Failure - never meant Give Up... It always meant - Retry and Fight Back

Great words from a great person. I know I have failed at many things and will fail a lot more. I don't think I will give up my life just for one failure. I cannot imagine what would drive a person to take his/her own life!! It scares me that a person would value himself too little that he thinks it would be better to die!!!

Hello thesids, I never saw a failure as a motive to give up. Retry and fight back? Not always. There were cases when the failure taught me that I failed because I wanted to push my luck over my powers. So instead of retry and fight back I chose to try another way. There is always another way of doing things and whenever I failed at the first try, I chose 'another way'. I don't like to fail so, another attempt using the same weapons should be out of the question. If I failed once using a particular method, there is a high chance to fail again using the same method. So better choose another method.

dear sids This space in mylot is not enough to write everything that I want to share with you. I've been through the most downfall moment in my life but giving up life never came into my mind. No- it's not because I have my kids with me who gives me reason to live (many parents still give up life aint?) It is my faith and belief that always gives me light and direction. My GOD who never fails to pick me each time that I fall down and I can't stand on my own. kindly read this one..I just created this recently not a referral link http://authspot.com/poetry/my-hope-my-dream/ have a good day dear brother jaiho®

Honestly sweetie, i don't handle failure very well. I will always keep ontrying even if it freaking kills me.

[b]Hithesids ,it is after a long time we are meeting here on this pkatform..glad to go through your discussion and I feel failure is not end of everything, and it is all easy saying but the person who fils in their attempts only knows the pains. My thoughts say that failure really gives us pain but we cannot avoid that - instead shoulod go deep into the problem and search for some solution,I personally feel that there will be a hidden solution in every problem - it may take some time but we should not leave... I always remember a saying which was tught in the early school days.\ Try Try until you succeed.....[/b]

Hi thesids, yes most of the success stories were once a failure, but they could attain success because they considered failure as a learning experience and correcting their mistakes time and again. That made them to reach to top. If we are not performing well in one particular area of life, we get upset and frustrated too, but that does not mean we continue without putting a little more efforts, we have to develop new skills that are required to make our performance better. I always think positive towards life. I don't think so I am perfect in all aspects of life but i try to bring perfection so that the set goals are achieved. I mean to say i consider myself pretty successful being a wife, being a mother, be a colleague, be an assistant, be a boss, be a friend.... whatever role i play personally or professionally i make sure to give my 100% and always look forward for growth. Also i say to myself, no body is perfect in this world.... so trying to be motivated and act like a self-starter....nice topic.

Hi thesids, You are right, failure should make us even more determined to continue. It is said that when Thomas Edison was working on the electric light bulb, he had more than one thousand failures. One of his employees is quoted as having told him that they were no further ahead than when they started, to which Mr. Edison cheerfully replied, "oh yes, we now know one thousand things that won't work". Blessings.

Hi theSids, I think how a person handle their failure depend on how and in what kind of environment they were brought up. If someone never encounter failure before, they probably think that a failure for them is a big issue and they will immediately give up hope on it. Whereas for people who always try and have failed many times will treat a failure like nothing but yet they will work harder to achieve what they want. There are proverb translated from Chinese saying that Failure is the mother of success. Mean only through failure, you will be success in something. Without any failure one will not grow and never learn. So, just treat failure as an experience and a pathway to success. Have a nice day!

For me failures are things that others expected of me and i wasn't able to live up to it. I have this very bad habit of always trying to please the people around me. I don't really have a goal of my own. My parents' wish is my goal and as long as i'm unable to achieve it, then i always consider myself a failure. However, i never looked at it negatively. For the time being i was able to experience the frustration and didn't want to try again. It's just a phase i have to go through to be strong again.

I have had some big personal failures in my life. I have even thought of ending my life once because of it. But thanks to my husband and daughter, who made me realize i still have them to live for. I now can just smile whenever i see myself now. I cannot remember anymore how i was really able to cope up with them. But all i know, is my determination to become what i am again today, and to be able to rise up and be happy again. God was my guide as i rise up again.

wow! great discussion and your discussion will be highest remarks from my side..failure never means leave the hope but always ready to fight the problems.. No failure means we can get more numbers in next time or will get more experience in next time and this will be the big lesson for the person.. do you know about this hindi pharse "Koshish karne walo ki kabhi har nhi hoti".

Everyone on earth has or at one time will face a failure. Its so discouraging to fail in something you have put your mind on, but that should not be a stumble block to your success, just think positive and view it as abridge for your success.

I think that there is not failure,I think the life is a learning process and one of its subjects is failure learning where we learn that failing give us more skills for the future challenges in the life. I don't think there is triumph without failure. Thomas Alba Edison said "I have not failed.I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work" And I totally agre with that. Yes sometimes I have failed but I look at this like an experience that make me be in a better position in front of those that haven't face all my failures.

i agree on what you have said that failure is just a step to success.. in my opinion on why do some people give up is the fact that they are very negative or they dont have someone that can help us go through with it..

Hi Bhai. As a former Perfectionist , my motto was At first I don't succeed, quit. I Had to see a way , in time, that I could do something perfectly or I wouldn't do it. As a teen I thought that by age 16 you were suppose to know what you wanted to do in life so you could apply for college. Well I never thought I could handle college so I saw myself as a failure, a big failure. So I planned to die instead. My plan was to not apply for anything , graduate highschool , because my mom wanted me to, and then kill myself. The Only reason I didn't was because my mom convinced me she wanted me alive . I Still thought of myself as a failure but I lived. In fact I didn't change my mind until a few years ago.My dear friend showed me I Do have worth. And at work I was praised as the best. I still will not try anything I Know I can't do but I am not a perfectionist.

I always view failure as a wake up call for people to pull up their socks to try harder where they failed. Nothing is impossible and everything is achievable if only they put a little effort in what they have failed in life. I did not glide smoothly in life. The many hard knocks in life have taught me one thing - patience. I did not allow anything to be an obstacle but see everything as a stepping stone to victory.

As a perfectionist, I find failure difficult to deal with. I always saw that doing 'good' and 'right' was praised and I thought that was what was required. So, yes, I can feel a lot of devastation when I do, but also along the way with inevitable 'failing'.. I'm picking up that there is life after failure, sometimes with new knowledge too. But the habit and fear of it is hard to break sometimes still.

I view each failure as a chance to earn something new about myself. An opportunity to fine tune a process until it is actually successful. Granted there might need to be some times where I need to step back for a little bit. To really evaluate each and every problem and what went wrong. I think in many ways, a failure is not a failure but rather something that I have yet to succeed with. I just need to find the right angle to approach it for. Granted, there are going to be a lot of times where it is going to take a lot of time to find that right angle. But it does require a lot of patience to say the very least. There are times where it is the easiest thing to give up. Just got to keep trucking on, going back to the drawing board time and time again. Hopefully some kind of success will be reached. Failure is an opportunity to fine tune my plans. That is what it comes down to.

Hi thesids! I have failed at a great many things in life and am guilty of wanting to do away on several occasions. I have often believed that failures are stepping stones to greatness in life. Life has been so difficult that it is not easy to be as positive as I once was before. I continue to believe that there must be a purpose for the failures in my life, though not easy I must remember the children and how they would feel if I was to do such an act. Life itself has made it difficult for me to have any types of goals and or to strive for them lately. So to answer your question, for me not very sure anymore and simply living one day at a time, hoping I can look back someday and all the failures can be put aside as learning experiences in my life.

I am glad that you come here again.Judging by what you said,You are certainly a person of strong character.I fall in with your view,even though I have been retired and there is no need for me to take failure and success into account.Everybody perhaps knows that failure is the mother of success,but many give up halfway,because they want of indomitable will.