Negative Friendships
By knittingpro
@knittingpro (289)
Canada
October 3, 2011 2:11pm CST
Have you had a friend who made you feel like you had to walk on egg shells? I did but it's over now. They would want to go out shopping every evening or just hang out. When they asked for my opinion I was very honest with my answer. This made the person angry. They knew I loved color and wasn't into boring pale colors. Bright colors like reds, pinks looked great on them but all they wanted to wear was boring beige's. I don't know if it was her over weight-ness that made them looked as washed out as their skin color or what, that they avoided color. There was one instance where I suggested something and they got mad but went back the next day alone and bought what I suggested.
I'm just glad I have great friends who can handle an honest opinion. They are free to choose what they like and must be comfortable in it.
I'm glad I took a firm stand and got rid of anyone negative in my life!
6 responses
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Friends who cannot accept or respect honest opinions are not friends at all. They are people who just wants nice compliments for themselves. They don't deserve to be friends with you , my friend, so you just did what was right, eliminate them in your life. 
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
But sometimes, even if they don't ask for our opinions, as a friend, when we see that what they are doing is wrong already, we have to say our piece. They could either take it or leave it, but at least you tried to stop them.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
I agree. It is sad however that people are like this. If you don't want the truth don't ask!
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
5 Oct 11
Some people just don't want the truth. I say to myself "Why ask?"
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
That is perfect and makes so much sense. I really like that. Thank you!
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
I only want to have friendships/relationships that are positive. I don't want anyone thinking I'm like this person so it had to end. My thoughts are if they are this way and people see it do they think I'm this way as well. That is another reason why it had to end. It was making me emotionally & physically sick.
I will remember that "Bad Company Corrupts Good Character"
@prasanta (1948)
• India
4 Oct 11
You know what I feel. Almighty has created many different patterns among people. So, all cannot be friendly or tolerant with all. If this is the case, the friendship has to end up some time.
I do not like to use the terms -- good friend or bad friends. I will simply say, some people are of my type, some are not. That's it...
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
Well said and I agree. I don't have any bad friends just people I choose not to have in my life!
@zoey7879 (3092)
• Quincy, Illinois
3 Oct 11
People that make you feel bad all of the time are toxic. Poison. And they got to go!
Its hurt me when Ive had to cut people out of my life, but when I spend more time defending myself and others against my "friend," chasing after them like a parent because they can't look after themselves, or they are simply far too negative... Then that's what happens. They gotta go.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
3 Oct 11
True but I give everyone a 2nd chance. Even 3rd and 4th. I think every relationship/friendship can be worked out. If people take responsibility for their actions anything can be worked out. No one is life is perfect. Some just are to stubborn to say "Hey I'm sorry I'm not perfect" But it takes a big person to do that.
I know I've never done anything is a friendship where I was unkind or not there for them. I had one friendship not work out but it wasn't for lack of trying. Still to this day I have no hard feelings.
@joystick (1675)
•
3 Oct 11
To be honest i could not live in a persons pocket like that, as i have other friends that i also like to chat to.A person wanting to hang out every night, shows that they do not have any kind of relationship, neither do they want you to have one, not unless they prefer each others company and have no children.I feel sorry for people that only have the one person that they hang out with, this is what stretches a friendship to the point of trouble.To be honest, i would not have a friend that told me what is good and what is bad to wear, after all a friendship is with the person, not the way they look, or dress.
@knittingpro (289)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
I couldn't either and that is why I removed myself from it. I like hanging with a variety of friends. Not the same one constantly. There has to be space and time for other friendships. Healthy friendships aren't friend who are always hanging off you. A lot of it was they didn't want to be home so they wanted to be out always. I like being home and hanging with my family. That is where we were very different.
@rajaniroy (43)
• India
4 Oct 11
i dont know, why friends are in negative mind. i will say thank to god, i had a good friends., who will do everything for me. when i was in nineth standard, my friend had a friend who will not help for her. my friend is very good, she waas very caring on her friend. but, that girl is not at all caring. she was using my friend money and scolds bad about my friend. after a big loss from her, she left her.
