
I fortunately don't have a relationship like this. But if I did I know that it would be absolutely hard for me to live without him. And if he were to start talking about going into the military it would diffinitely make me depressed. Whatever your boyfriend decides to do I'm sure that you will be by his side. Hopefully he doesn't have to go to another country. Either way I'm sure you will continue to want to be with him and let him know how much you care.
@courtknee525 (3742)
• United States
25 Aug 11
Yeah, I would definitely have a hard time living without him. That's why we decided that I would go with him wherever he might have to go. He hasn't made any decisions yet on what he's going to do, we still have to think about the other options that are available to him.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
25 Aug 11
For me no I don't experience it now about it so be good not to do that job because it is the number one bad effect to worship the only true God Jehovah.
@pbbbsra (1214)
• Philippines
24 Aug 11
In my husband's country, all male citizens are required to serve the military for a year and my husband was not able to serve that when he was single because he studied and worked in another country. Now that we are married and are planning to go back to his home country, we have to be apart while he serves the military. He is trying to do something to make his service shorter and I am praying we can really do something. He is required and if he won't the police can get him and force him to go to military. It will not be easy having him far, even a month will be very long, but it is a requirement. I think it is not easy if your boyfriend is planning to serve the military. It is a very promising job to be soldier, but for the loved one, it will not be easy, you will have that fear for his safety and will have to be far most of the time. But if it is something he always wanted, if you love him , you have to be strong and let him do his plans... but don't forget to tell him about your feelings too, maybe you can make him stay.
