what do you usually do to overcome loneliness of missing someone?

The more I think about the times I spent with persons that I love (family or friend) the more I miss them. This happens whenever I see things that remind me of them. Sometimes, I just hear favorite songs and I feel lonely already. My way of dealing with this is by reminding myself that I'm older, wiser and better now. But yeah, sometimes, reminiscing about the past is inevitable.

why must you overcome it? Sometimes we need this loneliness in memorize somebody we really love,it doesn't matter if you fall into such feelings for a moment or one night.For me,I enjoy missing my friends,my classmates who I can not get in touch now,it can keep my mind balanced. For your love of your father,you'd better take an appropriate stock of what kind of attitude you should take.see,you can treat his existence as a gift from god,a gift that has its expiration date,and an end of life doesnot mean very bad thing... If your missing of your father doesn't lead to depression,it's okay.for he deserves your missing.

Hello my friend, Actually your discussion is totally relates in my situation because I working here in abroad which very far to my family. I usually my routine here is villa where I reside and office where I work from morning till early evening. But loniness still there when I'm alone in my room, so I prepared to watch TV shows from Philippes, sometimes movies and some of my friends coming to my place for gathering. I always trying not to have a lonely moments so that I can survive here or else homesick is one big enemy here.

Communicating with your former friends could take away the loneliness. Through it you will be updated of how they are and they , of how are you. Meanwhile, cultivate friendship in your new place. It's good to have good memories, but if it makes you lonely then perhaps you could divert yourself to other activities. Being busy, you will not have idle times to think about them and the old times.

You must get on with your own life, this is not to say you will forget your father but remember how good he was and be thankful you had him for so long to guide you along the right path. You must put the lonely thoughts to the back of your mind, it will happen slowly at first.

We can never turn back time as they used to be.. everything in this world changes.. it's complicated..i think the best way to do is to treasure every good memories you have in the past and share them with your family now..let them experience the good things that you enjoy in your past.. time never stops running.. someday you children will grow up and have their own lives.. so enjoy your life with them and make each day memorable..

i'd start daydreaming. as if those events are happening in front of me, i would watch the children of today who are playing in front of our building. and imagine that one of them is me. playing.

good old memories are kept in our minds and heart. probably you have old pictures of family and friends when you were younger, and i bet that would put a smile on your face or even laugh at the old silly you! lol! it's nice to reminisce about the past, but there is no reason to be feel lonely about that. have a nice day!

hi:) just remember that your father is always with you even you can't see him anymore he's there to guide you and make you still safe, that's what I believe when someone passed away. so you better be happy so that he won't see you sad. me when I missed my friend I call them or look at their photos and reminisce our happy moments:D

Hi churchill1980, life's all about keeping moving on, isn't it? you're living a happy life which will be admired by lot of people in this world; you have a happy family, cute kids, permanent job, of course, these things can't be compared to your beloved father, but I think he must want to see a happy daughter on the other side. You should try to make new friends even it's not easy for you at the moment, but you got to take this step, and you'll find a brand new world. Missing someone we used to love is tough, especially someone we can't see any more, you need more distractions which will cost your time on something else. Gradually, you're gonna get to the new page in your life. GOOD LUCK

whenever am alone, i often miss my childhood days with all my frens roaming around, involving in gang fights etc. i take out all my old snaps, slam books, all greetings and gifts etc.. and think about those days... and i start to miss my close fren, on whom i had a crush once.. to overcome those feelings, i call my old pals and talk with them, meet them up.. and have a day's outing with them...

What I do is I pray to God when I experience these things. I tell Him to take care of my family and everyone that I love. I ask Him for help and guidance so that I can move on in my life. I also experienced this when I went to the province for a couple of months.

Dear churchill, after reading your discussion, I can't stop missing my childhood. You had a wonderful childhood, so did I. But now I feel a little sad . I have lost contact with a lot of my old friends, not the technological problem but in spiritual. When I went into high school, many of my old friends left school and began to work. After I finished my university, I found that the commons between us got less and less, I even didn't know how to start a topic or a conversation with them. The things they know I don't know, and the things I know they have no ideas. DO you have this kind of feeling?

hi churchill, how are now? still feeling lonely? I admit I can't tell that I had move on for sure... Usually I still misses my old memories, my school, my place where I grow up, my friends that I had met, my precious moments in life. All these memories keep reminds me wherever I go. Sometimes I dreamed if I wish I could turn back time and live again with that memories. Only in fairy tales it is possible to happens. I know the fact that one of the reasons I can't move on because I won't let go of the past. But you know what, missing your past is not bad at all. It just need some adjustments to consider when you are ready to moved on. You deserved to have that memories which are blessings in your life and be treasures it. So If you are in a new environment, you may meet new people, new friends, new life and new memories. Later on you won't be lonely anymore because there always someone to coup you up. You will then busy with your future life and may easily forget about the past. I know the memories are still there but it will adds new experiences and remain to be part of your life forever as a precious treasure that no one can buy with money.

I think that loneliness is a normal part if life. You are bound to feel this way from time to time. You will miss your loved ones when they pass away. One very important thing to keep in mind is that everyone is going to pass away. We all will eventually. It is helpful to remember what the joys were of their lives. I try to celebrate the life of the person. Not the passing away.. Its also normal to feel nostolgia for a place that you were happy and comfortable. But one thing to try to do is celebrate the life and things that you have enjoyed. And then celebrate the life you have now!! Its hard sometimes to make changes because its easier to do what we know. But the sooner you settle into where you are now, the sooner you can begin to enjoy all the great things that you have now.

You're not alone who felt that way. We don't have any choice..as I always said life is a constant change. Even me missed all those things that I enjoy before with all my friends and including someone whom I admire most before. We are now on the other side of the world, I mean living with different people and different lifestyles so we should enjoy with the big changes we have.

hi, i think it will take a long time process to overcome the loneliness we feel,sometimes we choose to be alone and cry to release all loneliness we had,and after that we are ready to endure it when we go outside and be with to our friends and family/relative.

Your father is now in sleep. The time to be with him is in sleep; go to bed remembering your good times with him and the rest of your family, and be with him & the family in your sleep.

Oh, these situations really hurt. Luckily, yes I found some ways of distracting me from remembering someone I terribly miss. You will laugh at this, but what I do is, I try to computer the amount of money people owe me, and I try to remember how much I have to collect. I try to remember the people I am annoyed at. With that, I cannot even have the time to miss someone. You should try it. It really works....

I use to take a little trip, or not so little, depending on the seriousness of the event. The last time I had a boyfriend whom I loved so much and I broke up with, I spent one week in Berlin. It was an inexpensive trip since I visited some old friends. When it is a not so important event I just go to a neighbour city, a lake, or the nearest beach. Try it, it is really helpful.