Do you ever find it difficult to forgive someone?

You do not have to worry. They did not say that they were sorry and obviously did not care when you pointed out what they did and in effect they did not care. In order for a person to forgive the one who did wrong has to admit that they are sorry. I have had this ;problem in that some did wrong to me and hurt me but never came out and said they were sorry nor wrote me a lettter. And it still hurts.

I'm sure there'd be a lot of people in here to tell you to forgive them, or to forget about them, or to just move on with your life. I wish I could also do the same. Instead, I'd tell you to hold on to those anger and use them as motivation in your life. So you'd not go through another experience like these two people have done to you.

Yes, I have had this problem. I think when people hurt you or someone you care about deeply, it's hard to forgive them. I know there have been times when I have forgiven people only through the power of God working in me. In myself I could not have done it. Remembering something may not be the same as not forgiving it, but when we've truly forgiven, we remember in a different way. Compassion begins to surface and we look upon the people with the love of Christ, who even forgave those who were crucifying Him. "To err is human, to forgive is divine." That forgiveness comes through knowing the love and mercy of God reaching us. However, Jesus warned us that if we don't forgive, we will not be forgiven. He is able and willing, though, to help us forgive.

Just because you have forgiven them doesn't mean that the anger and pain is gone. Avoiding them and situations that make you think of them keeps you from feeling the anger is the best you can do. I avoid my brother and then there was one person who really hurt me in school. I do my best to not think of him or my brother, just do your best to avoid these people.

I have had a situation where I couldn't talk to the person who hurt me. So I found a place where I could be alone and I said what I wanted to say to this person. How they had hurt me, how I felt, what I needed, etc. Then I said that I was leaving here not hurting anymore and this did help.

The same to do very forgiving person everybody makes mistakes and forgiveness increase your potential and define you more about various situation. Try to get relax and be a forgiver

i try my best to be a forgiving person as i find that being an unforgiving person is much harder... it leds to hatred and bitterness and make my life vert unhappy... when i learn to forgive and let go, i find that my life is much happier and am able to enjoy myself more... also, if i don't offer forgiveness to people who had hurt me, then God will judge me the same way i judge other people as well... and i don't want that to happen to me... take care and have a nice day...

If someone hurt me but not on purpose, I will forgive them, for I know that everyone may make a mistake some time. If I do not forgive them, things will not become better. But if I find that some one hurt me on purpose, I will try to fight back, if I can not make it now, I will wait for a time. I think I am not a forgiving person, but I am not the person like to hurt others.

I will admit now that I do find it difficult to forgive somebody if they've hurt me badly. I always find that I keep coming back to things weeks and months down the line when we fall out again, and that makes things even worse because I'd said to them that I had forgiven them for the things that they'd done to me previously. I think that it's important to talk things through with people properly, because it's a lot easier for you to put things behind you if you are able to do this and get all of the issues sorted between the two of you while they're still fresh in your minds.

Yes I find difficult to forgive my selfish friend she is spend full 15 days with me in my house day and night and I teached her and when she got more marks than me she called me told me our friendship was only for study purpose.. till I cant forget her and those words also...

You can go through the motions of forgiveness. You can say the words, "I forgive you." But, in order to truly forgive, you have to actually change the way you feel about the issue. If you don't, the angry feelings will remain with you forever. If you are trying to forgive someone but you are not sincere, let God take care of it. He understands what you are feeling. If He wants you to forgive, He will bring you around.

Hello zionsphere, It depends on the situation and the person.Normally i forgive people easily for their deeds but sometimes when the things are severe and effects me badly it becomes difficult for me to forgive that person and it happened in the past that i did not forgive a person for his doings. But then i feel its life and it happens in life we should forget things and go ahead in life for enjoy it more.

Some years ago, my best friends did spill out my secrets to my greatest enemy. It was hard for me to forgive him but he convinced me about the whole issue and sincerely apologized, I had no option but to say I have forgiven him but in my mind I have never let it go. We are still light friends but I can't trust him anymore. Its hard t forgive and forget.

Well zionsphere.I forgive but I don't forget. I won't be the same person to you after the fight or anything you did that really push me to anger. That is all.

Not really, because I believe (1) It is not going to change what has happened if I keep a grudge (2) There are other better things to think of (3) God will give an appropriate punishment

It actually depends. If the person killed someone I love, I can't imagine forgiving that person at all but if it's something simple, I think I can forgive the person.

There are people who are trully insensitive that when they hurt someone they think it is just normal. We could not do anything about this, maybe this is how they were brought up or they are so used to it that they dont care about the other's feelings. I think what is more important is we tell them that we they did to us is not good and they should not do it again even with other people. It takes a lot of understanding to be able to forgive someone who has done wrong to us. There are people who has hurt us seriously and we think that it would be very hard to forget and forgive. But we have to move on, so in moving on we have to forget what happened to us caused by that person. We also have to forgive him so that in our journey onwards we don't have a burden that could me our travel heavy. God punishes the oppressors and we just have to trust Him.

Yes I find difficult to forgive my selfish friend she is spend full 15 days with me in my house day and night and I teached her and when she got more marks than me she called me told me our friendship was only for study purpose.. till I cant forget her and those words also...

My problem is not the same as your situation but a bit similar. During the early part of the decade, my boss did not treat me well because she wanted me to transfer to another branch. By the way I am in the government service so my boss could not just terminate me as we are just the same, employees of a branch of our government. I did not transfer although she treated me so bad and even tell me on my face that she did not like me. If I'll transfer I would be dislocated because it would be a new appointment on my part. She also told me that our blood are not in the same level and can not be mixed. I don't know if this is the right translation from our dialect. She did whatever humiliation she thought of. I was so afraid at that time and full of stress. Because I am the breadwinner of the family, I have to endure all those just to keep my work. I surrendered everything to God. However, I also sinned because I was angry with her and I have been hating her since then. Then in the middle of this decade, she changed. She already trusted me because despite everything she did to me I still do my work diligently. During christmas seasons she asked forgiveness from all of us rank and file employees under her but you know what it seems that I didn't feel her sincerity. Maybe because I am still blinded with my hatred towards her. You know what, I still treated her as my boss with sincerity I even thought that I had already forgiven her but I can't forget what she did to me. In our daily encounter at the office, I feel no hatred but when I am on vacation or whenever I was absent due to sickness and I'm alone, my hatred comes into my mind. Oh I hope God will help me for this.

Hello zionsphere, I try to stay away from people who hurt me there is just certain things that people do that makes you angry with them and not able to forgive because when they are around you, you think of what they have done even though they apologized and you cannot just get it off your mind.