A lamp on the road

I do agree with you friend and this is a good story which has to be say during weddings. Now a days most of the married people are breaking up their relation because of this reason. They are only seeing negative things in their partners. If they try to see the good qualities of their partner they will never break their relationship.

You'll have to forgive me if I find fault with the story. It would have been perfect if both had chosen not to have any list; and both had decided their partner was perfect. But that's asking too much, obviously. And then, the seed of dissatisfaction was already planted when the wife suggested they make a list of annoying things. So the next objection will be, why is the husband the loving one, and why is the wife the fault-finding one? Why couldn't it be the other way around? Well, of course if it was the other way around, I would have asked the same question. So this doesn't work either. And then, how does making a list of faults in the partner contribute to strengthening the marriage? Obviously the wife's idea was flawed to begin with. So what exactly is the moral? Is it that we should not have such ideas as the wife had about finding fault? Is it that we should all be like the husband, and not see any faults? If the wife is wrong, according to the story, then how do partners work at fixing problems in their relationship? If the husband is right, according to the story, is it because he's blind, or is it because the wife is really perfect? The wife can't be perfect, because nobody is perfect. So the husband is blind. But the wife isn't blind, and she does have three pages worth of grievances. The husband shamed her into ignoring her list. Smart guy. If he hadn't done so, he would have had to answer for all the faults his wife sees in him. Sorry. I love analyzing stuff.

hongqistreet, I believe the lesson here is not to overlook and ignore issues within a relationship like sweeping things under the carpet but to know how to learn about love in relation to our marriage. We can't hope to know what we want merely by the power of thoughts and take a sit back attitude, hoping life will automatically fall onto our laps with no problems. We need to climb into the skin of a relationship, walk around it and go through our baptism of fire to learn about the 'correct equation' needed for us to have a decent, fulfilling relationship. There's only so much you can learn from others and nobody, other than ourselves. Only we can give the best strategy in our game of love. Since we are ALL imperfect beings, I have to remind you that you won't be able find a perfect mate; you can only seek for an imperfect mate to work out a perfect relationship.

Very touching story. So sad to know that woman have many lists, and yet she still with her husband. And a man who really loves her, love the way she is:-)