For friends!!!!

@sjvg1976 (41290)
Delhi, India
November 27, 2011 5:13am CST
Hello Mylotters, How many of you really care for friends and just don't let them down anytime.I am sort of a person who always treasure my friends and never let them go from my life.I know these days we don't find the real friends and when we have it then they should always be treasured. I know many people for whom friends are not much of importance and they live without friends but in long run they feel something is lacking in their life and repent for not making friends in the past. What about you mylotters do you make friends or do you feel that its not important to have friends.
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 11
You treasure your friends? I've been missing in action on myLot for a few days and you didn't even look me up. Guess I'm not your real friend after all. I welcome all friendship. So, if anyone wants to be my friend, feel free to add me.
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 11
You're a bad case now. Did the pig get to you?
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 11
No, the pig is yours. I would never take it from you.
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 11
I think the pig would prefer to stay with you than me.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Nov 11
Hi sjvg I am not that great when it comes to friendships. I have some problems since shcool and no one takes me as a friend. I dont know why... maybe I am too practical and dont hesitate in speaking the facts which are mostly blunt ... But I dont care. For those who have survived my friendship... well they know better what I am... Even at mylot, I am normally not a welcome friend for many... but again I dont care. What I care is - How far I can go for my friends... and I think I am better off in this aspect. But practically, I am not sure how good a friend I am. I have seen many lotters stay connected as long as they want to... and once they dont want, there is nothing that can get you re-connected.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
I have seen many lotters stay connected as long as they want to... and once they dont want, there is nothing that can get you re-connected. I agree- my heart is in pain. Honestly...I wanted to start a topic about my farewell here in mylot this morning. But my cat divert my attention- I am not sure -either it is some sign-whatever- but I trash the idea of farewell topic and started a creepy one.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Nov 11
I'll just have to push you out of the window. Ok, do that when the doors dont open after the plane has landed... Once out I will help you get out that plane too But I did not say anything about you or my great friends who will always mean a lot to me, and I will always keep coming to mylot only for them
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@Jlyn10 (11965)
• Malaysia
27 Nov 11
Hi sids That's sad. You are always welcome to be my friend. After all, we are going to be sitting next to each other on the plane. And you better be good to me or I'll just have to push you out of the window.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
28 Nov 11
Honestly in friendship I am not a kind of 'frequently calling and contacting my friends' type of friend. Usually I always be the one who request for friendship since I know the fact that we can live without other people in our lives. I will never forget my friends even if I don't keep in touch with them. Real friends or not they have been one of the things that color my life and it definitely important for me.(^^)
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
Hehe...I will not forget them since I do have their contacts. I will contact them but not every single day. Just once in a while...Good to know that you always keep in touch with them. Correction for the sentence above 'since I know the fact that we can't live without other people in our lives.' Perhaps you got a long list of friends that is why you will forget them if you don;t contact them.(^^)
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
30 Nov 11
Hello CT, Thats right CT but i feel differently i forget people if i don't talk to them.Many of my friends were lost due to this reason but now i don't do it and try to keep in touch with my friends.
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@viju0410 (2286)
• India
30 Nov 11
sj, i think forgetting people is different from forgetting friends. Or you need to list out the friends in your life vs the people whom you are interacting/helping etc. @ CT, for me too i don't chat/call/mail my friends everyday but it is hard for me to forget them.
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@jricky1 (6800)
• China
28 Nov 11
I cherish all my good friend,so i always try my best to make them happy.Friends would be your best backup except our family.So i absolutely feel that having friends is really important,they also make me smile and feel warm.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello jricky1, I also think like you they are the best backup after family and sometimes even better than family too as there are many things which we even can't share it with family in that case friends are the one with whom we can share.I also feel friends are important in my life.
@jonahh08 (261)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
I have lots of friends specially during college days. But after we graduate it seems like we're drifting apart. I tried to get in touch with them always but it looks like they're busy with work and stuff.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello jonahh08, That's right i also had so many friends when i was in college and school but they became less when we all started doing job and had our own families.I understand it happens as we get little time to devote with them when we have busy schedules and resposibilities of family.Even though i try to take out sometime from my hectic schedule to chat with my closed friends so that i may not loose them too.
@khare_1005 (1310)
• India
29 Nov 11
getting true friends in today's world is real tough and what i feel that those whom you catch on during you school life or early college life are best of all pals. i haven't made any new friend in my real world recently and i don;t make friends easily. but i take it as a negative point. you need to be more friendly to gain more friends. but something in me keeps me away from being over friendly to people. i get open up only with closest of my friends.
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
Is it because of trustworthy that make us feel that the friends we have during our school life are the best pals since we can trust them more than the friends we have now???It is true that we can't find true friends since everyone feel that they just need to be friend when they need and can get something from us. Like you I take this as a negative point too. I will feel so lucky if I have one and can make one now!(^^)
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@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
Same with you...I can't even say there is any for me but even if they are not the true as long as I know other people than myself that is actually more than enough. The social life is still there~(^^)
• India
30 Nov 11
yes i wish i would have been more friendly so that i have more friends. the number of true friends that i can count o are even lesser then the number of fingers in my one hand.
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@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
28 Nov 11
My friends are not just friends they are family some have been there for my life time and some for over 30 years! we are all different we all come from different walks of life,culture, etc. at the end of the day they are my universal family!
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
Friendship is important with me. Even do some of my friend not care about friendship. For me this is very important because I can create confidence by myself...
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
1 Dec 11
Hello aerous, for me too friendship is as important than other relations.Friends are always important and have their roles in my life.They always support me to get out of the difficult times.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
27 Nov 11
hello sj, God knows I am honest to everyone. I never treat online friends different from offline-real friends but- it's tormenting to know-some online friends are not for real I can't explain...it hurts -and that's the only definition I knew when someone betrays a friendship.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
28 Nov 11
@sjvg: Yes. Thrice and unfortunately here on MyLot. I dont care about other websites where I exist or existed. And that made me what I mentioned above on my box
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Nov 11
I know that pain... but then that is near to what happens in the real world. I am glad that we are no more friends but di-and- bhai (sister and brother)
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
@ Jaiho that's the reason i also don't treat online people same as offline people as really its difficult to trust people online.I have heard lot of stories of a person being cheated by an online friend.Many of the people chat with people online and make online friends to cheat them only. @ Sids how do you that pain? have you suffered such thing in your life online?
@sajeevking (5073)
• Mumbai, India
28 Nov 11
Friends They come, They fight, They destroy, They corrupt it always end the same Line from tv series LOST no relation to friendship Just thought to write it We daily meet lot of people make few friends, get all kind of emotion on them and finally we don't see many of them ever again We make friends right from childhood , school, college, office, to where we go regularly but according to me once the phase get over we slowly began to get apart we still stay in touch with them but not as before but there are few who are friends for life who apart from being anywhere always hangs out, visit us even when they have busy schedule , and many more thing.. And i called them as my true friend who are there when we need them the most
• Mumbai, India
29 Nov 11
I said when we need them the most that's doesn't mean every time we call them they have to come running towards us i always get friends who are
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
29 Nov 11
Hello SajeevKing, Oh yes since childhood i have made lot of friends but kept continued with 4~5 friends.These are really my true friends who always remain in touch with me and help me whenever i stuck somewhere and others are friends and also remain in touch with me but i don't expect them to be with me everytime whenever i need them.
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
29 Nov 11
Of course not everytime. We cannot expect even our best friends to come to us everytime.They will run away if we always ask him/her to help us.
@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
28 Nov 11
It is important that we have a set of friends too. They give you happiness , different from what a husband and a family can give. You can share with them your family problems so you could all unanimously suggest what's the best to do about it. They cheer you up when you are so down. They can even help you financially, if you very much needed help. They are friends that could be with you through thick and thin. I am happy i have my set of friends too.
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@SIMPLYD (90721)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
We feel so blessed when we have a set of true friends, right, sjvg?
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello Simplyd, Even sometimes there is something which we can't share it with our family but with a friend so we should have a set of closed friends to discuss. Thats right they help you whenever you require it.I have lot of closed friends who always stood behind me to help me whenver i stuck in trouble and sometime they offered me the help even i did not ask it from them.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
28 Nov 11
hi sj, Good to know you care a lot for your friends. Finding a real friend is always difficult and they come to us at the least expected hour in our life and stay there forever. Practically speaking, before my marriage friends were on my priority list but after marriage and shifting to a new place where there are no friends it was difficult to find a real friend. Though I was / am in touch with old friends but making new friends is a tough job. They are not available at the shopping malls or retail outlets that we see the price tag and buy an expensive one with guarantee/warranty. On this day friends are important to me but my priority is my husband,children,in-laws. I know my friends complaint about not joining them for a picnic but they are happy I take out time for joining them on lunch. It is very much important to have friends in life as if you are not in a good mood, you can call your friend and dump on them your tensions, the real friend will not hung up the phone but listen you till your heart feels fine...
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
30 Nov 11
They are not available at the shopping malls or retail outlets that we see the price tag and buy an expensive one with guarantee/warranty. If they so I could not afford to buy the expensive one....(^^)
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
29 Nov 11
Hello Viju, Thats right as we have loads of work and responsibility it becomes difficult to manage time for friends,even i also could not kept continuing friendship with many of friends due to location or work pressures and ultimately lost them but those who are left i always try to remain in touch with them so that i may not loose them too in future.
@viju0410 (2286)
• India
29 Nov 11
Those who understand our responsibilities and loads will not complain if we are out of touch. I also try to keep in touch but sometimes no response from the other end make me upset but then we need to be practical and go on. I even visit the railway station with home cooked snacks/lunch/dinner when my friends are crossing Bhopal station on their way to South(few at in Delhi)...though it is 9-10 minutes meeting in station, i just love their comments on the food at a later date. During my last visit to one of my friend at Delhi, she packed me a bottle of home-made pickle which i used to love in my childhood. Yes, she's my childhood friend..don't u feel har ek friend zaroori hota hai???
@lupeng (82)
• China
28 Nov 11
hello.i think you should change your mind.if you have many friends around you, you will feel very happiness.because if you are danger or meet some unlucky things , if you have a good friend ,he will help you and will put up some nice suggestions to you.and you can play with your friends with many things.you can go to the cinema to see the movie and to travell with them or hold an warming party,you will have a nice day.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
29 Nov 11
Hello lupeng, Yes i do enjoy my time whenever i am with my friends and yes they do help me out when i get troubled in life,i can share my emotions with them to feel more happier/relaxed.
@WajeehBJ (135)
• United States
27 Nov 11
For me, friends are one of the most important part of my life. I mean, I can't even spend a single day without talking to them. When they are like, away from me or something, I feel so boring and a strong feeling that something is missing. No matter what, I never let my friends down. And they are all great as well. Really understanding and all that. So we are really important for each other. :)
@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello WajeehBJ, That's right even i too can't live without my friends.I also talk to them regularly not daily but do share things when i am happy or in difficulty.
@WajeehBJ (135)
• United States
28 Nov 11
And as my institute is in another city, so whenever I get back to my home city, I can forget anything, but I never forget to see all of them. We plan and decide a day, and we spend that day from day all the way to the night together. In the day we do several different fun including small picnic or something and in the night we play xbox together. And its a lot of fun. :)
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Nov 11
hi sjvg as one old poet said no man is an island nor no woman eitherl life wou ld be so lonely without our friends. friend to me means a lot as I am elderly and cannot get out like I would like to my friends help me and I try to help them too. they meanthe whole world to me. I have many friends here and off line too and I treasure them all.even have a doggie friend on mylot so there too. lol
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello Hatley, Even for me friends mean a lot to me. I have been never alone as i have lots of closed friends which never had ne the feeling that i am alone in difficult times and never did i hesitate to help my friends out when they ask me to help in troubles and thats how the friendship goes longer and better.
@zralte (4178)
• India
28 Nov 11
Hi sjvg, I treasure all my friends, be it online or offline . I am the kind of person that feels lonely without friends. It is difficult to make new friends these days, though. I have made a discussion a long time ago regarding how difficult it is to make friends when you are older. I find it hard to make new friends. I would love to make more friends where I am right now; but I don't have the time to seek out new friends now, so I'll have to stick with the ones I already have, and the ones I have online.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello zralte, I agree with you as i too remain busy in work and the family responsibilities so now it is difficult for me to make new friends so i too stick with the old friends and try to remain in touch with them so that i may not loose them. I feel friends as equally important than other things in life .I cannot imagine how my life would be without friends.
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
27 Nov 11
Some years before friend was very important for me but when a friend fraud with me now I cant beleive on friend and not interested in friendship. For talking good but never make close friend to anyone.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello Surekha, It's life and we are human we do mistakes in identifying people may she was not worth to be your friend but you cannot make a perception that every friend is a fraud.I have lot of friends who are understanding and remain always with me when i require them.
• United States
27 Nov 11
My friends are important to me. Sometimes, though, I have had to let some former friends go. It wasn't something I wanted to do, but when a person takes pride in insulting you.. or calling you names, and say they always felt this way about you.. I discovered the person was never my friend to begin with. Sometimes I just have to dust my hands and go on with life with my real friends.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello PQ, That's right sometimes we come to know about people late but it's never late.We should leave those which we feel are not worth for our friendship.I have also done it in past and left so many friends which i thought were not worth for me but those whom i feel are real ones i always treasure them.
@aquacan (216)
• China
28 Nov 11
Good day. Everyone needs friends of course. I don't think people could live alone. Even if they could, life would be dull and less colorful. I always turn to my friends whenever I feel sad, frustrated or angry. They give me comfort. They all that friends are thieves of time. I believe so. Because you feel extremely happy with them. And when you are making mistakes, friends can always point it out directly and help you correct it. I can't imagine a life without friends.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello aquacan, Even i also cannot imagine my life without friends.I also share my emotions when i am sad with friends but i also don't foget to share my happiness with my friends as it make my happiness double. Yes i feel the people who don't have friends do miss them when tey are in truble.Really the life without friend would be dull and colorless.
• China
27 Nov 11
When talking about friends,I'm sure that I've made many friends,and I would make even more in the future with my easy-going character.However,I really have very few close friends.Although I'm aware that it's normal just to have serveral close friends,I indeed want to make more close friends.Once I've confirmed someone as my close friend,I can talk about many other topics with him,such as science,nature,classic music.But with my common friends,I usually only talk about sports,fashion,pop music etc. which is liked by most young people.I admit that sometimes I'm a little bit too devoted to work and study and don't even have a word with my friends,but when I talk with my friends,I would share all of my happiness with him,and comfort him when he met troubles in his life.Most friends say they feel happy after talking with me,which also makes me happy.In the future,I would try to be less devoted to work and study and leave more time for my friends.After all,even if I do worse than before in my work and study,I can seek for help from my friends,but if I lose a good friend,it may be impossible to call his mind back.
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@sjvg1976 (41290)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 11
Hello wangexplore1259, No friend i think differently we should not make our work and study suffer but should manage time in such a manner that we can talk to them for sometime daily. I also remain busy in work but i take out sometime for my friends i have lot of friends too but do have few closed ones with whom i talk often than others but that's Ok its better to have few good friends than to have infinite friends and no closed ones.