Don't expect too much.

Yes, I agree with you... better to depend everything to us ourselves.. don't expect too much.. to avoid disappointment.

Sometimes I think that I am my own worse enemy, expecting too much. It is rather going to just set myself for one thing in general. That thing of course being abject and total disappointment. Life can be a wonderful thing but it is not devoid of its disappointments and troubles. There are going to be times where things just spiral out of control. Despite it all, we just got to step forward. We got to move forward, past all of the disappointments. And really look at what happened. In failure, often contains success. Valuable knowledge of what drives most of us, keeps us from making the horrific errors that bog down our lives. In the end, we truly have understanding, which is a powerful thing. Still expecting too much may be biting off more than we can chew.

I really like your discussion...!!! Thats correct. To achieve one thing, but some times we couldn't win in that problem..We feel sad. Because of this failure.

Indeed. I have been chasing this dream of mine for long now. When opportunity knocked, I grabbed it and hoped and prayed for the best. I did not make the list, in the end. I feel so down and bitter. Lost is not just a word, it became a deep-seated feeling. A mixture of confusion and depression. Thanks to my friends. MY anxieties are allayed. And family is supportive. I love them. Thank God for keeping me on my feet.

Hi there...I can relate to what you are saying to a certain extent..But I think being a realist prepares you for ups and downs in life...no one can be 100 percent all the time because no one is perfect..especially when it comes to keeping your word. life happens and even with the best intentions..life happens.. and with that statement it demands us to be very understanding and realize just that... just because someone falls short on their intentions dosen't make them a failure..if we treat others as we like to be treated its not that difficult to be able to detect when a situtation is a failure or just life...there is a huge difference.. Sometimes we have to step into other shoes..its very hard sometimes to see the other side but remember there is always another side.

Well, I never try to expect too much of anyone because then you would get let down almost all of the time. I do trust people and have high expectations for people though but I never expect someone to do near the impossible! Because I know I can't achieve such goals!

This is a good point. Sometimes when a promise is broken by others or by ourselves, we want to go crazy and blow it out of proportion. We do not control all of the factors that impact our lives, and neither do others. On the other hand, when a promise is broken we must be honest about the cause. Was it totally beyond our control, or do we in some way share the blame. For instance, if a friend has promised to go someplace with you in a couple of weeks, and then you treat that person poorly through selfishness, being thoughtless, or downright nasty, what do you think will happen? You think your behavior has no consequences? How can you expect that friend to follow through on that promise! Would you?

i would agree. We sometimes have to keep our expectations within the reality. but of course it is always better to not lose hope. when we never lose hope, we always wins we always fight for whatever we want in life. Promises from people are different things, we can expect but also expect both good and bad things, this way we won't be disappointed much.

hello befrindwithme, expecting too much is fine. but, you must be ready to the consequence that it may face. and when somebody pledge his/her promise, you must be aware that this can be happen or not, as the many people says, promises are made to be broken. though, a promise is an activity that provide assurance, still, most of the time it is not happening.

Someone said I poured urine over a table. It actually was a cat that nudged the coke out of its bottle. I didn't like it said unto me Don't blame too much

I try and live by: 'My word is my bond.' Unless there are circumstances beyond control, I do stick to any promises I make. If I do have to change my mind or have it changed for me, I let those involved know. It is only courtesy, and courtesy costs nothing!

You are so right. I only wonder if time did change that or it's the way you are raised. I know that I was always raised to keep my promises no matter if I was able too or deadly sick. I always skipped everything to keep that promise no matter what. I discovered that most people don't care. No matter if they are family, collegues, best friends or just one of the neighbours next door. Not keeping your promises also makes it hard to trust someone. Since someone who doesn't care to keep a promise seldom will do what is offered as well. So I am not talking about a big promise that can't be kept because of a very good reason, but about all those promises people so frequently/daily easily make.

we cannot avoid expecting really.. i think we should just be ready for consequences.. lets just try our best to reach our goals..and if we fail its not the end we should be more inspired by it..don't worry to much about the future worrying is no use, it will suck up all your effort

Sometimes we just expect too much from people and when they don't give it to us we get mad,sad and disappointed. I think it is better to concentrate more on our own promises and to make sure we do our best to keep them and go for what we want to achieve. But I don't really agree with the 'Don't expect too much thing'. I think we should expect beautiful things every day and be able to see how lucky we are with all that we have.If you don't expect much I feel like you won't really get much in the end.Believing and expecting good things to happen to you will often lead them to you. But if it is about expecting things from others..yes you are right.

As you age and know more things about life, you realize that promises can be broken, either by yourself or people you love or people around you. Without a certain form of expectation, there are a lot of things that cannot be done. Work can't be completed without the trust you have in the person or a company to achieve a certain task or goal. When we purchase a goods or service, we expect them to deliver. But of course, a person or company fail to act as expected and people get upset. This should not happen too often though.

I tried my best to make promises that I made to other, but when I made that promises, I never get appreciated. Conversely, I felt like a fool myself. Why should I made those promises at all. Now, I intend not to make any promises at all, because I afraid of failure, and I don't want to be a fool.

I am doubt if someone promise me on something too much. I never lay my promise on people but on God. It says don't put hope in people but in God. People will change someday, but God remains still.

I have a motto regarding promises/expectations and life in general. Hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

yes no need to expect too much,co'z their is saying that expectation posponed make our hear sick.

This is something I have struggled with for years. I have always felt that a promise from God was binding. However lately I have found that the promises are only binding if everyone involved is obedient to the will of God. So it really did not matter if I did all that I was supposed to do if the other person did not. The promise of god was void no matter what I did. This iss so important. I cannot begin to stress how important this principle is.