It Defines Me

@p1kef1sh (45681)
October 5, 2011 4:53pm CST
I was talking to a couple of women earlier today about women's fashion and how tastes change as we mature. What we wear at 14 is different to 24 and has changed again by 30. Or not! Maybe as we age so our taste in clothes and what they say about us change. Do our styles change dramatically over the years and what were the prime catalysts that brought these about?
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
5 Oct 11
Personally, I've always prefered what I liked, not necessarily what was fashionable. Wearing the same types of clothing, one can be fashionable and out-of-date in an endless cycle. Other than big cities, I don't really see slaves to the latest fashions anyway. Teenagers who live at home and are lucky enough to have a job are the only ones who can afford them.
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@liquorice (3887)
6 Oct 11
I agree, fashion is fickle!
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
Because we are much smaller than the US perhaps fashion has a higher profile here. Every book stand has a zillion women's magazines devoted almost exclusively to the subject of fashion and beauty. As the father of a young woman in her 20s I also see her taking an interest in clothes and have noticed a change in her appearance especially since leaving university. I think that men's fashion is catching up fast too.
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• Philippines
9 Oct 11
I do agree.There was a time that I tried using what my sister suggest, shes younger than me and sooo fashionable..but to my dismay, I cant moved on the way I am and I should be. I was so irritated when I went home just because of the dress.. As of now, even though I want these and that fashion, but is not applicable on me, I dont buu the dress, but I still try if it will fit me..hehhe..just try..
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
6 Oct 11
I have never had any interest in fashion. I know what I like to wear and have a hard time finding it in the shops. As to what I wore at 18 I would probably still wear if the shops sold it but I hate what is sold these days.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
Now I am intrigued. What is your taste in clothing?
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
7 Oct 11
Long skirts are a definite "yes" for me and with my interest in history medieval clothing is also intriguing. Not medieval but immediately after that period, you might like my friends The Tudor Roses style of clothing. My sort of girls too. Not emaciated! Here's the link: www.thetudorroses.co.uk
@p1kef1sh (45681)
9 Oct 11
I think that this is the point where my idea of a male maid agency kicks in. Then you can walk around as gracefully as you like!! LOL.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
7 Oct 11
There's nothing sadder than dressing 'too young'. And spandex leggings belong on mannequins, NOT rotund matrons! My catalyst came with my first grey hairs and a chicken neck!
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
7 Oct 11
Caw, caw..........
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
7 Oct 11
LOL. Better than crows feet!!!
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@liquorice (3887)
6 Oct 11
Hmm, looking back in my wardrobe I have some horrendous things that I wore throughout the ages.. Things that I wore for work, or for special occasions mainly. I probably should have a clear-out and get down to the charity shop! However, my 'everyday' clothes have remained scarily similar. In fact some of them are literally the same clothes that I wore ten years ago! (A clear advantage to not being able to put weight on, lol!) For the clothes I wear on a day to day basis I go for what suits me rather than what's fashionable at the time (which may not suit me, and which will probably not be fashionable for very long anyway). So my style for everyday things does not change over the years, but for the clothes I don't wear very often, (things which were largely the product of "panic buys", ), my style has changed dramatically. Probably as a result of what was in the shops at the time.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
I deliberately stopped my discussion at age 30 because I suspect by then many women are concentrating more on little people than themselves. The Boss spends almost nothing on clothes except underwear - she hates shoes so doesn't spend on those either. But the years from mid-teen to about 30 are literally formative in many ways not the least fashion. I see women reach their late 40s and start taking a greater interest again.
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@liquorice (3887)
9 Oct 11
Hmm, some interesting observations there. I think the Boss sounds like a sensible woman, I can relate!
• Australia
6 Oct 11
My idea of dressing up is to change into a clean pair of trackies and a clean t-shirt. I haven't owned a tie for 40 years or worn one for 35. Or a suit, come to think of it. Basic black with the odd solid coloured shirt in red, blue or green. I never even got into hippie fashion when I was a hippie lol. Comfort and cheapness, they are my only criteria, and that has been so for 40 years, but even before that I was no fashion plate. So no, no radical changes for me, but also no fashion awareness in any case. Lash
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
7 Oct 11
Ah but suits are really boring and you do wear short in summer. Still it is getting hard to find simple t-shirts these days.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
Hate to say it GL but that so conforms to the outsider's view of the stereotypical male Aussie. LOL. But I know that there are some fabulous clothes designers there too.
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• Australia
7 Oct 11
Oh no no no, we have moved with the timees, and I am a throwback. We are mostly still (even more so) Americans in training, and majorly caught up in the globalised fashion world. Lash
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• United States
6 Oct 11
I love fashion and own quite a bit of fashionable items, due to my part-time side modeling work I have done throughout the years. Has my tastes changed, yes based on the times. However, I know I can't fathom wearing something an 18 year old would wear. I guess as we get older we prefer different looks and or sometimes some prefer more comfort, as life itself is a heavy load.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
As a model do you feel that the fashion industry conforms to a male idea of what women should look like or what women want to wear themselves? I see so many plunging necklines - to the waist at times - on the catwalk that I feel that fashion still panders to men.
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@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
7 Oct 11
So true. It is hard to find clothing that is not designed to attract men and that makes it hard to shop if you don't want to walk around with almost nothing on or clothes that are not very practical.
• United States
6 Oct 11
I find that the fashion industry conforms what a male prefers a woman to look like. Most of the s@xy type outfits generally are to attract the male gender, although many women enjoy wearing them, it usually is geared toward sales as to what men prefer women to look like.
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@pumpkinjam (8758)
• United Kingdom
6 Oct 11
What is this "fashion" of which you speak, Sir? And why are all your recent discussions about women. You're not thinking about becoming one are you? :P I must say, as a person who likes to wear comfy clothes and looks at "fashionable" items and says things like "that's disgusting" and "do people actually wear this stuff?", my style hasn't changed a great deal between age 14 and age 30. Saying that, my Mum bought most of my clothes (or at least had a say in what I wore) when I was 14. Now I am 30, I still prefer to wear jeans, t-shirts and hoodies (although it would have been jumpers when I was younger!) but, especially for work and stuff, I do think a bit more about what I'm wearing and I prefer loose trousers and, I think you'd call them jogging bottoms. You know the really comfy ones. That may be because I've "filled out" so they're more comfortable! I don't think, however, that my style or attitude has really changed.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
I am trying to establish whether women, as they age, change their fashion tastes to reflect their increasing maturity. Currently I have been doing some thinking about matriarchal societies and whether we would be a better nation if we had that here. I don't want to be a woman you will be pleased to know. It's hard enough being a man (or a 12 year old boy really).
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@kareng (59050)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I will go with style if the clothing is comfortable. That's my first requirement, as I work full time, I'm not going to sit all day and be miserable. I also agree with the other poster who said she will wear what she likes--in style or not. As for the prime catalysts, has to be hollywood stars.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
Hollywood stars. Do they follow or lead. Most of them wear other people's designs as a showcase. So on that basis I guess that they do set an aspiration point.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
6 Oct 11
I think our styles changes as our attitudes and life experiences change. As we get older we might not care as much what people think of our style. As we get older still, we just want to be comfortable! When we're younger we want to attract men or impress our friends and many of us feel that our clothing expresses our personality. As we become older and more emotionally secure, those things aren't as important but I think most women always want to look their best in one way or another. For instance, women like me might wear dowdy but comfortable clothing but we indulge in pretty earrings or other accessories.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
"Accessories maketh the woman" as Will Shakespeare might have said, but didn't. I wonder if people dress according to how they feel. Bright colours on days when yoiu want to be seen and muted ones when you want to blend into the background.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Oct 11
hi pikey as a kid I w as a tom boy but in my late teens I learned to wear pretty dresses and try to behave more like a young lady. I have never been a slave to the different styles. If I looked good in something then I would purchase and as womens styles change all the time just when You think what you like and are wearing is ou t of style it is back in again. as I am a large elderly lady I shun pants as who wants to see a big butt when they don't have to? ]I love denim skirts and soft lovely colors in topsl I play up my blue green eyes as they are my best feature and wear tops that will set them off more with a touch of eye shadow People here are amazed that I still use sonme cosmetics but why not older people love to look pretty too.
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
I absolutely agree Hatley. Why shouldn't older people make an effort and look good too. Well done you for taking a stand and not conforming to dreary cardigans and crimplene!
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
6 Oct 11
Hi pIkefIsh, you are there. I thought you left us. Our taste changes with aging. Not only women men's taste and fashion also changed with aging. I think our styles not change dramatically. It changes slowly.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
I have always been here but haven't posted any discussions in a long time. It is good to see you again.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
6 Oct 11
LOL I had an older sister who always wanted me to have the latest fashion and would educate me on what was in and what wasn't. In time I developed my own taste but relied on her for a long time. I have always been fashion conscious and like to wear what is "in" even though I sometime thinks thats silly. Now I rely on my daughter who reads all the fashin mags and knows all the latest fashins. I am not as obsessed, but I do still care...
@p1kef1sh (45681)
6 Oct 11
How does it make you feel when you are wearing something that you know is "in". Do your clothes reflect your personality do you think or are they just a practical necessity?
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
6 Oct 11
LOL when I was younger I felt like "hot stuff' now I guess I am so used to watching fashion I just enjoy it. I truly feel it's now more for me than others. There was a time I tried to dress to impress, not so much anymore. I am not extreme in style. I will adapt something to my taste and if it doesn't suit me at all I will pass on it..But I do like in style things.. I never thought about reflecting my persoanlity..I guess it does..I love red and consider it a power color. I do consider clothes more than a necessity as some things are just more fun to wear and to look my best just makes me feel good. I do the same when I am all alone and no one sees me so I suppose it is mostly for me ...
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Oct 11
hi P1kef1sh maybe you will be shocked after reading my reply but my clothes style didnt change over the years. From quite an early age on I hated skirts and dresses and still do. I also hate so called official clothing and am glad that something like a dress code does not exist in our office. You see the supervisors run around in jeans and sweatshirt or t shirt in summertime just as we ordinary employees do.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 Oct 11
I spent most of my working life in a suit and we wanted out of them. However, now I rather like to dress "smart casual".
• United States
11 Oct 11
I think that is because,as we get older we became moore intune with who we are,and dfines what like our don't like.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
13 Oct 11
Spot on. I think that's exactly what it is. Our clothes choice refelcts how if not who we are.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
10 Oct 11
I still have the same style or taste in clothes but I cannot wear it anymore until I lose some weight. I mainly dress for comfort now.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
13 Oct 11
I wonder if you see that as a compromise Steph. Inside is there a smaller woman keen to get all glammed up?
@swissheart (6482)
• Romania
8 Oct 11
it's normal to change as time goes by...I mean you can't dress when you're 30 the way you did when you were 15...you would look weird. yes my style changed dramatically...when I was 14=15 I used to wear sneakers and stuff like that... now I can't stand them and I would only use them if I want to go to the gym or stuff like that. I like high heels...boots and stuff like that
@p1kef1sh (45681)
8 Oct 11
I see plenty of girls aged 14ish wearing high heels and it does look pretty awful unless they have learnt how to walk in them properly.
• Philippines
19 Oct 11
Yes, I agree our tastes change over the years, when I was fourteen, I really had no taste in fashion and style, sometimes I get teased at at whaetever I wear. But now, I feel much better that I improved, people compliments me now in everything I wear. I guess I just learned what outfits suit me best.