Is it wrong to expect a shower for baby number 2?

I am not sure if it is expected but in my arena of people we do baby showers for all pregnancies. We do all out for the first and perhaps the second is not so big but we still do them as the idea is to help with what the new baby will need. We are even more organized the second time around as our thoughts are that the baby should get what they need, so we do registries and on there is listed specifics of what mom needs. I don't think anyone invited has ever said to our knowledge that it was selfish as babies are are usually welcomed and exciting even if after number one.

It is in general not done for the second baby. As you know, everyone is very excited when it is their first baby. This applies to our kith and kins too. They will not be equally excited to buy things for your second or 'n'th baby. If you them to buy things for your second baby, you should be aware that the same will be expected out of you. You could rather buy it on your own!

For one thing, I don't really know if it's selfish because I've never had friends who had baby showers for baby number 2. Perhaps they just wanted a party in celebration of the occasion, nothing more, nothing less. However, it could certainly be called selfishness if they're expecting a lot of people to give them lots of stuff again. It wouldn't look otherwise, if they had a shortlist of things that they no longer need (like the cribs and stuff). Have a great MyLot experience ahead!

Oh, ladym33, no one should ever expect to receive a baby shower regardless of the number of the expected child. It is nice to be showed with gifts for your new arrival, but I firmly believe that one should be more self-sufficient and proactive when it comes to the needs of our own families. Be thankful for whatever we receive but know that it is ultimately our responsibility to fulfill the needs of our families.

I live in th uk and hardly anyone has baby showers here. To be honest I think it would be greedy to expect more than 1 baby shower. Your first is more like a way for people to congratulate you on becoming a mommy for the first time. After your first you should be a bit more prepared and not need people to get those little things that you desperately need for your first. That's my opinion anyway. I guess each to their own though. I am sure many people have friends who would probably throw them a mini shower for the second child anyway. Just don't expect as many people to turn up and expect less extravagant gifts as the novelty will have worn off by now.

I agree that the first baby born will always and should always get the huge shower celebration. After that first baby I think maybe you could have a little something for the second baby but nothing like the first. Maybe even not ask for any gifts but still have a sort of celebration. I feel if you did anything for the second baby that would be the way to go. Happy Mylotting!

I would not take either extreme. Traditionally, in my day, which is about fifteen years or more before yours, you got one baby shower. However, in today's world, you may have a different set of friends or coworkers when baby #2 comes along, and they may WANT to give you a shower. You should not expect it. I am thinking that it was also only appropriate for certain family members to give the shower, or in my case, the church gave me a shower. So for baby 2 family could have given me a shower.

I think it is situational and every family and friends will do what they think is right. for example some of the cloths is no longer usable, the second baby might be 12 pounds and the first baby was 5, the second baby might be a girl the first was a boy, the family might not have much money. the child may not have been planned and the family already donated their baby things to charity and so on

I don't even believe in baby showers for baby number one. It is just a way to couples or just the Mother, if single, can bludge more things for the baby. Couples or single women should not be ahving babies if they cant afford it. As you rightly stated, people give a gift after the bay is born anyway. Why give gifts before the baby is born?

I dont think anyone at ALL should expect someone to throw them a baby shower. If someone is willing to do this for us then that is wonderful but it should never be expecte. I didnt want a second baby shower but my sister threw a surprise one for me anyway. It was really sweet. I gave my sister a baby shower for her son. My mother gave her a baby shower for her daughter less then 2 years later. Now 7 years later she is having another baby and wants a shower. The problem was that the second baby shower only 2 people showed up. If it was me I would never want to have a shower again thinking of that happening again. I seriously dont think more then 5 people would come to this one and that is if those few people arent busy. It will be very sad to have to go through that again as well as me having to pay for the cake and decorations and all the food just for so few people to show up.

I don't think it's wrong to expect a baby shower for the second child or every baby. What you said about having baby things in the house is true, but if the parents and their friends want to celebrate the new arrival with a shower why not? It's inevitable that some new stuff will be needed for the new baby, and some people actually enjoy baby showers. So ultimately it all depends on the parents and their social circle. While I don't think the parents should be called selfish for wanting another baby shower, I also think that the parents should be understanding if people who participated in the first baby shower don't want to participate in the second one...we're going through hard times as a nation and disposable income is hard to come by.

Hai ladym there is nothing wrong to expect a shower for baby number2. If there is only one that baby mostly become selfish, he or she can't know how to share. Definitely first baby will get too much attention of their parents.

One of friend recently planned a baby shower for her second baby. When we asked her about it she simply said i don't want to differenciate between my 2 of my kids . And As this is the bignning and of his or her life and so he should get the blessing from all loved ones.