marriage

This is not something anyone, unless they know her personally can answer. Long distant relationships are not easy to deal with. It sounds like you and she need to have a serious discussion for which hopefully the both of you can discuss truthfully as to where this relationship is heading. Best of luck and no one really can predict if she has a boyfriend because that would not be fair since no one here on myLot knows her. Best of luck and maybe she is just not ready for a full commitment.

Personally, I think it sounded more like a test, to see if you were committed to the relationship or not. Some people like to throw questions out there to see if their partners are serious or not. Personally I don't think that there is another guy involved, it sounds more to me if she is testing to see if there is another girl involved in your life especially since you mentioned you both are in a long distance relationship.

Sorry. You should make this discussion, not in the interest of MyLot. But, in the interest of marriage, or relationship. But, that's okay, I see you are still a few points, and your new members. I really understand. Back to your discussion. Marriage, is something that should be well thought out. Mutual trust, and mutual understanding is needed. If, you are destined to marry, surely you will be given an easy path, to get to the wedding.

So you haven't seen each other yet in person? I think if you haven't, then maybe you should try to be together first personally, so you can both feel if what your are feeling for each other online or on long distance is indeed true. Only then, can both of you feel that you are ready for marriage. Besides, even you have doubts as to whether she may have another boyfriend.

Maybe she was just testing to see how committed you are with your relationship with her. I think she said that to verify if she is still the one, and sometimes it helps her make a decision in her life. But the question if she has a another boyfriend is hard to guess right, just give it time and the relevancy of her question will pop up someday.. Cheers sijabatnaburjut

Sijabatna There are lot of possibilities why she doesn't marry you yet.. How old is she?? Anyway just give her some time to think about it because it's a marriage is a serious commitment. It doesn't mean she's not ready she has a boyfriend already. She is just being optimistic of what is life. If you love her be positive. Don't think negative beyond her.. It doesn't work.

You say you have not seen her yet you want to marry her. Big problem. You have to meet her before you commit to something as important as marriage. How do you know she is not lying to you about herself, how can she know that you are real? The internet is full of people who fake all sorts of stuff. While it is a good place to meet people, I met my partner that way, you still have to meet to see if the meeting of minds works up close. I would ask why have you dated online for a year and never met her. I know from experience that the meeting is so important. When I was still dating I was surprised at how different people can be in person to their online personality. The first person I met online wanted me to fly off to another country and marry him but I was puzzled. It was a big step for me and a long distance. When I did some investigation I discovered that legally it was not so simple and when questioned about this he got angry and I found out that he wanted me just to turn up and marry him even though it would be illegal under their law. I woke up and broke it off. It is a big step to ask someone you have never met to marry you.

I was married for ten years, and I have to say that I will probably never do it again. Being married was cool for the first few years, but after that, things just got old. I am certainly not opposed to being in a committed relationship with someone if I find the right person, but it will take someone really special to get me to think about getting married again.

If she has the same thought as u are,means if she is also has a thought like if u had a ,another girlfriend,and if she also asks the same questions to her self,wht is ur answer,If u dont trust her and she has no trust in u why should u get maried.

My suggestion for you is to spent some time longer. Distance might have changed her heart and yours as well. I think she should prove her love and sincerity to you, and you will also have to do the same to her. This is going to put both of you to the test whether it will be right for you to get married or not. With this, the time will come when you will realize that it is already safe, and that you were made for each other. Marriage can come in smoothly already.

Do not jump into a married relationship with full of negative thoughts thrown to your partner. Remember that having our own family life is the last episode of our story. And so be very careful in your decision and do not get in a hurry. If you lose her in the end,of course it is hard to accept since the love is already there present but you must accept whatever is installed in your affair with her. There are so many girls to choose if it is not meant to be. The start of married life is sweet but sometimes becomes bitter in the long run and so how much more if not given a strong foundation of knowing each other deeply.

It's hard for any of us to determine whether or not she has a boyfriend. Has she been acting strange towards you lately? Does anything seem different about her recently? Those are all signs that maybe she is being unfaithful. I know that long distance relationships can be tough, but no impossible to conquer. Just use your gut feeling. She may be a good woman, and being faithful to you. Just let her know how you feel. Best wishes!

When you lose the impression of your girlfriend you gradually move to another.Similarly when your girlfriend lose impression on you she may try to get a new friendship.Never give much botheration to these things.But if you love her as a life partner then be frank to tell about marriage and understand her approach to it.

I read some of the other postings to see you haven't met her in person yet. That would be scary for me. I don't think I would take a guy serious in marriage when we haven't even been together yet. But thats just my culture and I know other cultures can be different. I don't know if she has a boyfriend in person, I guess the only way to know is to go to her country and meet her if that's possible. Then you would be able to see where and who she lives with and you would see her real life. Maybe after you meet her you won't like her afterall. Or maybe she won't like you. But either way, you need to know eventually so the sooner the better is what I say. Littlemissy here signing off

The power of your love, will make its way toward the marriage to be easy. Although marriage does not just rely on love. But, love will make someone want to continue together.

I would say, "I'm not that type of woman." as I prefer men over women.

Hi sweetie. I am not saying this to be rude or offensive, but it sunds like you don't trust each other. Maybe you should resolve that issue first and make sure both of you trust each other and love each other unconditionally. You should ask her if she have another boyfriend though. Long distance isn't fun and games, but it can work if both of you are truly serious about each other. Hope that helped.

I believe that marriage is forever, so it really needs to be planned out and it isn't something you do on the whim. You both have to be fully commited to each other and willing to be so for life. It is a big commitment to make and needs time to make sure. My husband and I were very young when we married, but we do not believe in divorce, and work our problems out. We get along great and in 14 years we might of argued two or three times. We are each other's best friends. I would suggest that before you commit to marriage that you at least be able to know her more and maybe spend some actual time with each other so you can better understand if marriage to each other suits you both.

your question is the same as me. when my girlfriend told me that she would marry me,I felt quite glad. however,some days later, she has changed her mind and be cold to me. we also have been together for almost one year, but I really doubted that if she has another boyfriend except me,which is so terrible and horrible to both of us. for some evident fact that she always refused to what I required, such simple things as going my house to see my parents together, which is quite usual for a girlfriend, and going out to meet my friends, or even idling together in the street. for these, she never accepted me. and I doubted and confused whether we will be together or not. because what she did is not like a girlfriend should do.

You are the one who can tell that. You can feel how she communicated with you. You are the man so I guess there's nothing to lose buddy.