How can I stop her?

Gossiping is a really bad habit. And you can't really make her stop, plus the fact that her friends tends to enjoy the same activity. Just don't stop reminding her (nicely) about the negative effect that it may bring. For example, one of the neighbors might find out that the gossip started from her (it may happen, even if she just heard it from someone else), then that neighbor will confront her or shame her in any way. Ask her, how would she feel if that happens? What if when that happens and her neighbors saw the confrontation and started gossiping about it? then after awhile, she became the "talk of the town"? You know, gossips. May it be true or not, hurts a lot of people, specially when it comes to families being broken apart. Just imagine how it feels the other way around? But then again, old people or parents are the toughest to teach. so goodluck, let's just hope that your mom won't encounter a problem that was caused by her overt curiousness. =)

I am so sorry and wish that I had advice for you. I am in the same boat as you are with a family member who does a lot of gossiping. She will gossip about the other family members to each other. It is frusterating. She has been asked to stop but doesn't. I have came to the conclusion that by not telling her anything she cannot gossip. It didn't work. Hope someone has some good advice for you.

i think it is ingrained. being your mother, and being much older, she should be the one who has to have more learning that it is bad to gossip. you have done your part. just do not stop telling her if she starts a conversation on gossips. do not indulge yourself with her stories because that would encourage her. i guess it will be difficult to change her, but do not loose hope, and do not stop reminding her.

I really don't think that there is anything that you can do to stop her from doing this all together. However, when it comes to discussions that she is having with you, when she starts into gossip, simply tell her that you aren't interested in that kind of a conversation and tell her that you can't talk to her if she isn't able to talk about something that won't be harmful to another person. It is impossible to stop gossip, but it is possible to not be a part of gossip.

It is hard to stop a gossiping person. I wonder if your mother would feel bad if she knew what the result of her gossiping is if it turns out badly. I also wonder if she herself ever been victim of that. To be honest I don't think there is anything to stop her. Your mother has no life, she thinks it's her right or duty to be more as just curious and to let all the others know the (made up) news too. Since nobody tells your mom to stop (otherwise they would tell her that by phone and quite the phonecall inmediately if she starts with that) the only thing your mother can do is to start her own gossip magazine or newspaper. Her victims can get her in court because of her lies and she can pay them what the money she earns by selling the magazine/newspaper because of all the harm she is doing to them. If that is not possible walk out of her. Of if not possible put your fingers in your ears and start singing out loud. If that still doesn´t ring a bell the only thing left over is to gossip about her. The best moments are these when you are sure she can hear you! It´s an eye for an eye a tooth for a tooth. A dutch saying says: if you don't want to hear it you have to feel it!

Get her involved in some hobbies she likes. It will divert her mind from gossips and kindle the creative side of her. Make sure that the neighbors don't land up in the hobby class else the gossips will continue.

Anyone that I know that is a gossip, I don't think will ever stop. I think maybe she has nothing else to talk about and since different stories make a conversation interesting she keeps doing it. Must have something to do with her friends because if they sit and listen and join in the conversation then they're most likely a gossip, too.

My boyfriends mom does this dramatically. It is very annoying they think they know everything about everyone and what happens in their life. My boyfriends mom will also lie for him which make her look stupid because he tells me the truth in the first place then I see her and she tells me something different. So I just tell him your son already told me the truth so you can stop lying any time now. She aggravates me to. She is a little investigator as well. But when someone does it to her she gets mad as all heck!

Do you hear the saying don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you?. Tell your mom that your neighbor do the same to her. That her neighbor things she's a gossiper, etc. Let her feel how its feel to be suffocated from neighbors eyes.

You cannot stop your mother from doing this acts because it is in her nature. You can only remind her as her child. It may be causing you embarrassment but you need to love her despite of it. Why not have a heart to heart talk about how her gossiping is affecting you personally maybe that would wake her up.

Hi, sorry to say but , You can not change the way your mother is. Maybe u can change a little your actitud , maybe its time for you to move and have your own life, (depends of how old You are), maybe if your mother looks for a hobie to do instead of the one that already has , , Or, what u can do when she is talking about other people s life with u , you can change the topic. Also u can try talking very clear to her with respect and make her understand how bad that makes You feel. good luck .

I've got people in my life like her also. My response to the person gossiping is usually, "REALLY?" I feel bad for your mom but she is your mom and just love her for who she is; think about her good qualities; don't focus on what's wrong with her. Focus on the good things. I guess some people are just made to gossip more than others. Maybe your mom may just need someone to talk to and if she gossips that will get someone's attention. Think about it.