I left my four years old daughter at home..ALONE..

You should have told your daughter too bad , she is going to work with you. She is only 4 years old and you are the parent. She should never get the say whether she gets to stay home alone or go with you. Where I live, it is aginst the law to leave home any child alone under the age of 12. I pray that you never do this again. Anything could have happened to her. What if the house caught on fire and she got scared so she hid somewhere inside? It happens!

I think you should not do that again. Should you be in that situation again, perhaps you should just force her to come with you to school. Or maybe if your parents or parents in-law are just nearby, then you can have them come over to look after your child. Many accidents and bad things could happen while she's alone at home.

You are feeling guilty that is why you post this discussion. I think all mothers do this. I have a friend who suddenly came up to me and confessed what she did wrong to her daughter too. I do that too :( Now I hope you know that you shouldnt leave your daughter alone at this age. Pulling her away from the TV and making her scream is better because she will be with you. Now what you should do is to explain to her why she cannot stay home and watch the TV all alone. My home has always been 'visited' by door to door salespersons. When we go out, I frighten all my children (which includes my nieces) telling them if they leave my side, naughty man or woman will get them. I think a bit of reality is never harmful. Real people is scarier than ghosts, I assure you.

That wasn't really a good idea because a four year old girl won't be able to protect herself if something bad happens.But I am very glad noting happened to her.Did you ask her to tell you everything she did while you weren't around?Her story might be interesting.:)

You should never leave your child alone in the house. She's still four years old. At that age, the child still doesn't know what to do. Maybe the child wasn't able to eat during lunch and dinner. If you really have to leave her, you should ask someone to take care of the child while you're away. Also, if the child will not want to go to school again and instead will just watch t.v, you should not allow her anymore because she might not want to go back to school anymore. She might just be finding excuses just to avoid school.

Good afternoon,humairaku! From what you said above,I advise you should take this case seciously!She is just a kid who need someone to take care of!As her mother,why don't you persuade your child more patiently? Don't you know?There have been much more cases occured from our realistic life that the children without their parents were involved in danger!Undoubtedly,you are such a good mother that you submitted your daughter's longing,but you just doted upon her in that case,don't count on god to take care of your daughter from now on!Just count on yourself!^_^ Everything goes well!

Hi Humairaku, Well, I can see from reading down through some of the discussion that you are well aware that leaving your child as you did was wrong. Where I live, if it got found out that a mom did that then the child would be taken from her.I understand that you were not expecting her to act this way but if it were me, I would have turned off the tv and gave her the choice of coming with me or I would carry her out to the car. My job was always important as it was my only means of supporting my girls and so I understand why you felt pressured. Still, my kids always came first. I was late to work a couple of times due to unexpected situations but my kids KNEW that if I was late or missed work, that was less money for us and for them that might mean a treat or an extra that they won't get.If I lost my job, then we all would be in a world of trouble. They knew at a young age WHY my job was important and how it affected their lives. Well, I'm glad it all worked out and your daughter is fine. You should have a list of available sitters just in case you run into another situation where you can't take her. I'm surprised that your boss allows you to bring her while you teach. What grades do you teach?

where did you teach humaira? i do hope you find the way, you can enjoy your work and there are somebody else can take care your daughter when you are still working.. what about your mother or your mother in law??

Thanks God nothing happened to her. I never leave my kids at that young age. I always keep an eye with them and never leave them alone. Now that they are young teens I am not even comfortable leaving them alone in the house when I go to work at night. So,I decided to quit my job and tried to look for a part time job.

Oh my God, I am totally speechless! Just promise you would never do that again. I am glad that she's okay. Next time maybe it's better for your to drop a call on your work place to tell them that you're going to be late. Leaving a child alone unattended is risky, especially these days. You'll never know what's going to happen. Better safe than sorry.

Hi humairaku I am glad to read that she is fine and more important that you dont want this to happen again. On the lighter side(if you may permit) - Was the home all okay when you arrived back because the only time when they left my nephew all alone in the house, when they returned, they found almost nothing was at its place. oh my nephew was 7 then.

Well, I observed you really brave to let your daughter stay at home alone. Understand sometimes we face situation when our children refuse to go but sometimes we must able to be more creative to ask them to go with us,let say by promising something or anything that she likes.I prefer to do that rather than left them alone which riskier and make ourself unable to focus as well. However, television or any other technology sometimes make our children addicted to it, that's the reason I limit my children to watch television,only weekend or holiday is allowed to watch.

I have a 4 year old and if she told me she wasn't going to school and was staying home to watch cartoons I would think "How funny" and tell her she is most certainly going to school. At 4 she shouldn't be giving any power to decide. I sure would't leave my child home alone at that age. Anything can happen when a small child is left alone. Yes thank God she was alright and please don't leave her again and please understand she shouldn't tell you at four, you should tell her you are the parent not her.

I dont think i could ever leave my baby at home alone. no matter the reason my child want be left home alone.

Fortunately your daughter is fine. I hope you will never do this thing again any more. It is too risky. You will never know what happens to such a little child. As they are too little to know what will be dangerous for them. We can not afford any kinds of accidents. So please be careful, patient and responsible to your child. I love China

Good nothing happened, not only are there very dangerous things inside the house like what the others said but in out country, we have a law concerning negligence, in case something happened to your child because you left her. you could be criminally charged or go to prison for doing so, , hope you don't do that again.

Hello Humairaku, Thats not good you should not left your daughter alone she is so small and i also thank God that nothing happened. You know i have twin kids and whenever my wife has to go somewhere she takes both the kids of age 3 years along with her and don't leave kids even with their grand mother too.She says she don't like to leave a kid alone at home. I am surprised how you took the decision to leave her.Plesae take care in future.

Yeah this was very sad leaving your child alone at home. As she was still 4 years old she can't do anything if something happens at home. If you want to leave your child arrange someone at home or ask your neighbor to have an eye on her.

Oh my gosh... This is unbelievable !!! I don't want to judge you but this is no acceptable. I my neighborhood we have a lot of nanny work because the parents are working and their children are at home during the whole day ever if they are at home part of time they need somebody to care of them. I think this is not a good reason to left your daughter at home alone, I mean, doesn't exist a good reason to do something like that. I think if your neighbor knew it probably now you will in jail for left her alone. For example here in my neighborhood a nanny she was arrested because she left two kids, three year old, twins in the car when she was doing groceries, one costumer from the supermaket saw the children crying and called to the police at the same time. The police man came and when the nanny came back she was arrested. The police man called to their parents and told them what happened with their children. So you need to be careful and responsible in this situation, if you need to go work and your daughter can not goo to school try to find a nanny or some neighbor that can stay with her for a while so you will go to work feeling safety about this!!

too ofetn watching tv is not good. it gives bad bad impact, esp kids. kids just imitate what they see on tv.