You are Betrayed!!!

Betrayal is something that is hard to get over. Granted, there will come times where in some way, I may come to understand the reasons for said betrayal. Sometimes people tend to wilt at a moment of pure weakness. However, will I ever trust that person the same way again? It doesn't appear like that it is going to be the case sadly. There are a lot of times when someone betrays you and while eventually you might coexist, you will never look at that person the same way again. There have been people in my life who have betrayed my trust and while eventually with everything out on the table, it is easy to see their understanding. Granted, it might not be a justification but I can see where they might be coming from. Still I'll never really trust these people the same way ever again. Hurt rarely does go away and the wounds of betrayal run deep.

Bashful I would only that one time, it would be a trust thing and if it happened again I wouldn't end the friendship would I be mad of course, but that friend wouldn't get told anything else......

If you have something that you don't want anyone to know about, then don't let anyone know about it.. make sense yet? In other words there isn't anyone out there that you can trust 100% in my opinion. I have tried and burned EACH AND EVERYTIME.. some small things some very huge things. Not going into what those were.. just that trust is something that I believe you can try and give it, but don't be so hard on the person you gave it to, because it is actually your fault for trusting them in the first place to tell..

I can't remember why, but for some reason I learned early on if you don't want something repeated, keep it to yourself. I have seen times someone 'slipped' and accidently told something..so I vowed early on either keep what I don't want known to myself or blame myself when the 'secret' gets out..

I was betrayed by my former best friend at least twice. E second time round, she told my other friends my secret. E worst thing is that she didn't even feel apologetic abt it. Neither did she apologise to me. For such a person, I wldn't even want to give her another chance.

@Bashful, Since you seem to be as new or as old as me & I feel sincerely that there are guidelines myLot admin will impose, you may have to keep an eye for repeat discussions, as otherwise they delete it & you may feel bad for the hard work lost. Because I'm able to see almost an identical discussion topic on the sidebar. Just felt I have to share what I'm learning! Not mistaken, I suppose. If they did not delete, then since I had not posted comment on the other discussion, I will do here. The basic point that I take note of is that the friend who betrayed you once is sorry about it. Now if the friend is really repentant and your assessment makes you believe that then, my view is that he/she must get a second chance though with a firm warning that it is up to her to make use of the opportunity or find new friends!

I'm that kind of guy who trust friends totally, so I hate to be betrayed by my friends. If I was betrayed, I may forgive my friends and do not blame him, but I'll never trust him again. I just think betrayal is too bad a quality to accept.

I was betrayed by a friend before. I was very angry of course, initial reaction as they say. But I was able to forgive the person yet it was a long process and it took time for me to forget what happened. This kind of events is one of the hardest time in one's life. But we should always remember to forgive our offender coz everybody deserves a second chance. It's best to forgive although it's hard to do it.

Definetly Not !! . Trust is the base for long lasting and true friendship. If that is not there,there is no meaning in friendship.

OMG...I would be so hurt, first off but I would let her know what she did and how wrong it was then drop her as a friend. A true friend would hold your secrets dear (just like her own secrets) but it says alot about your friendship too! Must not have meant too much to begin with.

it depends on the what secret she had spread. If it is really something that is private and might give me a bad image and reputation from others... of course that is something I won't let her do again. I've had a friend who gossips about my private life (that I have kept secret from some friends and only tell to close one and those I felt comfortable to say such things) I have learned from others that she told it to our colleagues- although there is nothing wrong in that for there isnt any wrong thing that I have done. But what makes me mad was she uses bad words about me... after that I became cold whenever she tries to call me, i guess she later learned from somebody else that it already came to my knowledge... I did not confronted her I just let her feel how it has damaged my friendship with her that I thought was real... I never seen her again.

I was once betrayed when I was in middle school,to be honesty,it's really upset.I didn't tell her anything but kept paying attention to her behavior,it seemed that she just didn't care about it at all. I thought maybe our values differed quite much,so I just stayed further from her since then. It was really one of the most heartbreaking things for me in that time.

atwzzz, if that happens to me, i wont confront him or her.i'll say nothing to her nor look at her..ill make her feel that what she did is really wrong..ill forgive her if she says sorry,but never will i trust her again..

This actually happened to me not too long ago. I told my closest friend my biggest, most personal secret ever, and she actually posted about it on a website. Not only did all my friends see, but hundreds, if not thousands of random strangers also saw, my full name listed in it with full details of the secret. When I found out, I approached her, and in a calm and friendly fashion mentioned that it bothered me that she did such. She apologized, took it off (though by that point in time it no longer really mattered since literally everybody I know had already seen it) and remained my friend afterwards. Or at least, we remained friends until she decided she never wanted to see my face ever again, which is a little ironic considering she betrayed me several times, that only being one example, and I continually gave her second chances, trying my best to be a good friend, while she ends up being the one to get mad. Anyways, back to my point, as experience shows, pretty much anybody who betrays me gets a calm, friendly confrontation followed by a second chance without needing to even ask for one.

This actually happened in my group of friends and it was over a mark of an exam. One friend slipped out what the other friend got for her exam and the other friend got really offended because she said that when she tells you her mark, those marks are personal and private. But in my group, all my friends tend to tell each other everything, if one person knows something everyone has to know because we're a group. The friend got so angry she completely left our group. We have even after her a few days but it's just not the same and she's still upset. So know the people you are going to confide with well. I know that my close friends can't keep secrets so I don't tell them anything about me. I only confide with a few friends outside my group because they can keep secrets and I know their secrets but I never tell anyone.