I have a questions about men.
By stacysmomstl
@stacysmomstl (397)
United States
September 21, 2011 9:37am CST
This morning as I do every morning, I was up early to walk my dog. There is a park across the street from my apartment building so I take him out and we walk there.
Also near my complex is a neighborhood store. I live in a downtown area so there are many people always in and out of this store getting coffee, donuts whatever.
So my and my dog are doing our routine and this morning like most mornings I get whistled at. Now it's not like the "oh I think you're hot" whistle. It's more like I'm calling your dog, but not really I'm just trying to get your attention whistle.
Should I be offended because guys are whistling at me like I'm a dog?
BTW, my dog is 14 years old and can't hear in one ear so he never even turns his head when this happens.
11 responses
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
21 Sep 11
Personally I think men whistling at women is always rude so I will never respond on that. No matter in what way they wistle. I am not a dog. If you want to catch my attention you should do it in an other way. But it might be possible those kind of men are not able to say hi or goodmorning and think they are great guys because they can whistle?
So I would be like your dog, deaf and not turn my head 1 single moment.
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@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I love your answer Ms. Kitty, and that's what I think I will do if it happens again. Usually when I do give a second look, I wish I hadn't. I would be much happier with a simple "good morning" than a dog whistle. I'm just saying!
@RebeccaScarlett (2532)
• Canada
22 Sep 11
Whistle back! Lol. Or you should say "sorry, my dog is a boy" or "sorry, she's spayed, so she's unavailable for dates."
@varier (5685)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 11
This discussion is really reminding me about this: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2578091.aspx
Oops, sorry, let's skip that..
Well, it is really an old "trick" to whistle at woman. But I am still considering it as rude thing to do.
I guess you have to ignore them as if you react, they might getting more fun and keep doing it..
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I will ignore them because at that time of morning, I'm not really hunting for male companionship anyway. Just taking my dog to potty that's all. And my guess is that if they are rude at the beginning, the will be just as rude after I have taken the time to get to know them better.
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I'm hoping they were just trying to call my dog varier but even he didn't want to respond. LOL
@surfer222 (1714)
• Indonesia
22 Sep 11
i'm not quiet sure why people whistled to other people. i never do that but i see some men do that to a woman, but personally i've experienced quite the opposite, some times ago some woman in a car whistled at me when i was walking and because i'm not sure why she do that so i approach her car to ask what does she mean by that, but she and her friend drives her car away from me so i never really understand that behaviour.
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I don't understand it either. I feel that if you want someone's attention, you just simply speak. I guess people are more insecure than you would think. But whistling isn't the way to go. At least not for me. You might get my attention, but you will get a negative reaction from me. If you are too rude to just speak, then I don't need to waste energy responding to some silly gesture.
@astroversion (210)
• Philippines
22 Sep 11
Hi stacysmomstl. You dont have to respond to that whistle. Its rude to treat women like that. Did you see the one who did it? Is he alone or with a group? I think you should consider another route from your usual route to be safe. Stay safe
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I did see who whistled at me. He was alone getting into his car after being the store. I do take different routes just so that people don't see me in getting into a routine. I try to be safe. Thanks!!
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I think I tend to agree with you. I was just hoping that they weren't calling me a dog because I don't think I'm that bad. You are right, I think it's rude.
@wahcashmom (11)
• United States
22 Sep 11
The best thing to do is "Do not notice him" don't give him the pleasure of getting your attention. Walk on like he does not even matter. It is very rude for him to whistle and call you like you are a dog. Don't give him a second thought.
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
25 Sep 11
I agree. I have changed up my routes and try not to pass the store as much especially in the morning. Not so may guys getting their morning coffee further away from the store. So for it's been working. But if it does happen again, I won't give them a second thought. Thanks for responding.
@Netsbridge (3253)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Disrespectful men. Just keep walking and do not respond, even if one of them approaches you.
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I think I'll do that because you never know. It is pretty safe, but there is always one crazy person out there. I don't want to run into him. Thanks.
@globalwide (97)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I would pretty much ignore men that whistle at you. However being whistled at is not necessarily a bad thing. I don't do it and would rather great a woman or get their attention by saying something intelligient if not at least a sincere "Good Morning". I would like to point out that in my general opinion it is a machoism that has not outgrown our society even today and in most cases you would find this kind of behavior by groups of men (2 or more) which has no other intent other than to show off alpha male behavior.
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I'm with you. I think a man would get my attention much more if he simply spoke than use some cave man whistling tactic. Those silly boys. LOL
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
I know there are women who wear revealing clothing. I however am way to old for that, especially so early in the morning. And it is strange that it only happens in the morning. When I get home from work, there are people at the same store or park and there is nothing. Even at night if there is a random walker, I never get anything. Just early mornings.
@viney17 (688)
• Philippines
21 Sep 11
on behalf of men T_T i too think it's rude to whistle at women as it might offend them that men are checking them out.. but women may sometimes also be at fault by wearing clothes that are well you know the rest :P
but well ms if you here someone whistles at you never respond to it, never even look or glance at him and see if he is handsome or hot, or he might get the wrong idea if you look at him.
@stacysmomstl (397)
• United States
21 Sep 11
Well I have 2 comments on your statement. When I have taken the time to see who was doing the whistling, I didn't consider them hot or handsome so I didn't want to keep encouraging these guys just in case they are the same guys everyday. Secondly, at 6:30am, I'm not wearing anything but sweatpants and a oversized sweatshirt because it's chilly in the mornings and I stay cold all the time. So trust me when I say, they are not attracted to what I am wearing. LOL Maybe they are attracted to the dog.
What I have noticed is how women are different than men. Because the men in the complex who walks their dog, the women just talks to them if they want to talk or get the man's attention. There are no gestures or anything. They might comment on the dog, but from what I have noticed, they just go and talk to the person.
It's interesting.
Thanks for commenting.
@Sunflower_Michele54 (58)
• United States
10 Mar 17
If you feel offended, you have every right to. I don't think whistling at women to get their attention is the best way to do so. Some men think that using words to communicate doesn't work. Just ignore them unless something serious happens. If they try to touch you or threaten you, take action.