Is having a natrual birth, your right into motherhood?

I agree with OpinionatedLady, that it probably was the fear of surgery and the hormones talking. I am sorry you had to go through that. It was not even your choice that you had to do a C-Section. Good for you that you are able to be happy about it. I know many people will not be, going on a complaining mode, etc. I am sorry that your sister took your encouragement the wrong way. She probably thinks you are trying to show her up or something. Just be an adult about it. Don't even bother explaining yourself to her except to say that you are sorry you caused her distress and that it was not your intention, you are just trying to let her know that giving birth by C-Section is not the end of the world, or something to that effect. My sister had two babies by C-Section, because of her health condition. Does that make her a bad mom? No Way. She is a better mom than I am. I had both my babies natural, does that make me a good mom? NO. I don't think so. I don't agree with your sister saying 'C-Section is the easy way out'. I think it is more difficult. Sure you miss out the labour and pushing pains, but what about afterwards? You missed out on the important bonding time with your new-born.In my opinion, women having to go through C-Section got it way worse than those who are giving birth naturally. Let's face it, natural way, two days later, you are back to normal, well, not quite normal, but pretty much getting back on your feet. With surgery, you need to wait at least 7 days for the stitch to heal, etc etc. Don't take offense to what your sister said, I'm sure she didn't mean to hurt your feelings either.

Your ticket to motherhood was when you held that baby in your arms. I'd have asked her to explain how someone adopting a child, truly loving the child, caring for the child, keeping the child safe, makes THAT mother any less of a mother. Being a mother isn't how you bring the child into the world, it's how you care for it once it's here. Don't feel bad or any less because you had a c-section. In my opinion, her comments made HER less of a mother because I can almost imagine the values this child will grow up with.

All along, I prefer natural birth, as I think it's good for the baby and the mother. But, when it comes to complication, I think life is more important than everything else. I went through the labor when my son was born, but I failed to go through natural delivery, as my body frame is too small for my son to come out, hence the doctor advised me to have an emergency c-section. Definitely, I'd take doctor's advice, as I didn't want to take the risk, it's a life of my child. Though many people "commented" or advised me that I should try hard for the natural delivery, why should I take the risk? I think your sister didn't really mean to offend you, but just this is her preferences, though you are just being supportive.

I think your sister is just scared with the c-section procedure that is why she came ranting about it. Just continue to be supportive on her and try your best to be patient as well. You know best as well that natural birth is not your ticket to motherhood. Having a c-section or adopting a child doesn't make you less of a mother as long as you love your child. You have to take care of your baby from childbirth and continue to love your child unconditionally. That is being a mother.

I wonder where she got that? It does not really matter what manner a child is born. C-section is even more dangerous a process at times. It sounds funny that she has to say it in your face (and in FB) as if you are competing. I do not see anything wrong with what you said to her. It was an innocent answer of assurance. But anyway, it must've been the hormones, stress and pressure.

I also support natural birth.but nowbdays the natural birth is very rare.i think it is due to the change in life style of the persons.the persons are not healthy and they cant deliver a child without the help of an experienced doctor.the pre gestation caring also contribute to the same.they are not getting the proper exercise

Everybody has their opinion on to where starts motherhood but i dont think it is by having a natural child birth. Either way, batural or c-section, you are having a baby and you body is suffering to have them but in diferent ways. Honestly i think that a c-section is the best because it wont stress you out as much and many woman get stressed out that they dont want to pass through that experience. Not all of course but a small percentage. I would like to have a c-section if i ever had a child, not because it is the easy way but because i think it is safer fot the baby.

It's not actually a passage into motherhood if you undergo a natural childbirth. I mean, carrying a child for nine months is already a passage in itself! It depends on the situation. Like you, other mothers experienced c-section due to complications such as the breech position of the baby. Nobody can tell you that you've just missed out on the passage of motherhood just because you had a c-section. Motherhood starts when you care for your child since the time of conception.

Pregnancy causes hormonal and emotional changes in women.Your sister must be probably anxious and afraid about her possible C-section.She may still be in the state of denial about it and tries to suppress thoughts of it.I think what she need is for someone to talk to about it and overcome her fears.Try to understand your sister and let her comments pass.Most women prefer natural birth over any delivery procedures but there are instances that we must do other procedures in order to save lives.