how to be a good friend

@adhyz82 (36249)
Indonesia
November 2, 2011 10:34am CST
sometimes our friend can accompany us, sometimes can support us.. but sometimes our friend can be a great enemies for us. how to be a good friend and our friend can be still our good friend?? share, please
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21 responses
@mantis36 (4219)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
friends are still friends but if you have a family and kids too, i think family and kids needs first before friends.... and due to the situation of life today, i think family first before anything else...
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
yes, i think we can understand when our friends married, the first attention for him is his husband and his kids...but there are times too for his old friend if he want to be friend with us...
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
i agree too atleya..but see my point too..with our new family it does not mean we forget our best friend...
@atleya (946)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
Yeah, I think mantis is right. Family is the first priority, then just friend...
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@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
What is important in friendship, we must be sincere.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
what about sacrifice and trust each other??
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
5 Nov 11
The sacrifice is sometimes necessary in friendship, and mutual trust are also indispensable. If we are sincere in friendship, all it will present itself.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 11
yes, you are right...when we are friends , you must respect your friends
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
3 Nov 11
a friend is not an enemy if they act like one they were not your friend in the first place.
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@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
a friend sometimes cAN be a good enemy for us..why? because they know everything about us..
@emine08 (1551)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 11
i cannot say much about that but i have a principe that everyone is my friend but there is no one is my best friend.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 11
wow...what is your principle?? do you had account of facebook??
@Sanitary (3968)
• Singapore
7 Nov 11
A good friend need not be there for us, physically all the time. A good friend, true friend always lend a helping hand when we need it most, unless common friends, patting our back, always contacting when there are no problems. The moment we approach them for help, excuses and reasons make up for their disappearance. In fact, a good friend need not on constant contact at all because there will be some kind of bond, chemistry created somehow and we will be able to sense it, therefore helping each other out.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 11
a good friends is in near of us when we are down, they always come and encourage us for still waking up and believe that we can it someday..
@Mashnn (4501)
11 Nov 11
Treat them right. Have empathy and treat them the way you like to be treated.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 11
i had done but it doesn`t works for her..i had taught 2 semester for her..but now she did not the meaning say thanks to her master..
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
yes, you are right it`s time for me for getting a new friend..
@Mashnn (4501)
13 Nov 11
Then it is time to move on and find other friends.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 11
Treat your friends as how you want to be treated. They will surely remain your friends on all seasons.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
yes, when we want to be trated well,the first we must trated somebody else with a good manner..simple conclusion..
@wongchoiyee (7413)
• Malaysia
3 Nov 11
I think both must willing to be loyal and helpful.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 11
protect each other too..
@sql_cell (1427)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
Being a good friend, need mutual understanding, mutual help, and do not benefit from each others.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
yes, need some understanding..i understand my friend and my friend understand me... we respect him and he respect us too..thats make friendship be long time i think
• Mexico
6 Nov 11
Hi adhyz: As you have mentioned, being a good friend could be really difficult. Sometimes we really appreciate our friends but hurt them with our actions. It's difficult and there's no formula because friend are so different. But for me, a friend should listen and he/ she should offer his/ her support when his/ her friend is in need. ALVARO
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
24 Nov 11
yes, if we want to get the best friend, we must become his or her best friend too
@sanjay91422 (2725)
• India
3 Nov 11
I think to be a good friend all you need is to be a good human being. Be nice to yourself and you will be nice to everyone in the world. Being a good example for others is also a good way to be a friend. I think friend is the one who inspires you to be a good person. You learn the new good things with friends.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
yeah..i agree with your point..how come we can be a good friend if we can not be a good human being...
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@eljayo (1105)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
Hi! Friendship is about people who care fro each other.It takes time and effort fro you to cultivate your relationship.It is not always happy there are bumpy roads,down times and conflicts on the way but if both of you are strong enough to face theses things then your friendship will continue to flourish and grow.Being a good friend means respecting and supporting each other. Having the courage to tell your friend that he is not right when you feel that he will be in trouble because of his deeds. Conflicts may arise with these feelings will be hurt but if you are a true friend you will not let your friend do bad things or even support them with it. Being with him especially in down times and is willing to lift and help him cope in difficult situations.All for the good of each other is your goal.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
i think make a great friendship need time and sacrifice for keeping the friendship still exist.. sometimes there are problem with us and our friend and sometimes broke our frienship, but if we remember that in frienship, there are more advantages, we try the best for making good our relationship
@bhonti (1246)
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
Being a good friend is being as honest as possible with each other. No hesitation to tell the truth to your friend specially if one is going on the wrong path or obviously making the wrong decision. Being a good friend is not tolerating the wrong doings of another but rather correcting them.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
4 Nov 11
yes, honesty is one of the factor make us canan be good friend...
@charvill (58)
3 Nov 11
For me to be a good friend is to a good listener. Be there when they need a companion, understand as much as possible and do not throw criticism, and most specially be who you are, do not pretend.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 11
from a good listener, we understand when our friend get problems and they trust us to share their problems..i get your point
• Philippines
3 Nov 11
Being a good friend,Love and respect to each other. And if a friend having a tough time, be as a compassionate as you can let them vent and just offer your shoulder to cry on, don't say a word unless asked.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
3 Nov 11
I think that a true friend is one who will love all your good bits as well as your bad ones and the security that the friendship will withstand anything, in other words, no matter what happens no one is going anywhere just like in a good marriage. I believe you found a true friend if you feel comfortable being you warts and all with this person and your life is enhanced by the friend’s presence in it. A friend should be your soft place for you to fall when times are tough and vice versa.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
11 Nov 11
yes, a good friend is soft place when you get some problems and troubles..
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
3 Nov 11
Being a good friend comes from good people. If a person doesn't have morals when difficult time comes they will betray others. Cheating a love partner or a friend don't come from a person that has a good carachter. So before trusting our friend we should know if they have morals.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
3 Nov 11
morale?? my simple question is if we had a friend from another country and another religion, the morale from different country and different religion maybe is not same.. so??
@asliah (11137)
• Philippines
12 Aug 12
hi, to be a good friend of course you will never ever bring your friend down and you will always help him/her whatever his/her problem it is as long as you can.having a good friends is really hard at this time.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
2 Nov 11
Friendship can only exist if you respect and accept the other person the way he is and if that other person is respecting and accepting you the way you are. It has nothing to do with always sharing the same opinion or liking the same things or speaking the same language. Friendship is not only giving but also taking. Friendship has to be honest and open and understanding. If both parts are that way they will overcome every problem or disagreement since that is not in the way of the friendship but something seen apart of it. There is not really a guideline how to be a good friend. But what is important is that you both know what you expect how a friend should be. If this is something you or the other one can't fill in it's a lost case. Also you have to understand that it's impossible to always be there. It's a good thing to try but in a life can happen so much that it can be hard to keep such a promise.
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
2 Nov 11
i always respect and accept my friend situation.. the problem is some or few of my friend changed their respect and can`t accept my condition when their situation is changed like they become richer and iam still like me several years ago.. maybe few of them is shy still had a friend who had nothing..
• Philippines
5 Nov 11
There's no such thing like best friends, but don't over-show how good you are to avoid doubts. We cannot judge a friend even if how nice they are, just focus your attention and may be you do observations and don't let them know, if something is wrong then time for you to decide, a friend is important if it doesn't give you harm just be careful of choosing a friend.