Friendship VS Love

India
September 19, 2011 8:16am CST
hi friends, can friends turn lovers or the viceversa. To think friends should be friends and once married or after proposing your love to the person whom you love then that lovers can be friends for life time. Friendship is one of the best relationship in this awesome world and should be alive at any time. What do you think friends? any suggestions.
13 responses
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
friendship into lovers could happen to everyone. it is very possible that two persons who found friendship with each other could fall in love, although, what they are putting here is their friendship at stake because if the relationship will fail, it may also mean the end of everything. i remember an office mate before who became my close friend, a really good friendship, but it turned out that he felt something for me. he courted me and was very insistent with it. although he might be a good partner and eventually a husband but i am too afraid to lose him and our frienship, so i turned him down so many times. he's still single right now, dated many girls and we are still friends. he's still vocal with his feelings towards me, but he knows his limitations, because he wished nothing but for the success of my family, i also wish the same for him.
• India
21 Sep 11
hi friend, just send me what type of doubts you have and let me clarify it here. It is as simple as that. No worry about the money or cheating. Everything is real and you need not worry about anything. Just go ahead and start discussion by selecting the topic you like.
21 Sep 11
awww..
• India
19 Sep 11
Ya friendship can been turn to lovers as both have the feeling then only but i think after lover turning to friends may be possible but a bit difficult also in r\friendship there is no limitations but after been lover there might be some limitations and rule in some case, but love is a wonderful feeling and friendship is till end so after marriage and been lover both much be in friends relation so what you are in relation then too the relationship became wonderful and your whole life go smoothly
• India
19 Sep 11
ya you are right.. after marriage both of them should be friends to lead the life peacefully.
@yskaps (233)
• India
20 Sep 11
u r right.. if you are friends only you can lead a successful life.. friend can be turned to love it is easy.. but a lover can't be treated as a friend it'll so difficult
@wevigene (12)
• South Korea
20 Sep 11
Hi thanks for sharing your discussion "FRIENDSHIP VS LOVE" for me it should be vise versa. Its nice to marry the person that once your friend because you have known him before you married and that it's not that hard to adjust once you live together. Most important is when you're married already you should be friends even best friends because that's a very important role on marriage to be the best friend on your partner. But sometimes when marriage doesn't work it's hard to be friends with your ex if you had bad terms on your breakup.
• India
20 Sep 11
Hi friend, my point is there shouldn't be any breakup or disappointments after marriage. Love should increase rather decrease. Love should be love at any point of time either it is before or after marriage.
• Philippines
20 Sep 11
its so nice that before you become lovers you are friends because in this case you have the chance to know each other very well . .and after marriage the friendship being build should be continue to have a good and peaceful marriage life . . Good luck and God bless
• India
20 Sep 11
thank you for wishes friends!!! nice to hear good words and sure we'll be in love for lifetime.. god bless all of us..
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
19 Sep 11
Well my best friend became my lover and husband. The marriage was a disaster. I found out that I am not the best friend of my best friend, he was just existing in my head/mind. So after the broken marriage I also lost my best friend. Still I think it's not strange if best friends become lovers, get married. Since they took all the time to know eachother and are close already.
• India
19 Sep 11
sorry to hear such a disaster.. the friendship should continue even after the marriage, infact it should be more. we should forgive and respect eachothers willingness. Then there would be no problem in love marriage.
• Malta
22 Sep 11
The way i see it, there cannot be Love without friendship beforehand, because true friendship teaches a person to care for another without wanting anything back. So as it happens friendship is also a form of love. Love with a capital L should be a higher step than friendship. Leaving someone can never be a simple task hence one should always think before acting, should i remain friends or if i truly love that other, can i profess that Love.
• India
22 Sep 11
you are right friend, but you are in love and how would you know that she's also in love with you. she might have thought you as a friend and by telling your love if you lose your friendship, so think deeply and go ahead. go ahead and tell your love. make sure there should not be any harm to your friendship.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
19 Sep 11
Love is born from friendship. Love at first sight can be very misleading. The eyes get attracted when he sees beauty and is misinterpreted as love. When they discover nothing in common, love soon fade. While those who started as friends will take time for love to grow, they find compatibility and common interest in each other. Once they get married, they are not only soulmates but become friends for life as they share everything together and could understand each other well.
• India
19 Sep 11
ya ofcourse, i don't believe in love at first slight. Love which should be there for lifetime and it should come only by deep understanding eachother.
@GemmaR (8517)
19 Sep 11
I think that it is a fairly common thing for friends to turn into lovers, simply because of the fact that they are so close and probably had been for some time during their lives. Although lovers might say that they wish to remain friends after they break up their relationship, it seems unlikely that this would be able to happen seeing as one of the couple are usually still in love with the other one. If both of the couple have the same opinions though, then it might be possible, but it is only possible if both of them want the same things from their friendships.
@mamasaid (156)
• United States
4 Oct 11
I am convinced the best love relationships start as friends. My husband was a long term friend before we became romantic. We're still best friends and in love almost two decades later. My first marriage was based solely on love, not friendship, and it did not last.
• United States
19 Sep 11
i think this is possible i think it is more likely for friends to turn into lovers than for lovers to go from being lovers to being friends because once that bridge is burned it is just awkward trying to be friends especially if one person still has feelings for the other and i think it would be difficult to be friends with someone that you want as a lover and it is hard not to let your romantic feelings get in the way of your friendship i think friendship is one of the best things but it is very hard to find a good true friend now a days
@eseulhan (199)
• Philippines
19 Sep 11
It would be nice for me if you both started as friends then turn into lovers. If you start as friends its really easy for u to be comfortable with each other. You can already know each others strenghts and weaknesses. But many people are afraid to risk their friendship for love, coz they believe once broken friendship is also gone. I say, if you feel its love then its worth risking and fighting for!
• India
19 Sep 11
But what about the friendship? do you say that all friendship should lead to love and there will be no value for friendship then.. better to stay clam no to say friendship and turn into love, just follow a blank relationship..
@yskaps (233)
• India
19 Sep 11
Friendship is a quiet walk in the park with the one you trust Love is when you feel like you are the only two around.................. Friendship is when they gaze into your eyes and you know they care Love is when they gaze into your eyes and it warms your heart.............. Friendship is being close even when you are far apart Love is when you can still feel their hand on your heart when they are not near .....
• India
20 Sep 11
If friends turn lovers then the friendship will only intensify.