i feel insulted

Someone insulting you for the way you use English is against the guidelines and is worth reporting. I used to teach English in California, and when I see people struggling to express themselves in English here, I applaud them for being brave enough to write in a second language. I would really struggle if I were on a site where I had to try to write in German which I haven't studied for over 40 years and have had very little practice speaking. Back then I could write it enough to correspond with a pen pal, but it would have been very hard to write on a forum like this. You are to be congratulated for doing your best to communicate with others in this way, and I think you are doing very well.

Yes, flowerfest, i agree with bagarad. It's worth reporting , if someone has insulted you for your English. Just keep on writing and express yourself clearly and you will be fine. But what happened to me was an opinion contrary to his, so he got irked and insulted me.

I know that there are people like that, but i never expected that i would encounter one like that here at Mylot. Although, i have already encountered one before, but it's just an insisting way of his opinions. But this one have the nerve to insult me outright! Thank you dear, for hearing my pain.

You are welcome. I just hope that you move on and just forget about it. This type of people really doesn't deserve attention at all.

You're right Bing, sometimes we misunderstood what the poster is trying to say and instead of asking for clarification we just turn defensive and shut off the line of communication. @simply, nice for taking the courage for asking the person straight instead of sulking and be silent about it while secretly keeping a grudge with the person concerned.

You have your points guys. Like i said , i mulled over it before finally taking the courage to tell the poster. But i guess, he felt ashamed too because of that, since he never responded again. I just hope i made people realize that it's not bad to express what we feel towards what was said .

Ybong and Binggaling, i was thinking of really doing that, but i would like to give him the chance to explain why he has to do that. So, i told him i was insulted. I am giving him his chance to explain his side on why he has to say those things. I feel a bit alright now, with all your responses. Thanks guys, i really appreciate your comments on this.

Actually, he understood my comment. It's just that, my opinion was contrary to his opinion. That, he cannot take, and insulted me. But guys, i appreciate that i am able to express it here and i am glad you guys commented on this.

So true..I know when translating one language to another it is very hard sometimes to find words with the exact meaning. I hate to see hurt feelings when it's just a misunderstanding

SIMPLYD Then there is no excuse for his rudeness, .. you sound like a sweet sensitive person and deserve respect whether someone agrees with you or not. Your opinion is just as important as anyones and don't forget that

Nezavisima, i am used to forgetting some not nice things, but i guess this one pained me a lot, because like you said there were others who may read it. In fact, one of the mylotters, defended me in some way, for his being rude like that.

Satryl, You know, when i read his comment, i felt bad and angry and then sad. It was a mixture of emotion. It took me several times of reading it and finally took the courage of telling him that i was insulted. But still, until now, he hasn't answered , hence i am still hurting from it. Thanks my friend, for commenting, makes me feel a bit fine now.

I aso thnk it's a good idea to tell the person you feel offended. If it was done unintentionally it can be explained. Then everyine will feel better and the person who made the insult will be more careful next time..

How i wish i could just ignore it. I tried to , but then i have to let him know, how i felt reading his comment. At least if i misunderstand that insult then he can explain. I wish he shares your being respectful.

I was having second thoughts of answering back, but i think i want him to know that he insulted me , so i commented back. Well, until now, he hasn't commented back. But my friend, i appreciate your comment about this. It makes me a lot better that there are lots of good ones here.

That's right jazel. They are people who are "boxed", with their own opinions .

That's right chiwasaki. We are here to give our opinions to discussions that are of interests to us, so we should respect each other's opinion. Using of sarcastic and foul words is rude. I feel fine now, after seeing all your comforting responses.

That's what i actually learn from one of your post surekha. So it told him that i feel insulted and that his friend too. The friend was also making fun of my use of one English word. But at least i gave him a chance to clarify if he is really insulting me .

I too, surekha, have come to love Mylotters that i always correspond to , here at Mylot. One of them is you.

ohhh thanks friend but I know you will laugh and will forgetting all sadness when read my yesterday discussion on toilet...I love to all mylotter like my family members so I cannot insulting to anyone..

I agree with you wheng. Thanks for understanding my feelings.

Hey wheng, have you seen that one ? I may not have the same opinion as him, but he doesn't have to insult me. Anyway, i have already noted of that Mylotter.

Yeah, I've read it already. I feel that he's an arrogant man, he's not a sport person who weigh things over before acting

I totally agree with all you said my friend. Just reading all your responses have already taken away the hurt i felt with that insult! I really liked what you said in your 2nd paragraph. Thanks my friend.

Actually, i didn't expect that he would react that way, because this site is free for people to comment as long as it doesn't violate the guideline. I have noted him already so as to avoid his discussions.

That's correct. I thought he was soliciting for opinions of others contrary or not , so i was shocked that he was like that. I wish he would reply to my comment. I will wait.

That's very nice of you to say such comforting and true words, sky! Yes, i realize after reading all the responses, he is just one in comparison to you my friends , who knows how to respect opinions. I am really glad i brought this up at Mylot, because as of now i am not hurting anymore. And like you said, i would just not wait for any response anymore and simply move on. Thanks my friend!

Well, i didn't even think that because they are whites, they would insult me like that. It's time that somebody from our race should stand up against such kind of people , if it's the case. BUt seeing a lot of responses at this discussion, i feel so happy now. Thanks my friend !

Oh, thank you!

That's true bounce. That's why, i am not bothered anymore by that. I have other nice friends here at Mylot anyway, including you.

It is very good, friend.. forget it, and let's enjoy with nice discussions with other friends here. Don't waste your energy for something bad. Best,

Yes, i might as well forget it and charge it to experience. Watch out for yourself ,for people like that, my friend. Thanks my friend.

Similarly, when I faced such a situations, even I got little worried and I decided that I never have any discussion from the user in future. I usually call everyone "Hi dear," and this was my way of talking whenever I start with a discussion in myLot. But she didn't like it and asked me not to call her 'dear'. She said her husband only has the right to call her in such a way. In fact I got irritated and I felt everyone dear for me and I found any foul play in using that word, dear. May be the cultural difference or whatever, I stopped all conversation with her, and she even come with a lot of topics, but I never feel like talk to her. If our mind is clean and uptodate, nothing to worry, still when people have such a perception on us, we may get downsized. Henceforth, I felt bad on keeping any salutation while I am writing and I think this the way some good manners and practices are getting misinterpreted and the value is getting diminished. So what, I stopped one of my good habit and the goodness slowly wipes out from the general culture. Thank-s

That's true my friend. Sometimes, there are people who just would like to hear opinions similar to theirs. Contradictions will be met with hurting words or insult as what happened to me. Well, i guess we learn our lesson that way and note that person, so we will not ever respond to any of his discussion anymore. Thanks my friend!

So you had a similar experience as mine already. I guess, it's but natural that some people misinterpret some of our goodwill or good manners such as calling them that. I don't really find it offending if someone calls me dear. Actually, here in our place , i would always call someone i don't know as "dear" or "darling". But not, if the guy is with his girlfriend though. I think, that's the best way to do, avoid the user we had a not nice experience. Let's just charge it to experience.

I didn't report it, but instead let the starter of the discussion know about how i felt. At least i am giving him the chance to clarify whether he really meant it as an insult or was just making fun of me. But i guess, i don't have to wait for his response, but simply forget about it. He is just one compared to my lots of friends here.

That , i just did last Monday and today. Thanks my friend.

That's another way of dealing with it and you have to do what suits you. At least it gave way to a topic with many supportive responses.