Having a Relationship

I think to me it depends who I start the relationship with. If I really love her, then I would be sad. I think if I got with a girl who I loved and she wanted to get with someone else but use another excuse on me for the break up and I found out she was with someone (even though she didn't care if I saw her with her new boyfriend), I would probably feel down. I don't think I would want to get with another girl but with her. I would try to win her back but then, I would want her to be happy with who she's with. That is only if I really liked her.

Yes, it happened with me. I believe compromise is a good umbrella but never a good roof. So, sooner the roof is built better it is for progress in life. Umbrellas are not worth to carry throughout the life. Got my view?

it all sounded like 'good riddance'! but my advice is, when you wanted to end a relationship, end it ASAP when you do not feel anything anymore. that way you can both move on and find peace.

I had a girlfriend who was not really into me but she always pretended to be in love with me. Thinking that she was very smart in playing her double roles as my gf and also a gf to another guy. One day I saw them together holding hands, walking as they chat. I called her but she did not receive the call, I redialed and she received saying she was somehow busy that I should call later. The following day she came at my place and started her lies as usually.. I just told her I was going to meet someone on that day, I left her in the house with my brothers. She called me afterwards to ask if I have a gf somewhere, I said yes and wished happiness with that guy. I thought it was over, I only wish it will be..

I wonder why you were sad. Because she dumped you first? I had this kind of relationship too and I left after I tried long and hard enough. It's useless to invest time and energy in a person who only likes to fight and is not willing to give you a hand. If there is nothing positive it's better to quite and much better to be alone!

of course I have had my relationship broken up. but it is a little different from yours. once I have fallen in love with a girl who was my schoolmate in university. And we are in the same department. we developed our relationship gently and slowly. However, when we faced to graduate from the same university, everything has changed. of course she changed,too. She has a lot of ideas which i never understood then. she told me that she wanted to leave for a new place and start a different life. Finally, she has gone without saying anything. And i just like a fool to taste my pains.

rmendoza123, You lead a very intense relationship because you are unable to tame your emotions and yet allow it to consume you absolutely. Your failure to evolve has little to do with willpower; possessiveness can only be dissolved through wisdom and higher understanding. Ironically, pain exalts possessiveness. Therefore without the presence of wisdom, it's often reiterated with life lessons. No amount of induced pressure can dispel this emotional juggernaut - you will only heighten your frustration and deepen the intensity of your struggle. There are many possibilities as of how you acquired this poison in life, but regardless of circumstances, one thing remains common: possessive is almost like an emotional Trojan residing inside of you, perpetually seeking to introduce 'communism' with every relationship you encounter, as you see your partner as a form of commodity, subconsciously working to deprive your relationship of maturity, space and growth. It's worst if you are heavily bogged down by several fixed aspects in your own in-evolve prerogatives. The truth I see, is that you indulge yourself in fear - so much fear that the essence of love is hardly even present. The word 'Love' is very much desecrated by the notion of fear, like a malicious spirit lurking behind a corrupted idol. And before you know it, this fear will eventually ravage your own relationship with your bare hands as your emotional affliction take steps to dominate - akin to demonic possession. You find yourself usurping the crown of power and tilt the equilibrium towards you in full swing, albeit the division of power is originally split equally between the couple. To surmount challenges in love is certainly a daunting task. To begin, one must have the initiative and drive to strike out. On a positive note, you do have the wanting to change yourself, but it's really more than just work hard. Knowing where the rot lies and addressing it properly will mould your personality and relationship better. You got to do more than just 'selling of concepts' to your mind - you got to implement it into your core values and BELIEVE in what you have introduced with great conviction and trust that it will help you achieve a better personality and relationship. Note that I did not say it guarantees you an everlasting love - but certainly you will breathe easier in your relationship.

No actually. My ex was my first love and I loved him dearly. I never wanted to get rid of him and I never thought we would be without each other too. But sadly things didn't turn out that way. After a year things got messed up and we broke up. It was sad and a lot hard on me. I wish he'd had stayed.

If you don't love a person just let them go. I don't see any point why you should stay with her, you're just wasting your time.

Yes. I was with my previous boyfriend for over a year. He was sweet, loving and caring in the beginning of our relationship. But due to his autism, the relationship changed later on. We were fighting all the time and he was calling me all kind of harsh names. I tried to break up with him, three times or so, but when I was about to do it I felt this kind of fear. Fear to end up alone. And a fear to hurt his feelings. He cried once when I tried to break up with him, it kind of hit me hard, and I took him back. I decided that I just couldn't do it. So I decided to stop caring. I wasn't accepting anymore, I stood up for myself, and I called him harsh names too. Just because I wanted to treat him the way he treat me. And he couldn't handle it. He broke up with me over text. It's so sad, but I was relieved. I'm much happier now. We're not together for two months now and I feel reborn. I can finally be myself. My self esteem has grown so much. I do think I should have listened to people and do it myself, that would have prevent a lot of trouble, but I just couldn't do it. I think it's not a good thing to do. But sometimes you just can't see another way out. I'm happy for you.