If you dont like your in laws,does it give you the righ to disrespect them?
By biach17
@biach17 (196)
Philippines
September 2, 2011 2:30am CST
i know someone who disrespect his in laws...but before he got married to his wife he already knew the not so good attitude of the family of his wife but still he married her....
Recently he and his in laws had a situation and i think this is the worst of all...
in my opinion whatever qualities your in laws might have you should not disrespect them not because they are your in laws but because they are older than you and they have a heart too....
You can just tell what you dont like about them in a right manners and in the right time...
by the way he was drunk when it happened although drunk or not he's the same..just more freaky when alcohol is present in his bloodstream.
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15 responses
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
Yes you are right. In whatever circumstances we should never disrespect our in-laws. If only for our love and respect to our husband we ought to respect our in-laws. If we disrespect them it will surely offend our husband and it is like disrespecting him too.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
2 Feb 12
I think that even if you do not get along with your in laws that you should still respect them. There is no reason to disrespect family whether they are in laws or not. If you disrespect them, it gives them more of a reason to not like you.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
4 Sep 11
Hello biach and welcome to myLot. When you marry some one you should keep in mind that you marry the whole family believe it or not. Women are especially close to their families. This man should respect his wife's family because they are not only older but a big part of who she is. One should always be respectful of others regardless of who they are.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
9 Sep 11
no, of course not.
it would be easy to just disrespect people who are obnoxious and unlikable, or those who have all the reasons for an individual to hate. but it does not do any good. if he disrespects them, he is doing more than what their doing bad. the bad words will always go to him even if he claims he has reasons for doing so.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
29 Sep 11
I think in laws deserved respect and should not be violated by in-laws. Nobody is given the right to violate one's right and dignity. You friend should realized that he'll be soon an in law,too and if he does not respect his own in-laws, he should not also hope that his in laws will respect him ,too.
@rose1717 (190)
• United States
5 Sep 11
I think that you should respect any body, weather it is your in-law or a new person that you just met. However, I think respect also needs to be earned as well. If the in-laws do not treat you with respect after you have shown then respect then that does make a difference in my book. I will not treat others respectfully while they sit in my home at at my table treat me, my husband, or our children in a disrespectful way, I will tell them to leave. Rude? Maybe, but they wouldn't have any issue if I was treated with the same respect that I show to them.
@arlerambabu (1079)
• India
2 Sep 11
No way dear. If one doesn’t like his/ her in laws, one should be away from them. Never never one has the right to disrespect them. [b][/b]
@youless (112561)
• Guangzhou, China
2 Sep 11
I agree with you. No matter what, you shouldn't disrespect to your in-laws. As it will make a big trouble between you and your spouse one day. Since both parts mean a lot to your spouse, but when he/she has to choose one, it will give a disaster to the family. Nobody will be happy at the end.
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@sender621 (14893)
• United States
2 Sep 11
Your in laws are your spouse's family. You may not always agree with what they they do or say but they are still a part of your family too. Showing them disrespect is showing that disrespect to yourself as well. I don't think that anything gives us the right to disrespect family. @airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
A pleasant day Biach17,
With regards to your main topic discussion, it is still not proper to disrespect the in-laws though you dont like them. Since they are still the parents of the wife or the husband.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
Showing disrespect to your in-laws is not a good attitude of a spouse. Let's say you don't like them but at least you must show respect to them since they are the parents or siblings of your spouse. And marrying your spouse means that you became a part of their family too.
@kheydia (882)
• Philippines
2 Sep 11
I agree with you, you have no right to disrespect your inlaws (specially your inlaws) no matter how who they are. They're your spouse's family. Everything can be settle nicely just put an effort to do so.
@pepperpopper (376)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
It depends. In general, we should really respect people at all times but there is always an exemption to the rule. Probably the in laws has exceeded the border line. No one has the right to criticize people. This is one big problem in the society. To live with extended family is really horrible. That is one thing I'm not ready to face so I don't wanna get married yet.
@HeartROB (434)
• Philippines
3 Sep 11
You are right when you said that the one you know should talk to his or her in law in a right manner because they are still his or her in laws. On the other hand, if that in laws is really that rude then they are the one should be teach to do right manners. They are some people who don't understand even though you already talk to them properly, sad people.
@koperty3 (1876)
•
2 Sep 11
No matter how much you don't like your in laws you can't disrespect them. They are the parents of your better half and they deserved to be treated with respect and politeness. If you don't like them at least be diplomatic. War inside the family is not good for anyone.
