wouaaa wouaaa wu wu wouaaaaaaaaaa - hand me a tissue please!
@allknowing (137748)
India
November 22, 2011 6:07am CST
When will I learn not to respond to topics that get deleted here. I am here since the last two years and I still get some of my responses deleted because the topics were a guidelines violation! I give up I say. I simply cannot come out clean. How about you? Are you in the same boat as I am?
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@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
22 Nov 11
Shhht! It's been almost a month since I didn't receive any notification for response deleted. I try to stay away from discussion that seem to be violation of the guidelines but I can't "see" all the violations.
The last discussion in which I participated and ended up deleted was at the end of October. Who could think the discussion "my friends are my business..."
(if you remember this topic) was going to be deleted?
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
That's it uni. The world will end may be but I will never get the hang of these wonderful guidelines of myLot! The consolation however is there are many here who think they know the rules and yet........
A month is passed you say and you have not received any notifications. That's called achievement. Keep it up!
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@inu1711 (5285)
• Romania
23 Nov 11
I wouldn't call it achievement. I would rather call it energy conservation. Why would I spend my time participating into a discussion I know for sure it will be deleted?
What are you saying there, Suny? Did you have a discussion and I was not there? (it probably was deleted before I saw the notification in my email box)
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
22 Nov 11
I have seen some discussions on here that have made me wonder as to why they got deleted. I do try to go by the guidelines very strictly and I always try to never duplicate and discussions. I think one of the hardest guidelines for me is to make sure that my discussion isn't asking for a yes or no...like a poll kind of discussion. I had a very popular discussion deleted once because of the way I worded the title I think. I haven't had anymore problems so far...but like I said..there are some discussions that I have answered and it was deleted that I wasn't sure why. Maybe if you ask admin they can tell you what's going on if you have had a lot of trouble with it.
Take care and please don't give up....I enjoy your discussions very much.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
Consolation far beyond my expectations and with users so openly coming out with their confessions what more can one ask?
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
The nursery rhyme
Ring-a-ring-a-roses,
A pocket full of posies;
Hush! hush! hush! hush!
We all fall down
fits perfectly here Jen..
What a relief to think that I have so many for company. Please push aside will you and keep a place for PPE!!
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@buenavida (9984)
• Sweden
22 Nov 11
At least your headline should give some compensation for losing the money. Really good one!
I´m sure people will want to know what it´s all abot. And yeah, we are in the same boat - once in a while my responses - and discussions - have been deleted and I have sometimes no idea why the discussion was deleted..
Well, maybe we all learn what kind of discussions we should respond to and start!
Have a great day..
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
You hit the nail on the head. You are right. I also do not know why a discussion is deleted and I always thought I was smart!
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@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
23 Nov 11
yeah i have some discussions deleted..more like milestone ones..well i just get on and forget about it...
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
Sorry jazel. You better take another both as my boat is filled to capacity. Unless I book a deck on the luxury liner sovereign of the seas! With so many for company and such good people who are all telling the truth it will surely be a wonderful trip.
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@vandana7 (100609)
• India
22 Nov 11
Well, not exactly. I mean I did start a couple of discussions that were deleted. And I am sorry that my friends responded. But I do respond knowing fully well that my response will be deleted. It is my laziness actually. I come to say hi to all my friends. I cant be going thru everybody's discussions due to time constraints. So randomly I get into such discussions, and let my friend know he or she is still on my friends list. :)
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
You belong to a special category vandana where one knows what one is doing. In my case I just don't know why a discussion gets deleted and despite thinking I am a know all!
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
22 Nov 11
yes i also can not control when i see topics and those topics will be easy to respond also,but at last it all gets deleted.
i also read the guidelines ,the do's are less and the dont's are more in number.
After reading i could not get an idea to start any discussion as i got lost in the guidelines ,i thought for a while what is really left to discuss if we follow those guidelines,but still we are doing such topics .
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
I don't think the situation is that bad uma. Most of the time I wade through but I feel very uncomfortable when I receive those notifications. I think I know the rules. It is a nice feeling though that there are so many here who are in the same boat as I!
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
23 Nov 11
yes i recently had one of my topics got deleted becox of there is only two sentences in the topic i started they asked to have some more sentences added to it,So as well as i too get my responses or the topic i answer get into deletion due to violations.That is what ,we are sailing in the same boat.
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
22 Nov 11
Yep in the same boat, except I have been here a lot longer, 5 years.. Sometimes I know when something is going to get deleted, but I still want to say something, but when I reply and it got past me that it was against the guidelines, I am shocked that I fell for another bad post.. But it happens, I try, but it happens.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
22 Nov 11
With veterans like you for company somehow gives me a feeling of security carmel...
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@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
22 Nov 11
I know I have gotten my share of responses and discussions deleted as well. It's hard to pass by something that looks like something that is easy to respond to. Or something where you didn't put in enough details to make it not looks like a one word response.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
22 Nov 11
With so many users I know my boat will be firm as a rock and will not sink!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
23 Nov 11
hi all knowing I also thought I was smart enough to know that a discussion had broken a rule and thus not waste my response
yet I fou nd six notifications that my responses had been deleted
living me with a teensy amou nt left for half a days wo rk. How
could I ha ve missed so many . well two Iknew I wou ld lose as I was tryingv to help a newcomer to realize she cou ld not make a discussion on goalposts like birthdays or reaching a certaind number of points, but the otherw were all surprises tp me. so
I go back and reread the guidelines but not being able to look at the discussions again obviously I could not pinpoint the broken rules.sob tears sob a lot of effort wasted
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
Keep the tissues for yourself, as I see your tears messing up here, there and everywhere! And about going through guidelines again and again I will not. And that is final!
@myfb2009 (8296)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 11
Hi Allknowing, don't worry, i am also in the same boat as you. Although i had been here for more than 3 years but still some of my responses seems got deleted for violating Mylot's rules. But, i don't mind, since we are here to learn and share about many new and interesting topics. So, hope you won't be sad about it anymore. It is not a big matter to us, as long we are always thinking the positive way. Lets continue actively participating in Mylot, whenever we are free. Happy posting to you....
@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
Sorry myfb. You better take another boat as my boat is full which was a pleasant surprise!
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
But then I have asked perga.... to join you. Don't overload your car suny.
@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
Luck did you say? I thought it was all about mugging guidelines. I have had well over 800 formulas for my Chemistry exam in my college which were on my finger tips but myLot rules just evade me!
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@zralte (4178)
• India
22 Nov 11
It happens, allknowing. To every member, at one time or the other.
For me, most of the time, I replied knowing full well it is going to be deleted. I informed the member that the discussion will be deleted and asked that he/she reads the guidelines. I don't mind doing that. I'm looking at it as my small service to myLot.
Then there are those discussions that I think are alright, but still get deleted. Just take it in stride.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
22 Nov 11
I don't like to make mistakes and so I am careful here. Despite that I get those notifications! Almost everyone here seems to be sailing in the same boat!
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
23 Nov 11
zralte - you seem to have having views similar to that of mine. I put the rule 80-20. 20% may be deleted. If we do with that idea then no bad feelings.
One reason why we respond -- to encourage our friend. that satisfaction is got. further no problems.
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
22 Nov 11
Yes. I also sail in the same boat as that of yours. But I do not mind about it. If the response is deleted we lose probably earning for one response only where the person who has started the discussion may lose many points -- for all the reply comments he has given.
Today also I saw a topic being deleted. Pl do not bother but continue to respond as hitherto. have a nice day.
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
22 Nov 11
Ofcourse I will continue to respond but when I think that I have carefully chosen topics that follow guidelines and then my response gets deleted I start to wonder! I think I am clever enough to know where there is a guidelines violation but now I have started doubting my cleverness!
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
23 Nov 11
allknowing -- may know all that is going to happen !!
I am also in the same situation. Nowadays I post keeping in mind that 80% of what I post only will be accepted and 20% may be deleted for various reasons.
Once we accept like that we will not have tension. Some members are very choosy in marking + but are liberal in marking ! and that may be a reason it happens like this.
have a good day.
@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
Whatever be it I just do not like that feeling when I am told that I have done something wrong!
@allknowing (137748)
• India
22 Nov 11
That is understandable but in my case I think I am cat's whiskers!
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
23 Nov 11
You have to accept the fact that not having any of your discussions or responses deleted once do not make you a true breed of mylot community. Only after going through the baptism of fire that we are made stronger and be able to face all the challenges that comes our way. Sure it is a bitter pill to swallow when we get notifications after notifications when we accidentally stepped on mylot landmines but that should not deter us from going on. The spirit of mylot should be within us and not to feel demoralized when things don't favour us.
@allknowing (137748)
• India
23 Nov 11
I am just through with the baptism of fire after reading confessions after confessions and honest ones at that!
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
22 Nov 11
Here's a new box of Kleenex! Into each life a little rain must fall (and it is coming down in sheets, here!)
I am sorry, but I am having just a little giggle...you know, misery loves company, so I don't feel alone in my chagrin!
My last week has been my biggest downfall, here! Some, I knew I was stepping into murky waters...other's just blindsided me!
One good thing has come out of it all...cause to re-read the "rules & regs." again, almost to the point that I can recite them...LOL! So am sharing a tear with you!
@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
23 Nov 11
Thanks for the offer of ride share! But, you know what, allknowing...I am the Master of My ship..my destiny, and I'll take that trip like Noah...just me, and the animals!
@allknowing (137748)
• India
22 Nov 11
Is it not a relief that none are spared. I have now a grin on my face that one by one users are emerging trying to get a place but my boat is already packed to capacity. Sorry perga... you can get a place in suny's car!
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@allknowing (137748)
• India
24 Nov 11
So you prefer animals for company - not a bad idea!
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@sagar21 (1579)
• India
22 Nov 11
I just don't care what gets deleted or what stays..I'm just responding to discussions of my interest and thats all.
Nothing is perfect and can't be so just go on..
Don't get frustrated when your comments or responses or discussions gets deleted..
Its what mylot is ..and it will show its nature..
thanks for the topic..
have a great day/night..
@allknowing (137748)
• India
22 Nov 11
It is not the question of not caring. It is like a student who thinks that he/she has done all the homework but the teacher points out that there is still homework to be done and that feeling is what I don't like.