Does true love Exists ?
By Xansus
@Xansus (946)
Bulgaria
November 29, 2011 9:02am CST
I wanted to ask and discuss something .
There is lot of stuff i will type so if you want you can skip them :D
Ok i'm a person that have lets not say only because everyone have some side goals in life but primary the goal is to find True Love .
So what is True Love . In my opinion thats just love that last forever . I put many thing in the word love , but i think everyone does too .
So there is till time for me but somehow every day i feel like this world is one step futher from love and love becomes harder to reach even maybe impossible .
I somehow thing people dont give in much to love and that scares me , because i want to find the girl that will want and will be with me forever (ye until i die and ye i might be daydreaming) .
But with every day passing and the more i get older i start to see the Love i want is going more to the point of DayDreaming . I mean People say the love each other and they break up and the : I Will love you forever is just another empty promise and people change because of that .
Somewhere i readed that love lasts 3 years . But why ? I mean are people that much want to be alone or cant share their life with just one person ( ye and the kids they are very imprtant too) And well i still love my ex that broke with me and its not like ~5 years passed , but well thats a personal issue :)
But well i saw people that devorce , brake up , and its like their life is ruined or they start loving someone else or do something rediculious after being with someoen for 10-20-30 years or so . How people change their feelings ? I mean i want to find love and be with her until i die , and well that might happen because i might die if she leaves me like some people do after years of being together .
After all is there really True love out there ?
And do i have any reason to keep looking for it or i should just give up on life and be a Dead Living Being .
And i'm sore i think i get repetative some times and loose myself when typing :P
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21 responses
@jazzyrae (1745)
• United States
29 Nov 11
I think I am truly in love the problem is people expect love to. E all rainbows and butterfly's and when the spark is gone they just give up because they do not want to work at it they just want the spark felling true love exists it just takes time
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
3 Dec 11
Well i think i kind of understand you . You mean people exist to love and there is this warm lovely spark between them that connects them and make their love perfect in our terms True Love , but when the spark start fading and it fades they do almost nothing to bring it back and start looking for other love when they already have the true one , but are just not good enough to fight for it .
Well ye i a bit express what i exacly think but i think thats what you think too .
Thanks for your response and have a nice day .
@Nebel23 (46)
• Chile
29 Nov 11
I think true love exist, but only a few people find it.
There are wonderful love stories out there, people who sacrifices everything for love.
You should keep looking, love has no age, there is no "give up", love can reach you in the most singular way and only takes you 5 seconds to realize that "she/he is the one"
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well we think pretty much similar or the same :) I do think that any love takes from couple of seconds to a minute to be realized . That is fact for me :) Some people might think its later but they know it from the first moment they meet the person that they come to love later :P
But as i said there is nothing left if i give up so i dont have a choice :P I'll keep looking :)
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
30 Nov 11
Well My Opinion or what Opinion I am trying to adopt from the last few days is To Treat the People The Way They Treat You.So if You are looking for true Love First you Learn to Give true Love to Others.I Mean Unconditional Love. If You Love Some one do anything for that person without expecting anything from that person In return.
Well I Know,It is easy to say than done ,as , I myself is not doing that for some reason. You wanna Try and see what happens........
Have a Nice day
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Hello as i well understand what you are trying to point out . There are some things you did not think over . Love is connecetion and first of all feeling . You cannot just give it and expect nothing , wait you can i did that . But still love needs some expectations , i had more the enough of one sided lonely love for the last 5 years and giving it just because i can ruins my life and takes the time that i dont really have anything else to do with it . I cant treat the people as they treat me all the time because if they treat me bad i ignore them , if they treat me good then i can do so too .
The thing i'm mostly trying to say if you want the love to be true you really need to have some expectations and its perfectly natural for every single person . But giving such love might result in bad ways for you .
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Not only true love , in my opinion every single love should be treasured . The love to the family , the one , the childeren . Everything should be treasured . But yes i think everyone needs to put their effort because things dont work out on their own . And if you really want to keep your love with you in most casses when possible you need to do something about it .
@nezavisima (7408)
• Bulgaria
30 Nov 11
true love exists even later reveals it all.
true love is that love which is very beautiful clean without lies, without hatred.
it has no hidden intentions.
This love knows it comes from afar and they quickly covered for life.
that love is wonderful.
that love is simply unique and only you excite your heart.
interesting discussion.
nice day!
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Well the thing you said is pretty much your explanation of love in my opinion . Yes its not bad if thats how you feel it . I cant describe mine , its filled with all good things and wishes and hopes but i cant really set it to something . Hatred is kind of oposit of love so you cant have them both for single person ath the same time . But about the lying i think everyone agrees .
@deliar (609)
• Indonesia
2 Dec 11
True love exists and i think you can make it,
this is one thing that many people always forget, people only looking for a true love always and always, but the truth, the true love come from a feeling care to someone that we love, protecting our lovely person.
we raise our love bigger and bigger and make it being our true love, not just only searching.
love need to be risen for being a true love.
and i think, "love" is a verb, and the result of this "love" in noun.
so i think,if we only looking a love and do not anything to take care the love, i think it is just empty expectation to get a true love.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Hi . The term of true love is the love that you can be with for the rest of your life . Doing everything to keep it even giving your life for it .
But the thing is people these days love 20 different people or more or less until they die and well they broke up with all of them . And when you see 80 years old couple that is for the last 60 years together and happy , you see that true love you seek , but it seem hard to find .
Well your opinion of love is alright too , but its a bit different for me :)
@soulist (2985)
• United States
29 Nov 11
I believe that true love does exist, its just hard to find. It is something that you work at. I imagine being with my boyfriend for the rest of my life. In both of our minds there is no option of divorce so it is a big deal that we want to be married we are saying our love is true.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
3 Dec 11
Ye i think so too , but yet even people that are together for years somehow give up on each other witch is sad in its own way :(
I'm happy that you are true to each other being married in our sociaty is a big step and i think in love specially for religios people :)
Well lets hope you will be happy for the rest of your life with that person , ofcourse there will be ups and downs , but lets hope the love stays true and you will be together .
Best of wishes :)
@GemmaR (8517)
•
29 Nov 11
I think that true love does exist, however not many of us are actually lucky enough to be able to find that kind of love in the world. A lot of people will settle for a different kind of love where they would be relatively happy but not totally in love. The best kind of love is the bond that a parent shares with their child. I think that this is the only kind of love that is completely true and will be able to last through everything. That is a beautiful kind of love, and any individuals who are lucky enough to experience that should never take it for granted.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well i normally do say a parents love is different love . I mean its not that its lesser then this one . But this one can scale up to it . Because for me children might be most important one day but as the person i know i am i think my wife will be there on the same level . I think i can at least give my family all the love i can even if it kills me :)
But yes never take love for granted because there are alot of other people and without it you feel misarable and lonely ;)
Humans might be born and die alone but it matters what you do between :)
@mods196621 (3652)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
On my experience i think true love really exists. And i realized it later in my life. I fall inlove in a wrong time with a right love. And this is happened recently. Forbidden love. You know i can say that love is unfair. It comes on one side like my experienced. A man loved me so much and really it's true as i can tell coz he forgive and love me even i am unresponsive. Then it's the indication of true love coz he love unselfishly and unconditionally. Like the love of God to mankind. But the sad thing is i fall inlove with other man and i can tell that it was a true love also coz i fell the same as the man who fall inlove to me unconditionally. And another sad thing is we are not together and we cannot pursue our forbidden love. Now i decided to love him till my last breath freely but no communication to avoid sin. And i kept it to myself inside my heart. Until now he is the last man i truly love and last ever i love.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Well the beginning of your story sounds a bit like my condition :)
I'm in love with a girl that i cannot be with and she says that she shares some of that , but well its already being around 5 years since we've been together and i still cant find what so special about her , but yet i cannot see other girl more special then her . Well maybe mine is different , my friend called me a "bonehead" or something but well there are things i love and just when they say let go i just cant :)
Your story is sad , too bad but still until you are both alive and well there might be a better ending :)
@craziestqueenever (1819)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
True Love really exist! You've been wondering why is it that most marriage fails? its because the couple made a decision not to make their relationship work. I just wanted to let you now that LOVE is not a feeling it is a decision to be made.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Well sorry if i might understand you wrong . But you sound a bit in rage .
Yes love is a feeling , and not only one . But love cannot be kept alive just by so . Decisions are made so the love can go in one way or another . I think love is a feeling , and if you want to keep it you got to make the right decisions and lets hope your loved one to make the same right decisions too .
But about the marriage its everyone choice what to do with their lifes , and if they want to crush their feelings and destroy or just let it slide without doing nothing and everyting ending in dissaster one day its their choice .
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
3 Dec 11
Well i think i saw it in may people but i hope one day to happen to me :)
The existance is proved , but the rarity is the problem , we might have 500 years of life but still not find it and in its own way its sad for our existence :(
But well lets not get sad now :) Lets hope everyone have the chance to find it and live happily ever after :)
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
30 Nov 11
hi xansus, for me true love exists. Love is so complex to understand. But in order to acquire a true love, it takes a lot of partners works. In order to get true love, we must be a true person to ourselves first and in this way we can give true love to our love ones.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Hi grace .
Well in my opinion love is first a way of physical attraction , but thats what exist in every love :P Second is the understanding and i think its not always about only that because you can try that with your family , friends or anyone else even uknown person .
I dont really get what true person to ourselves . I mean i always am honest and see the things as they are , but what true to myself does really mean ?
@taura2p (349)
• Romania
29 Nov 11
I think there is true love. I'm an idealist, and i believe that there are people who can love each other beyond imagination. Just that lately, I find it hard to believe that it could happen to me. I've become quite pessimistic about this issue. Who knows, maybe one day... We should keep the faith.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well since i believe people can devote to one another beyond imagination , i too think that it exists , but as you said not only lately the life i live every day seem harder to see such person existing around me and such thing to happen . But well lets keep it real , it can happen so lets hope it will :)
Best of luck to you too ;)
@jacrenaes (5)
•
30 Nov 11
True love exist and those who found is lucky but I prefer great love than true love. Your every relationship is a true-love-found but there is only one you can consider as your great love.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
4 Dec 11
Well hello . I think you understand wrong and different terms .
In my understanding about what you typed is :
My "love" - your "true Love"
My "true love" - your "great love"
Or something in these lines .
I dont find how a love can be true when you can just feel it the same for everyone . I get the "great" part of yours but i don't think it fits as good as "true"
But well maybe we are talking the same thing with different words :P
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Yes , thats what i'm bringed to believe . But i hope that everyone can have it and i as one of all can find it too :)
But its sad that love is like a part of a draw :(
But well lets not get sceptical now , and lets hope we all hit the jackpot :)
Thank you for your opinion .
@Bluedoll (16773)
• Canada
8 Jan 12
True love does exist is my viewpoint. It may sound corny perhaps but I still believe it is true. "There is no greater love than one that gives their life for another."
This is true in many areas. It is often about devotion, dedication and perseverance. I do think we do not find it but that it finds us.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well believing is good and show that things might and exist :)
Yes when i see old couple i always smile a little . Maybe because i hope to be like them one day :)
Ye thats good example .
Thanks for reminding me about them , an great example ;) Have a nice day :)
@enelym001 (8322)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
Of course there is True Love. I've seen it from my mom and dad. And there are a lot of couples out there too like my mom and dad. You are only feeling that because ypou don't have someone with you. Normally, we tend to really think that if we don't have any girlfriend/boyfriend - it becomes impossible to find love. But that's how life is I guess, we can't just have a relationship with anyone we meet because we will only get our hearts break more. So the best thing is just to cool down and unexpectedly someone will come and might be your true love.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well ye i think i'm taking my parents as a example for what i;m looking because they look so happy and they've been true so much and i was there . Its like they are bonded and cant never brake :) (love you mom and dad :D )
But well lets hope something like that can happen to me too :)
Well thanks for the advice i hope i find the one eventually :)
@champoy186 (1638)
• Philippines
29 Nov 11
For me, true love really exists. It's just that not all people can feel it. True love means you love the person unconditionally. You don't have to find it. It will come to you at the right time with the right person. Have a nice day!
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well i think its that way the way i feel to my ex girlfriend but well we are apart for around 5 years . But well its was her decision and i'm not going to bug her more then once a year :P
But well i'm open for other posibilities :) Since its kind of ~~ one sided . Witch you cant say its really love :)
Have a nice day too :)
@squallming (1775)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 11
Dear Xansus, I can assure you that true love does exist. There is just more and more factors that causes people to break up, have affairs and etc. I will briefly touch on some here.
First, there are too many fancy people out there now. this can be a result of the idolization of artist, performer etc. Thus, people tends to view guys and girls with good appearance, fashionable or carries certain characteristics that idols have to be attractive and desirable. This results in people keeps attracted by others while they already have a partner.
Second, the media and social environment had lead people towards a more materialistic way of living. A girl is more likely to be interested in rich guys than a guy with low income from part time jobs. That is why rich guy with branded items on is more desirable than others. Isn't that right?
Next, people got influenced by media as well in the sense of intimate relationship. movies, dramas, adult videos etc had pictured a lot of treason, free X, free relationship etc which causes people to accept being with more than one partner or having intimate relationship with just anyone.
Besides that, both women and men nowadays are busy with works. they have no time to spend with each other and family, while they spend more time with their colleague, workers etc. This will increase the likelihood of having affairs with those people around you because you share more time and feelings with them.
Above are some factors that I noticed. People should know how tto appreaciate a relationship and be fully committed in that one relationship. of course, communication among lovers is very important as well as effective communication can solve many conflicts that arises.
@Xansus (946)
• Bulgaria
29 Nov 11
Well hello to you too :)
I think its the person that makes the choices and the mistakes so i do approve your words but i want to get a bit deeper in to them :)
As you first said is true but like-ing people does not mean you love them , yes they do all their best to look good the artists and everyone else , but i mean you are attracted and love your girl and i dont find what does that you like some people over tv because well they look good but still you are fully comited to the one you love .
Well About the money i cant say anything there are people like that . But still when my dad go bancrupt and for the last year my parents were without jobs and lived in my grand grandmother house that did not break them apart where that could have happened in lots of places . I think you just need to love someone , the money is needed in raising the children .
About having an affair this is not for me i think other people will say it too , when i'm fully commited to one girl i'm just and only in to her . The rest i see as just friends and that simply it . But thats just for me :)
Ye i think that you should be fully commited to someone and everything will be allright if the person do the same or at least appriaciate it :)
Thanks you :)
