What do you do?

That's sad to hear sis. I think it's best to talk to your husband. Ask him why he'd always complain rather than appreciating your efforts. I'm sure that he has some problem and complaining is his way to get your attention. Please let both of you have a nice talk without leading into heated arguments. I believe that everything will be okay if it's talked about with love and in a nice way. God bless you and your marriage!

Stress will cause for some to complain no matter how well we make life easy for them. The only way to get it to stop is to calmly discuss with him as to how both of you can compromise somehow and make some changes. But be aware that he may not be willing to discuss. So you have to find a way to get him to really listen to what you have to say. I would not say you, you, you and start the conversation with I have an issue, I am not happy and I would like to know what and how we can make the changes. See when a person is very stressed out and upset they will feel like they are being attacked when we use the you, in the conversation. If it does not change things for you then the love must be strong for you to overcome some of the complaining and or what to do next.

i will just tell him on the face to stop complaining and start to appreciate me... if not, i will just stop doing all those stuffs and let him do everything so that he will know how hard it is and learn to appreciate me more... and if he still doesn't stop his complaining, i will just have a time off and leave the house for a period of time until he realise his mistake... take care and have a nice day...

I think maybe he just likes to complain. He is probably having a bad day at work and instead of dealing with it himself, he is taking it out on you. I wold find ways to make yourself happy, so that this doesn't bother you as much. Right now he probably finds that if he complains, you try to please him, which nobody else does. If you just live regularly, this might affect you less. This must be so frustrating for you to live with. Have you asked him why he is always complaining?

Cooking and cleaning are not all things, try to do some thing for himself, try to get a time for going outside, try to get a time for sitting together to talk, try to remember with him first year of your marriage, all of thats trail with comfortable face and clothes. get that all and i am very happy to see your feed back Good luck.

Sometimes people get like that when they feel generally dissatisfied about life and take it out on the person closest who is usually the least responsible for their woes. My husband will go off at me at times in a very unreasonable manner and when I talk to him about it and let him know how much he upset me, her says that it is generally about something or someone else and not to take it personally; as if there was any other way to take it!

tell him to shut the hell up and tell him you are not his helper or his nanny in the first place. kidding there my friend.. well talk to him...find out what the hell is going on and what is ticking him. That happened to me before he always complain how bad i do the laundry lol so i told him straight in the face that i really do not know how to do the laundry ever since lol so he stopped complaining and purchased a washing machine! hahahaah and as for the cleaning, i am not the very best at the house so he also allowed me to get a nanny and a helper..but he still loves me

It seems that you have got here a lot of good advise. It is important to really get to know your husband. I doubt that he is always complaining just for the fun of it. But also think about what you would like as a change in him. Maybe you can talk with him (nicely, over a good meal) and you can reach an agreement.

If he is a habitual complainer then you can do nothing to improve the situation.Just ignore. But if his complaints are genuine then you know what to do. Have a nice chat with him and tell him what a drudgery it is to do the same thing every single day. Ask him for suggestions on how best you can break the monotony of your work.

I think you can try to ask your husband to share some housework with you when he is complainting. Then he would shift part of his attention from complainting to things he is doing. Good luck to you.

The question is: why is he complaining? Is he really not satisfied about you or does he have a bad day and is he ventilating his bad mood on you? Perhaps he likes to complain? Might be it's already a habit of him. By now you found out you can't make your husband happy with all the things you do. It's a lots case. So quit with that! It only cost you energy and there is nothing to win. Your husband will never say you are a great person and you did a great job or cooked a great meal. My suggestion is to do less. At least you won't feel unhappy anymore if he is complaining again because now he has a reason. If he has anything to complain don't jump out of your chair and do it/solve it, just ignore him. The same way you ignore a little kid that is always complaining and never satisfied. He can do it himself or let it be. If he asks why it is a mess, you can tell him since he is always complaining you want to make it easy to him by giving him some good reasons to complain. Start making yourself happy. Do things you like so you get positive energy again. Don't count on your husband to make you happy or give you a good feeling about yourself. You have to build on your own self esteem. Also... ask yourself what exactly for great things your husband is doing for you. Are you complaining is he is doing something for you or do you accept the fact he is never friendly to you? The only way to stop this is change your own behaviour! Ignore his complaining (leave the room, read a book, start singing or humming) Don't react as a quilty wife as soon as he complains Make yourself happy and show him you don't need him to put you down.

I don't know what's wrong with your husband, but it seems your in big trouble.

Talk to him clearly. Ask him what was he wanted you to do to make him feel happy. (Do this in the serious and calm manner) Just listen to what he wanted to say and just do what he wanted you to do. Since your trying to make him happy, ask him what will make him feel happy.

I had that issue with my ex. Relationships are all about give and take. If all you're doing is giving, and all he's doing is taking, there's really nothing that you can do. He needs to give a little, too. Talk to him, discuss your concerns and feelings on the situation. Offer input and listen to how he feels about it. Good luck :)

I would try and turn the table on him...find things he do that "you" would complain about. Meanwhile, if i were you i would give myself a break and stop cooking and cleaning for awhile since they don't make him happy anyway. Let him do them...see how it feels...then get some take outs for dinner and eat them in your bedroom. no sharing! lol

First, know what your husband likes and dislikes. If you keep doing things that he likes, you will see the immediate change in him. If you keep doing things that he doesn't like, his complaints will go up. Of course he also has to understand your interests and limitations but it still depends upon how much you can cooperate and create an atmosphere where both of you can understand each other.

the worst thing you can do is to force your self to make someone happy , may be he has some thing stressing him up and is reliving the stress on you , trying more than enough to make him happy will only worsen the situation , try and make him understand that by talking it over with him