I feel lonely. I am still single at 45.People suggest marriage.But...

dont hurry marriage. your love will come to you at a time that you least expect it and when it is there then grab the opportunity and dont let go. as of now, i am feeling like what you are feeling but since our fellow mylotters are gve me advices like the one i gave you, i suggest you must first make sure that you are ready financially before marrying.

i wont suggest u anything because u very well know what to do to the situation u are in at present.Hope you get what u wish for ,your wish is that your sister gets married ,see anything can be first either u or she,sometimes if one happens automatically the other happens .So its already late now,i can understand when some one tell us in this situation we dont even like it,however we try to take it easy and get used to some things we dont even like to.Hope u and ur sister get settled as early as possible and if ur wish is to get married hope it fulfills with bringing happiness in ur life solving all the problems.

I am 57 and single. I was married for 19 years and believe me, being single is much better! Marriage is hard work and even if you give your all to it, it can fail while you will never fail yourself. Being single means you can do as you please, don't have to cater to someone else and don't have to jump through hoops to please them. You should embrace your single lifestyle and be grateful for it.

If you fail in that girl, then it doesn't mean you will, on others. So just keep on looking for an eternal partner in life. Besides, not because you are single , you would feel lonely already. Fight that feeling, you should be happy because you are given a life to live. Make it worthwhile. Enjoy watching Tv shows you like, eat foods you like to eat, buy clothes you like to buy. Most of all, i think you have to make friend with God. Because when you do, you won't feel lonely , my friend.

Hi Preethaanju, You are best to stay single than to marry for the wrong reason. Marrying for financial reasons or for loneliness are the wrong reasons, in my opinion. You can be worse off financially with someone than if you are by yourself. I feel like I can do bad all by myself rather than someone else helping me to do badly. Having a person in your life should enrich your life, not take away from you... I'm not talking about being rich in money... I'm talking about another person should compliment or add to your life, not take away from it. It's the whole package when you get married. You might talk yourself into marrying because you don't want to be alone, but then when you are with someone, their habits can be cute at first and then get on your last nerve. So be careful. You are wise to stay single until you meet that right person. If you want to meet someone, it's good to get out and socialize. That doesn't mean you are interviewing for a prospective wife... it just means to be yourself and see if you have chemistry with another person. It takes time to form bonds that will lead to marriage. It's better to wait on those bonds to form than to marry and then divorce later on.

Im a part owner in a dating Company where I live, the Company is new and its such alot of fun helping people find matches where we live. We have alot of females and males 40 age up even up to 80. Ive noticed with most single men that have joined they are very shy and dont want to join the live speed dating we have going in the City we live in. which is a shame because there are alot of ladies that have joined. Why are men shy when it come's to Speed Date? your a male have u ever tried joining live dating where u live or speed dates?or are u shy?

You my friend, must travel all the best urban

Hi preethaanju, I can understand how you feel. However, marriage is not the only solution in life and in fact it creates more problems if done in haste.I feel that you should stop feeling sorry for yourself and develop an all round personality, take part in outdoor activities and generally not think about your lonely status...Dont you have any job? if not try to make your financial position better ,once you get a job you also meet people and make new friends - we have to find a solution to our problems within ourselves...all the best

I just wanted to see form where are you so i can advice you accordingly.You are from India and man in India its really difficult to find someone after 40. Almost everybody here is married till 30 or max 35.After that rarely anybody is left. How about getting good job or enhancing your education by doing some professional courses.opening a small scale business might add income source.Once oyu have sort out finances you can think of marrying. Why sister is not married as well?

I believe that you face not easy situation now, preet.this situaton make you feel more down low and lose spirit, right? my real answer is, would you stand on your way or go ahead??your confusion can't change situation and even make you feel worse.forget about the girl next door, you can go out with your friend and look outside, there're many grl out there.by make more friends you will have more chance to have friend of life.forget your thought about married first since that word will make you doubt to start a relationship.sooner or later you'll find your girl...

hi. its long that u havent married. i assume u r frm india and indian people have mentality that if u have sister then she will get married first and then bro. You can put urs and ur sisters profile on matrimony site and u will definitely get good response. cheers and get married soon.

My parents divorced because my dad cheated a lot on my mom with other women. My mom later remarried after my dad did. My Dad's wift left him, and now he is alone. He does the same as you talk about, just chatting online to not feel lonely. I suggested that my dad try and get out more when what friends he does have, and see about meeting someone new. I think that maybe you should, and try to put yourself out there. I believe that their is someone for everyone out there. Somewhere is probably a girl sitting at home typing the same thing as you are. A friend of mine from school married 3 years ago at 30 to a man who is 56. It can still happen. It is their first marriage for them both.

You are quite mature enough to have taken such a decision . You know your inhibition and you can be your better judge . So decide wisely and good luck be yours :-)

Marriage is not something you can force on yourself. If you like to marry you need someone you really care for and love, and be sure the feelings are mutual. May be you are not satisfied with your current life, but it's always better than start something you may regret after a while. So, think well, befire taking any decisions.

Hi, just be patient and in time the right person will come to you. or try to go out with your friends and who knows you will find the ideal girl you are looking for.

I feel that each person in the world would have the lonely moment, no matter single or married. So don't worry about your longely. It is true that the people getting married and haveing kids would be happier than some single people. But this is not absolutely. Finding the right peron and having a good marriage need both lucky and ability. We need to learn this ability and pray for the good fortune. Learn to love yourself first and enjoy your life no matter single or married. Wish you good luck.

i dont understand how your sister not being married has anything to do with you not being married but anyways i know some people insist on thinking there is a love out there for everyone but i disagree i think some people are just destened to be alone i think i am one of those people i have loved and i have been loved once and that did not work out but i am like a wolf and only take one lover that did not work out so i would rather be alone being around my animals is the only way for me to ease my loneliness its hard sometimes but life is not fair and it is how it is

Oh,,you are now in the right age to get married if you want too..Well,if you want to marry, i think that you can find good girl for you,honest,and not for money.. but you are not very near to a girls, i d not know why still you are not wanting to,but maybe there is a right girl for you,so do not worry...She will surprise you..ha ha..

It is really a sacrifice for a brother not to marry as his sister is unmarried. It can only be happen in the Indian Subcontinent and usually a brother get married after the marriage of his sister/sisters. The financial reason is not a matter involved in marriage. If it does the poor people don't marry at all. Marriage is another life of a human being. Responsibility to others, respect to each other, understanding between two people and love for their off-springs really makes a man almost successful. 45 is not at all late for you to get involved someone with marriage relationship. Try to get some serious relationship which could lead to marriage will help you to make you happy and cheerful again as marriage is a ninety degree turn of a bachelor life. So try to get married and be happy.

buddy !!! have faith on GOD .. and keep on searching for the marriage proposals. im sure there are thousands of peoples on this planet who are also delaying their marriages because of the financial crisis but yet they are ready for marriage without any financial conditions.. so, come on life is too short . dont waste it anymore