This is wrong ! Or not ?
By Valentin
@wmraul (2552)
Bucharest, Romania
September 30, 2011 6:51pm CST
So, ladies, gentlemen and virgins (if any left), heeeeeeeere is the deal:
As child, we are told about Santa, Easter bunny and many other characters which we start believing in and waiting them to show up.
Next, starting the age of 10 - 12 years old, we begin to understand the reality - I mean we now know it was a fake, a prank, a lie. Yeah, some reach this understanding status later, but at 18 years old I doubt there is any of us left still believing Santa Claus is real.
But ... few years later we get married and we have our own childrens.
And as soon as they reach age of comprehension, what do we do?
We LIE them about Thoot Fairy and same old "HO-HO-HO" Santa Claus and so on. We are adults, we know is a lie, we know they will soon understand is a lie, we remember how disapointed we were when we find it out is all fake ... yet we do it.
And I ask you, people: Is this right? Why yes or why not ?
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5 responses
@mdog56 (23)
• United States
1 Oct 11
Call me old fashioned but I have always been of the impression that truth conquers all. I would never keep the truth from my children, especially on such trivial matters. I found it insulting when my parents tried to convince me of a celestial, omnipotent being that would give me gifts once a year if I behaved properly. I yield the rest of my space to the inspiring Christopher Mccandless, "Rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness...give me truth."
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@tedkur (21)
• Indonesia
1 Oct 11
i think the point it's not about wether it's right or wrong.
it's to give the childrens hope and to keep them believe.
for example santa claus and christmas.
childrens are belive santa will come on christmas eve to give them present.
they will wait for santa to appear and give the present.
they will fall asleep because santa is not coming.
when they asleep the "real" santa which is their parents will come and put the present.
in the morning the childrens will come to their parents and tell that santa coming and give the present.
so the real meaning why lying is just to give the children hope and faith
@wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
1 Oct 11
First of all, what have to do Christmas (as Christian celebration for Jesus birth) with Santa Claus?
Next - you say give children hope and faith ... in what? In a LIE? In the fact is NOT parents who'll make gifts, but an imaginary person from a fairy tale?
Instead of making stronger the connection between child and parents, instead of child have faith in his parents, he is dedicate his all expectations to a ... stranger.
Something is rotten in Denmark, my friend .. 
Something is rotten in Denmark, my friend .. 1 person likes this
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
2 Oct 11
Depends on your beliefs and how you want to raise your children. If you want them to believe in Santa Claus like you did, then you raise them to believe in Santa Claus, and if not, then don't.
It's all about how traditional you want to be, and how you wish to raise them. My mother raised my brother and me to believe in all of that stuff as well, but we suspected the Tooth Fairy was fake before Santa Claus because the Tooth Fairy couldn't pay up until my mother got paid.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
3 Oct 11
Yeah, that's usually how it works. The kids will find out sooner or later, and they will probably be terribly disappointed. Although, most parents do it because they want their children to have that imagination and they want them to think that someone, other than themselves, cares about them. Of course, children do seem to realize that most of these characters aren't real when they begin asking for certain things, and they obviously don't get what they want. They pretty much know the truth then and there. I asked for one thing in particular every Christmas, and I never got it, and that is when I knew that Santa Claus wasn't real.
@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
1 Oct 11
Aww... What a way to spoil Christmas and Easter. 
It is a lie but it's a safe lie, the child is going to eventually get over it and know it is a lie. But you wouldn't want to ruin a child's Christmas and say there's no Santa therefore no presents for you. And if they know that Santa isn't real, then what will they say to their fellow friends at school, that Santa doesn't exist? Kids are quite strong in their belief, especially if the belief came from their parents because kids look up to parents. My parents never knew about the Easter bunny or Santa Claus, but as a kid I watched a lot of Play school and I kept believing that Santa was real and my parents kinda just played along. So it wouldn't hurt to believe in something that isn't real just to make your child happy. 
It is a lie but it's a safe lie, the child is going to eventually get over it and know it is a lie. But you wouldn't want to ruin a child's Christmas and say there's no Santa therefore no presents for you. And if they know that Santa isn't real, then what will they say to their fellow friends at school, that Santa doesn't exist? Kids are quite strong in their belief, especially if the belief came from their parents because kids look up to parents. My parents never knew about the Easter bunny or Santa Claus, but as a kid I watched a lot of Play school and I kept believing that Santa was real and my parents kinda just played along. So it wouldn't hurt to believe in something that isn't real just to make your child happy. @wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
1 Oct 11
I accidentally hear once a small conversation between a couple (mother and father) vs young (6-7 years old) kid (boy). He required a plastic car toy it was in a store window. Parents answer he have already many car toys. Kid instantly become sulky and say "I will ask Santa, he loves me, same like last year, he is good, you do not love me!".
I felt the pain, the shock, despite it was not my child and all 3 of them were total strangers to me.
How would you deal with such reaction?
PS: it may be interesting also my above answer.
I felt the pain, the shock, despite it was not my child and all 3 of them were total strangers to me.
How would you deal with such reaction?
PS: it may be interesting also my above answer.1 person likes this
@wmraul (2552)
• Bucharest, Romania
3 Oct 11
You are o fortunate. Most of people have had first to deal with "innocent" lies wich may have put their life on wrong direction ..
As a parent, one should earn child's respect and not lie him about fairy tales characters and all kinda stupid things ("be nice or I'll call the big bad wolf to bite you").
I agree, there is no such thing as small and big lies. No matter how "small", a lie is a lie and can make greatest damage.
@stuckonu (726)
• Philippines
1 Oct 11
I'm glad I wasn't lied about all these things when I was a child nor will I lie to my daughter about these nonsense. There are awful lot of ways to discipline your child and make them obey, and lying shouldn't be one of those. For me there is no such thing as a good lie, it's either good or a lie.
