Will this marriage be successful?

India
November 19, 2011 3:10am CST
My friends husband and she got married in April. It was an arranged marriage Before marriage we were very happy but just a couple of weeks after the wedding we have been having arguments constantly. Basically he is a nice guy, she can see that but we have a lot of differences and we can't understand each others point of view.Now there have been a lot of scars after all the nasty fights. she try to talk to him but he screams and just thinks he is right. Now she seriously want to know whether this marriage will work out or not. she really can't take this constant fight, accusations with he not seeing my point of view Her husband always thinks he is right and if she tell him my side then he straight calls my father and says nasty things about me. Before her family was against me but now my sibblings have understood my point of view and are supportive she do want this marriage to work out but just can't get rid of the scars and specially the last fight has just broken me from inside. Will this be a marriage work out
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10 responses
@taheraa (1545)
• Giza, Egypt
20 Nov 11
I think that you are completely always put your self with your advice between them, if your friend, see that their relationship has been put in the corner, let some one else like his family and/or her family get their advice, i think that will be different in handling and accepted from both " your friend and her husband ".
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
19 Nov 11
hi sheetal, first I want to respond dto your post but for some reason it seemed very confusing....You started off by saying it it was about your friend and her husband who has just wed..but your next sentence was talking about we..So I will only say a couple of things..it sounds very much like you are speaking about your self. No one deserve to be in a relationship thats sound like the one you described...especially so soon after saying "I DO" or "WE DO". It dosent't sound like any children are involved. just an arrange marriage that has gone sour...I am not to familiar with arrange marriage so I done want to disrespect your culture but I don't know that 2 poeple should marry for the right reason and constantlyh argueing is not the reason. What does the father say when he call her father..Hopeful he is taking the time to listen to her side...Maybe I am a little less educated about arrange marriage than I thought...Just be care so no one will get hurt phycially...marrying someone who you really don't know could be a huge suprise. Good luck!!!!
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
19 Nov 11
I don't really know if this is your marriage or your friends' but whoever's it is... it is their decision and their partner's decision to make it work.
@dong88 (795)
• China
19 Nov 11
Hello!I think,both sides of husband and wife to many communication,calmly communication. If love each others,communication is especially important. If realy can't change to return to the love,that only to divorce......
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
19 Nov 11
Very Confusing discussion first of all you get clear yourself Is it your friends marriage or Your Marriage and if it is their marriage what are you doing in their married life. You should give them some space and time. Its hardly not even 6 months passed and you are interfering in their household deed or their married life , whats your interest there. I tell you my View ,My best friend got married in oct 2009, and since his marriage, I hardly visited his house as he was my same friend with whom I used to be all the time and even till Midnight. So I think You should give them space and time. Otherwise this marriage will be gone by the wind. I hope you understand what I mean Have a Nice Day
@Rick1950 (1575)
• Lima, Peru
19 Nov 11
Nobody can know this, but your friends should keep fighting for their happiness. Thus they have to try to forgive the offenses to each other. I think your view about this situation should be impartial. And do not try to involve in their troubles too. You can suffer unnecessarily. Only they can solve their differences and you can expect that this will happen.
@zralte (4178)
• India
19 Nov 11
Sorry, I just need to clarify something. Your friend got married, you don't get along with her husband and fights with him all the time. Because of your fights with her husband, you think that her marriage is suffering. Correct me if I'm wrong, it sounds like you need to step back and look at the situation. She deserves to have a good marriage and if you are always fighting with her husband, that cannot be a good environment for her. Why don't you try NOT fighting with her husband? If that is not possible, don't see her husband. Meet her when she is free without her husband.
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
19 Nov 11
I am not sure whether or not I am getting it correctly. I got confused with who is SHE[i][/i]. However if you are a friend or sister of the lady who got married with the guy. Then I think you should let them work out their relationship. You don't need to always be around with them.
• China
19 Nov 11
This is a meaning, not equal to divorce,although for two people divorce is very painful,but long pain rather short pain,so live has been du mot have what meaning ,think well,maybe a divorce is a quite good choice
@ygna21 (294)
• Bulgaria
19 Nov 11
I didn't understand if this is your marriage or your friend's marriage. Whether a marriage is gonna work or not depends on the people in the marriage. Maybe they (you) should try to have calmer and nicer conversations and discuss things more.And if it doesn't work divorce is always an option. I hope things get better though and they make it through the hard times and learn to communicate with each other the calm nice way.