I don't like my office mate
By jaderamirez
@jaderamirez (1029)
Philippines
October 4, 2011 7:20am CST
I have an office mate that is so annoying. She really wants the attention of everyone. She makes effort to make herself pretty by putting so much make up on her face and she even like wearing sexy dresses to attract men in our office. I don't care for those activities of her but what I don't like about her is when she uses Facebook to give comment when she hate someone from our office. I am her first victim. Good thing that almost all of our office mates are mad at her and they told me what she did. She is shouting at Facebook that I am nothing compared to her. I do not want to compete and she is really something in terms of achievement in our company. Even if she almost have her career achievement, I still feel pity for her because she has no true friend. Though I already forgive her, sometimes I still remember what she did.
12 responses
@evanfred0219 (209)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
hi there jaderamirez!.yeah there people who lacks attention and will make every effort to be famous. but there is only one thing i can share to you, don't let that person ruin your everyday in your office. just make her invisible in your world.hehe. you don't have to waist your time on her cause she's not that worth it. just do your thing in a manner that you won't step any people towards your success. just be yourself,;-)
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
Thanks for your sharing. I don't talk to her actually, sad to say I always hear her voice in our office and all the time I am distracted. She really wants attention that is why she always see to it that everybody is listening by calling our names before she tells us her story. I don't want to be rude of course.
@evanfred0219 (209)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
i experienced that same thing, when someone will tell you something and you're not in the mood or you're not that interested about it, or the person telling it.. what i did, i just nodded and smile, a little eye contact, i did not respond. i just continued what i was doing. then she just ended her story. i think i did not do any harm to her.hehe;-)
@evanfred0219 (209)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
one more thing. life is not all about achievements or how peak is your career, it' about who will be there for you when your worst trials come into your life. well, i pity her cause she has no true friends. be thankful that you have friends. ;-)
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
in my opinion, it would be better if you will have a talk with her. Open up what she did in facebook and confront her about it. That way, you will know what it is really that she hates in you. But i guess, the feeling is mutual, so it has to be settled.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
We already confronted each other. We even started to become friends and yet she still not changing her ways. She always use Facebook when she is angry, but this time she is not mentioning names. Meaning to say she is "playing safe".
@flower21 (765)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
well, even not in an office setting i also get annoy by other people behavior even though they do nothing to me. i learn to survive them by diverting my mind to concentrate on doing important things and avoid getting bother by them. in this way you would learn to accept that people are different and even they are below to out level of standard we just need to accept their flaws.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
Thanks for your sharing. As I have mentioned earlier to my post that she calls our name before she will tell us her new fabricated story of herself. We cannot just ignore her because we do not want to be rude and sarcastic. We still treat her in a nice way though our mind likes the opposite.
@junmae (1586)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
She shouldn't use Facebook for office politics because it is very unfair on your part. Though I don't know the real story between the two of you, If I were in your situation I would also feel the same. Good thing your co-workers bothered to say what she had done and be happy because they were on your side. I had also encountered people who will do everything for career and attention.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
That is the name of her game to play with fire. This girl is a fighter and I wonder where she gets her energy to fight with everyone.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
The funny thing is she already mentioned it to our HR officer. The company admin trust her more than me because, of her achievement that is why the issue is closed.
@ranilo70 (177)
•
5 Oct 11
there are some people who are like that Jade. Even in our work place we have. But the difference is that she keeps on building fire to people whom she doesn't like. Well what we did is we ignore her for we know that nobody in the work place like her too. She is so pity.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
It is what we called attitude problem. We have all negative attitude but there will be really among us who will be on top of this. All we do is just wonder why there are people like this in our planet. These people are insensitive,superior complex, talkative, wise and selfish.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
5 Oct 11
i will just ignore her if i am in your situation... i know that it is easier to say than done... but that is what i will do... that type of person is just not worth my time and attention... and i won't even bother to waste my time to deal with this kind of people... the more you entertain her, the more she will bother you... so my advice is just to ignore her and pretend that she does not exist at all... take care and have a nice day...
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
I don't talk to her. The sad thing is I always hear her talking about her achievement and she is also telling the group that she can have all the things she wanted in life.
@brew2x (3094)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Just try to ignore her. I know it would be hard since you've mentioned that she likes attention but I know it is possible. Try not to be affected by her, always put in mind that you are working for yourself and for your loved ones. Also remember that there would be always be someone annoying in every workplace. If you can't really handle being with her then might as well apply for a new position in a different department.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Thanks for your sharing. I do ignore her, but sometimes I am tempt to say something about her because everybody talks about her. What I am angry for is those people in our workplace are obviously talking negative about her, but she doesn't mind them while me who did not do anything to her was being stabbed.
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
You are right, forgive her and don't even mind of competing her because you are not like her in the first place. Just keep your composure and always be cool so that you will not get any friction there in the office.
The most no-no thing for you to do is not use a social network site to flame any anger with any of your office mates. Be professional and just stay low profile.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Thanks for your sharing. I just ignore her because I know that she will not do anything good to me and she doesn't deserve to have my attention. I just hope that I can forget everything what she did.
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
I guess you should report this incident to your manager or someone who is supervising you. She is violating some rules in the office I think. Sometimes it is hard to be kind when we are surrounded with evils. Some people like that shows their true color, those kind of people are attention seeker and insecure with their own self. Don't mind her, just focus on your work.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
5 Oct 11
I ignore her always, but I begin to feel irritated when she started talking about herself as usual.
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
4 Oct 11
Without attempting to judge either your mate or you, I know what I would do in a such a situation. I would let her get attention/advance and not be bothered but just do my work. If I did not agree with her methods I just would not emulate them. "Good luck girl it is your life."
As for using face book for office politics I would suggest that this was improper and let someone else deal with her. An office manager or someone outside the company even might be interested if it is work related as it could possibly, depending on how serious the comments, be considered abusive or even slanderous. Since you forgave her let it go but next time maybe business will be business related?
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
I understand your comment because you are not in the situation where in you are with a person that is so annoying. You are lucky maybe if you don't have this kind of officemate. I got a negative image from our HR officer because of what happened. The reason why she hated me is because her number one enemy is my friend. She thought we were talking about her all the time.
@viney17 (688)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
Maybe you just need to clear things up with her and befriend her, just as you said she doesn't have a real friend, so why not become her first? A person's past may affect her personality and current mindset, there are many people like that, or maybe she is insecure, with ahm maybe you? Just try to clear up things first, ask why she said that, since you said that she is a valuable worker in your company then she doesn't have a reason to do that.
@jaderamirez (1029)
• Philippines
4 Oct 11
We became friends before but it did no work. I gradually avoided her because of her attitude. Every one in the office was wondering why I could stay with her. I even friend her despite of her attitude problem. She loves attention, every time she buy signature clothes everybody must be informed and she keep on mentioning it. That works also with her achievement in her work. She always mentioned indirectly to us how good she is in terms of working performance. I do not know what to do with her.
