Long Courtship or Short Courtship Before Mariage?

I choose long engagement/courtship over short engagement/courtship. You might want to make sure that you know the other person really well before you exchange vows of love and loyalty and forever. Yes there would be times you would be bored and doubtful and just unsure if he/she really is the one for you, but it is better to be all that, now that you are only just in the "courtship" stage, as you put it.

Long relationship is good because it gives you a strong and believed person where you can lead your life together.

That's the point of a long courtship. Will you get bored? See if you get bored then you know that you don't love the other person, or they do not love you. See if you get bored, you are not in love. Love is something that doesn't die because of time, but rather gets stronger. If you marry someone without courting, and then find out you, or they, are now bored.... guess what? You are not in love, and now you are in a relationship with someone you don't love, or doesn't love you. Broken families, divorce, children without parents, legal fights, court time. Yay... good job. So long courtship. Make sure you are doing the right thing. If after you court a year, you still want to be a spouse to that other person forever, then you know it isn't a mere 'feeling' that fades after time.

I think it is very good to know your future husband or wife really well before marriage. For my husband and I, we dated for less then a year before we married. We lived together for 6 months before marriage and gotten along really well. We are still happily married today. If I could have done anything differently, it would have been to get to know his family a lot better before marriage. I love his dad and siblings, but his mother is something else. SHe can be very mean and resentful. She likes pointing out all of my flaws to me like I already don't know what they are. She just likes to make my life a lot hearder then what it is.

I believe that getting to know you part should be done before marriage, because I think that getting married is when you agree to be a team for whatever common goals both of you have in mind. So I go for long term!

hmm this is a very good question i think it depends on the people and the relationship i mean if you are both of legal age and your really in love and you truely feel in your heart this is the right person for you then why wait to tie the knot but you need to really know the other person and you need to know how to compromise and settle arguments and you need to agree on things mariage is a big deal they make it easy to get in but hard to get out of...trust me

well we were together for nine years before we got married. it's more like we had the wedding to celebrate the marriage we'd already built between us, than the wedding being the beginning of the marriage. we're definitely not bored (and if a long relationship becomes boring and habitual, then getting married earlier on won't stop that from happening)

I still prefer having a long relationship first before going into marriage. I'm in a relationship for more than 6 years now and we still discover amazing things about each other. We both know that marriage is a sacred thing so we see to it that once we get married, we will not end up with an annulment. The long relationship that we have before our marriage serve really help us to know each other deeply.

For me personally I take courting and marriage seriously. I was raised that when you are dating/courting it is not a game and should be viewed with high regard. And that when you are courting it is with the view of marriage not playing games as you mentioned. So with this viewpoint in my life I would say that a good amount of time to get to know one another is important. But I wouldn't want to have too long of a courtship because that could lead to trouble as far as desires are concerned. And I would want to start my marriage off on wonderful terms and with great times to look forward too.

For me, courtship is the "Getting-to-know-each other phase" During courtship, both individuals try to discover the personality of the other,the guy try to impress the girl and give her an idea of what kind of man he is. During this phase, the girl can learn if the guy is serious or not. Being girlfriends/boyfriends is a step forward. In this phase, they are exclusively dating and can be planning their future already. They get to know each other deeper and eventually will decide if they will take another step forward for engagement and then marriage. My husband's courtship lasted 3 months, hihi. I was so scared to lose him any further and told I love him when he revealed to me how he feels. We we're in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship for a year and then got married. after a year and 2 months. It was a long engagement for me, but there was never a day that we got bored or things got routinely. I think that it depends on relationship, it depends on commitment. We are married now for 3 years, but we are still like the first day we ever fell in love with each other.

Marriage for me is very sanctified. Its not just a food that if you don't like you will just spit it out. Its not really a game also where there is a winner and a loser. For me much better to have a long term relationship, because its better to know your partner very well. And yes Divorce in a short term relationship is very prone. As what you have stated earlier.

hmm.. how long would short courtship means??days-month..how about long courtship? months-years? for me.. in the courtship stage..this is the time to know each other better..your attitudes,likes,dislikes etc.. and from that it takes time to do that depending on how often you are dating.. are you dating everyday?twice a week? once a week?so it depends.. as long as you know each other better and you find your self comfortable then you can settle things out..