It's time to marry Or leave me!

It depends on the situation. There are many circumstances that a guy just doesn't want to get married and the girl will feel it. In a relationship, a guy should know how to make a girl feel secure. I have lots of friends who have been with their boyfriends for so long, but the guy still isn't mentioning anything about the future. It's hard for the girl to wait, especially if they wanted to marry before the age of thirty but the guy just doesn't care about age. So in my opinion, if I'm already around 31 and I have a boyfriend of 6 years and still doesn't want to talk about marriage, then I will give him an ultimatum. I want a guy who is serious about future, and is not afraid of commitments.

That thinking would be the result of what has gone on between them during those 4 years. Four years is a long time to decide on their future.I don't know why men are so afraid to commit. If the purpose of friendship would be to marry and about which the guy knows, I would certainly leave him if he dilly dallies and puts off the 'd' day indefinitely.

i do not want to force someone to marry me. i mean if he wants to he will do that. he will ask me to marry him and there is no need for me to force him to do that... i mean i am sure its good to know that the relationship will go somewhere, leading to a family... but then i think its just not how we should want it to be. he might want out himself if you do force him.

Now that I know better I would definitely ask my daughters to set a time limit. If the guy doesnt want to commit then its time to move on. I think most guys will change after they are married and I mean that they change not for the better. Or rather when they are dating you, they are not themselves and when they are married, they revered to their old selves. So I think the first sign that they are family oriented is when they are willing to commit which to me is a good sign. I would definitely leave the guy if he doesnt want to get married.

Well I think I don't care how long I have to wait for a proposal, as long as my boyfriend could guarantee to me that he has a plan to marry me in the future. I mean why rush, right? But if my boyfriend will say that he has no intention of marrying me even in the future, then I think there's no use for that relationship to still exist. I don't need a rushed proposal, but I do need one before I die, right? Hehehe.

Well, it depends. If we're both ready and he doesn't show any signs of wanting to marry me, then to hell with him. I'm not wasting any time on him.

i think it all depends on the couple. i know for me it has been 8 years that i have been with my partner and i told him it's time to get married. he agrees and we are getting married in next year.

No, I wouldn't. I don't really care about marriage. It is only a contract. It doesn't truly change anything; doesn't mean that they suddenly love you more because you're married. I am not sure that I even want to ever get married.

When I got engaged for the first time I told my boy friend I would like to get marry withing a year as I do not believe in long engagement!

After dating for awhile I kind of said that to my ex. I asked him in a sly way what would happen in the future. I didn't think we could date forever. It turned out I probably shouldn't have asked and should have left him. It would have saved me from going through a divorce anyway.

I am with my boyfriend for more than 4 years now and he has been asking me about marriage early on our relationship. I was young back then and really felt that I am not ready yet. On our first year, I felt ready to commit but my boyfriend seem to think that I still don't want to get married yet. So, I waited for him to ask me again. Waiting is very difficult. I waited 3 years for him to ask me again and I didn't want to pressure him. However, I decided to finally ask him (nicely) about marriage(before I got tired of waiting). So, when we got to talking about it, it became easier and now we're planning more about it. So, if your boyfriend is not asking you yet, try initiating it. Or try giving him hints that you ALREADY want to settle down. Sometimes, all they need is a little push.

We are just opposing the christian belief that the couple should be bonded in the matrimony or sacrament of marriage. But with gathered facts,not all ended happily. They just left their partner irregardless of their sincere exchange of vows facing the altar believing that God is there witnessing. Therefore, we can not give irrational thinking why your boyfriend or girlfriend does not want to be tied up.Both of you can wait,even for a longer time for as long as you enjoy the company of one another. The fear of losing one another makes it stronger to hold tightly and securely the relationship they have and marriage is not even the assurance for that matter. As you stay with one another,you will learn what you are getting into. The maturity comes in to finalize the concrete decision that they are ready to hold the responsibility of the last phase in life which is Parenting or Family life.

No time limit for a proposal but I had a time limit for the relationship. A relationship has to be good. The intention is to grew old together. You need to be close for that, share, respect eachtother, be able to develop yourself, grow. If this all is not happening (even worse does) you should ask yourself what is important to you in your life. Struggling and feeling unhappy for the rest of your life? Always compromising or worser always giving in and forgetting about what you want, what you need, what you are looking for? If there is love, real love you have to feel it every day, it has to be proven too, over and over again. Those who say that the fact you are together says enough about loving eachother are not knowing what they are talking about. For some people it's important to get married, to others it's important to get children. If the one you are staying with is not sharing the same opinion, is not able to give what you need, you are wasting your time. I once had a boyfriend, the first thing he said to me was: I don't want to get married and I don't want children. I told him that is fine and I left. Why should I stay and give up on what I want? And yes ofcourse I can get pregnant and say it was an accident and hope he will like the kid as soon as it's born, but that is not my style. Only birds of a feather stick together.

if you really love someone, you need to be patient. marrying is not a race that we put a time trial to a relationship where it should progress into marriage. to build your own family requires a serious preparation because problems may arise if your both not prepared financially, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

I suppose that would all depend on the circumstances as every situation is differnt.

Ultimatums and love don't go together in my opinion. To marriage is or should be a decision that you both come to when and if the time is right. I guess if I felt the need to give such an ultimatum then I would hope it would tell me something about my own feelings. I really am struggling with finding the words to describe my thoughts on this. Love is love and marriage does not prove more committment. You can have deep and lasting love and committment with or without the marriage contract. It all depends on the people involved.

I think if the promise is not being fulfill and the leave for many years. It's time to decide the future if you really love the guy and continue assure of the time to marry you... Leave the proposal if nothing happen to said promise. It will make you hurt if you continue...

There are some conditions,it should not be too long to drag any relationship,should get married as early as possible or if they have some problems try to solve them as soon as possible and get married.Yes there is a time to marry or leave.As every individual has some selfish ness or there is certain time also to get married,if that time goes off then there will not be any wish to marry .

I guess, there's always a time for everything. A time to flirt, to play, and a time to take all things seriously such as marriage. Marriage is not an ordinary thing where you can always return your husband/wife and go back to your usual single life when you are done with it. Marriage is not that easy. It takes all preparation and courage to enter into that complicated yet blissful life. If I were to ask, i will surely leave a guy and move on with my life after waiting for how many years. You know, our time on earth is limited, so why waste for nothing? Unless, it is really worth to wait. But if your plans does not match with your partner, better think wisely and move on to the next chapter.

I think it all depends on the situation more than anything. And it depends on the two people involved. Sometimes getting married isn't good. My mom and dad didn't get married till I was 1 year old. They lived together for 8 years before they got married and after they got married they broke up within 4 years. My mom always said it was because she grew up once I was born and he didn't. So after they got married she wanted it all to be family things and he was still into going to the bar after work with the guys and not come home for dinner. I guess before they got married it didn't matter to her because she was the same way but after they got married she didn't want the party life anymore and wanted the family life. She also says that maybe if they hadn't gotten married and just continued to live together than maybe, a big maybe, they would still be together because maybe she wouldn't have grown up so much and would still liked to party with him. littlemissy signing off for now, talk to you later my new friend