I am a woman, should I add this to every post?

hi Palma 138 thanks for your concern but I have a good protection on my computer plus a firewall so hackers can not get into my computer so I am pretty safe. So letting people know I am an elderly woman should really be safe enough I would think. welcome to mylot. You really are new so do read all the information as it will help you with mylotting and do add friends too. have fun here.

hi thewonderboy yes I do understand like not giving ones address or phone number etc no I am really pretty careful as there are some weirdos out there I suppose.Yes I am sure you are right.

Hey hatley, Palma just mean that you must be very careful with your personal contents in mylot she doesn't mean about the datas on your computer. Am I right ?

hi mari61960 Yes usually you can by some mention of family 'or something showing your gender. I like to check profiles if I am not sure but of co rse some people want to be anonymous and of course that is their privilege too. pink or blue borders oh you made me smile. thanks.yes one can give oneself a headache thinking' about some of these things. lol lol

I also think that some people wants to be anonymous in myLot like they want in the chatting.

hi lkbooi I u sually do that to and I really so often mention something about my family or my husband and that will help newcomers know I am a woman. I also when I read disucssions somehow tuck clues away in my mind, oh yes, he;s not a he as he mentions her husband okay got it. but som etimes I do go to the profile and check sometimes more to see what culture as sometimes otherwise I might pu t my foot in my mouth as we Americans have different customs too and sometimes forget others might not smile at some custom. so check and know more about my new friend whom I am talking to.I relaize that a lot of people work and thus their mylot time is limited so a little mention of family will help of course.

Hi Carmel, you really just don't ever know. My ex husband's name was Kim. He was named after the actress Kim Novak whom his father had a thing for....seriously. I used to cash his checks all the time without question until one alert teller looked at the check and back up at me. It was his business check which was construction. I happened to have just left the office and was dressed in office clothes. She said, "You do not look like a construction worker. Do you have ID?" I was not on his business account and she refused to let me do the transaction. Thing is ..I DID do construction work on the side with him so you really can't tell always.

Hi Hatley, and just think I too am learning from mylot while learning college classes at the same time...lol Actually I have learned probably just as much here if not more about life right here..

hicarm hehe i dont think I have ever seen a guy named Carmela'ever if whatshis f ace made a fortune singing a boy named sue.Johnmy Cash I had a similar experience and the guy now calls me auntie Hatly lol at first I thought he was a her but then he made a very masculine remark about his sister and I though aha he is a he. I have to tease him as he has a cute avatar but half the time it does not work and he again as that little white man on green., I do check profiles often and sometimes because we are discussing a subject that while okay for americans coule be iffy for someone in some countries. knowing their customs a bit one can avoid making remarks that might be taken the 'wrong way. I have learned so much from being on mylot that I had not even learned in college classes. so I do check profiles but some times you just have to go your best and hope. lol.

hi enelym I first thought you were a guy because anmo ther user addressed as such but I checked your profile and realized the person was all wrong. its irritating to me too so I try often to leave some clues such as I am a widow or a mom and that should clue people but I also put my gender on my profile as for a while I was called dude, and guy, and old man, and this i really dislike Grandpa now I am not male nor am I a grandmother. I wish I was but my son is very much a bachelor soI am just an elderly mom insteadl. lol I do think its good to check the profiles as it helps to make making friends much smoother.

hi enelym I learned that being called granny is a term of respect in Indian culture and I thanked my mylotter friend for his respect and love as he explained even if I had no grandchildren its his way of showing respect for my age and how could I fault that.

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hi jtj hello welcome to mylot. No we should not be criticizing each other truly. Mylot is a place for all of us to express ourselves'which ever way we want as long as we do not break the don'ts of making discussions. NO I asked about changing my user name years back but you cannot do that. so instead I inserted my gender on my profile page. I do not think I was being critical when I suggested that people not use derogatory terms for us elderly here on mylot. we are really not supposed to insult one other for one thing. but some times it might not hurt to 'suggest I am also a woman in some instances.

I also think people does not have rights to criticize each other. I think it is better to look the discussions rather looking at the profile of others. I think it is mostly some new guys that might be criticizing others.

OMG, Hatley! Did someone on here actually call you that? That's horrible. Old Geezer brings an image of one of those scruffy, smelly old wino's that walk around with their booze in a paper bag...thinking no one knows. A sweet older woman or even a nice older man is not something I'd associate with that word. And all that being said, even if I came upon a person fitting that description, I'd still not be so disrespectful as to call him that. PEOPLE!!! What cool and fascinating stories you have, Hatley.That stalker guy story is downright scary. I heard a song today. Some of the lines in the song were really cool. It went something like, "These lines upon my face tell the story of who I am and where I've been and how I came to be here."

hi sid I learned a longtime ago you are a she from something you 'wrote so I did not put my foot in my mouth. What bugged me was being called an old geezer. to me an old geezer wheezes, smokes'like a chimney and has emphysema , which does not define me ane elderly lady who has never ever smoked, does not wheeze,or cough or spit, or have lung diseases. yuck. I have had several friends , women friends, named sydney and both of them claimed their dads had wanted boys'but were okay once they were born thus the sydney I guess. I so often nmention I am a mom or a widow so no I do not tell anyone I am a women., I had the funniest set of messages on face book as this guy insisted that we strike up a friendship that could turn into more.I kept telling him I was old enough to be his grandmother and I think he thought I was fibbing. He finally gave up. I had one stalker when I was twenty who almost killed me as I refused to accept his proposal. He was choking me but two big waiters pulled him off'before I passed out. His dad was wealthy and shipping him off to the East to some A unt. the guy landed in jail when he almost killed anthoer woman. so I did not give the facebook any finormation about me at all. I did not want him showing up here at this retirement center.

hi jdyrj777 oh how funny and he never apologized. I think I would have said, mam do you need glasses? that might have made him say something. what a funny man. Maybe he was a little slow in the upper story.or as one'friend here says all her synapses do not seem to be working.she was referring to a woman who just did not seem to get it at all.that is the first tiem I have smiled and laughed today. but I did finally do something today I should have done three months'ago I got my diabetic and thyroid blood work done this morning and it was painless and no big deal. so wondered why I had 'put it off for so long. lol.

I did wonder why that guy never even looked up till i said that to him. It was like he was really concentrating on what he was doing. If that was me i would be totally aware of all my surroundings. The manager was in the back office and heard it all she came out laughing too. The next person in line got a laugh too. Glad you did. I get these emails taht always have diabetic tips. Im not diabetic so i usually send them on to my couzin who is.

hi jdyrj777 and me a diabetic never get the emails with tips for diabetics. I was suprised that there are even more diabetes per capita here in the US than last year but they say its because of the obesity epidemic here in the uSA.

hi bunnybon yes I think my avatar is pretty feminine . but also I som etimes add I am an old woman but or something like I am alos aq widow and those clue should tell people do not call me guy or dude' really I go get annoyed at dude. I do check profiles and most of the time I can see if its a woman or a g uy. sometimes not then I check discussions and that will tell me.[[

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Hiya Hatley, Oh a little Mouse lol that is not funny I know as you are online an awful lot and post much much more than I ever could in ages. They are already trying to persuade me to get off here but I just had to post to shibs about is Sister having a Baby he is going to be an Uncle. Yes I wish you lived closer because I would love to round a group of us up and just have some kind of Party without even going anywhere. Blueboy is a he and don´t I know it right now he is sleeping outside like a Baby alas for me Cesar Millan does not live round here although he has been in Spain just recently. He is a Puppy in his own right and he is a lot of work for me as you can imagine these lot buzz off everywhere else and leave him to me he does not obey me so I have to use my tricks he he he otherwise we would both be pulling and tugging in a tug of war game all Day long. You could get a little Mouse for Christmas and with all its wiring intact and then you will be able to navigate much better I hope anyway. Yes I am doing my best I can´t wait for my eldest to get his Flat you cannot imagine how I am having to sleep as there are only two Bedrooms here so I won´t go on about that. Blueboy is lots of fun but he does not like you to be the leader in the Game he likes to be Boss so I can´t play with him very much yet.xxx

hilovinangelsinstead21 Blueboy sounds like a typical puppy, love them hate them and adore them lol.Myson is coming tomorrow with a new mouse. I am still elated we had this huge high school glee club that sang Christmas carols for us last year here again, they sing acappelo and do a great job. You know up til I had to come here I was used to living among people of all ages so its a real treat t see these great high school kids and they were so sweet. I dislike this thing of living only among other elderly people, its not really normal. anyway it would be fun to drop in too, I would love that. we had a feast after wards and thank heavens the kids brought me some brown rice with veggies and two egg rolls and a coke. they had a spread of home made cookies of all kinds and cakes.,alas those would flatten me and send me to the hospital. I am a diabetic and sugary stuff really makes me ill. so he was very thoughtful for my friendand I both elderly and both diabetic.Merry Christmas its early but I love the sound. hugs from hatley

hi zralte and Joanna you both sound f eminine but I have to laugh as I did tell the guy who called me dude that no I was a dudeette amd he laughed and apologized. I think we coined a new word. I think taking a few seconds to check profiles avoids those kinds of problems.for now my mouse is working but after a few hours it quits its light goes off.if I restart it will work again but only for so long.frustrating when I want to work on my comments and it does not work.

hi joanna yes I really do and my son said he would bring me one tomorrow Saturday so thats not too long now. I have a habit of opening too many tabs then it does stall things so I go and' clear all the ones i have already done. lol I love it that I can have several tabs to work on at the same time.Myh mouse quit once and I just pulled the plug out part way,juggled it and voila its working again.

hi ravisivan I had a lovely day today as we had our christmas party at eleven now I am mylotting til almost 7 pm then am going downstairs to the activity room to listen to Carolers from a high school and an elementary school. I love seeing all the children and we had a really great time listening to them last year.I always go early to get a good seat. Its wonderful that they come here to Gold C rest and sing for us. hugs from hatley.

wow ravisivan you are one good looking guy. great avatar. Iam great but my computer mouse acts ill,it will work just so long then shuts off.so far this is the longest it has worked today. I have had to manually shut my computer down then reboot. I have not had anyone call me a dude for two weeks so there is hope yet lol. anyway after fighting with my mouse here i am just happy its still working. my son will come see me tomorrow and check it out for me. he is my fix it man.,lol also he never charges me. he he.

Hatley aunty -- I was also facing problems with the mouse I have been using for a year. I bought another one -zebronic - 3$ only. Now it is working well. These peripherals are cheaper in India because more population, more demand, more production... My avatar I could change after too many efforts thanks to jaiho suggestions of reducing the size of photo using microsoft manager. have a nice day.

hi ravisivan my problem is I do not have a camera nor the funds 'right now for one.,However my picture taken wih Lori the dumbblondedizzy user name is on my account in Face book I am the one with the grey white hair lol.so check it out. besides I lofe doing graphics too. have a great day.

This makes us learn that we should check the profile of persons before posting. To be frank first time when I posted in a discussion of aunty -- I was not right in addressing her-- of course after few postings now I have an aunty living so far away from me. great. Hatley aunty -- why can't you change your avatar with your own photo? I am not aware of problems if any you have in doing so. good day.

hi polaroidsredwine I know some are not but what gets me is to be called by ugly old men terms like geezer when I am an older woman not a wheezing coughing geezer at all. but I will live of course and often laugh too at the dude bit but if only they had checked my 'profile they would see I am a woman. your avatar is really interesting in that red red lipstick wow.

the trouble with making assumptions here is I am usually wrong.,for a long time I thought my friend here was a m an until she talked aout her daughter doing something bu t thank goodness i had never called her him or suggested I thought she was a man so no harm done.

Thank you! I drew it myself. Ahaha, yes, I see how that would be very annoying after a while, especially since those can be kind of rude to call someone depending on context. The assumptions people make of others on the internet!

hi stephcjh yes me too and went to thier profiles, then 'if I could not get a clue I used a term like friend as that should not offend anyone. and of cou rse some discussions really do not matter about gender as that does not come into play.but I do like to check the profile if I am not sure. some discussions about families do bring gender into it then I check if I really do not know,still sometimes I miscue. but I did do my best which is all anyone can do.lol.

Hi fwidman oh your username made me know you are a guy , a guy who likes cute shoes which is okay too. I also love cute shoee and alas am condemed to orthopedic ugly clodhppper like boots with a brace for my left leg and bad foot.sad as I love pretty shoes and used o wear themn to until I ruptured the tendon in my foot and it was not diagnosed in time to repair it surgiclally so theyjust put a brace and orothopedic ugly shoes on me. I do check profiles if I am not sure and it might make a difference in my response. most give he gender and some show their gender in their discussions instead so it all evens out any way.

hi cynthiann oh my I am woman hear me roar thats all I remember of it. oh thats also my pet peeve to read a response that had'nothing to do with my post at all, just the title. why indeed bother if they cannot read it and respond to what I actually'wroteI had a discussion about how common ordinary sounds around your honme and outside can change into scary sounds when you are home allalolne and your imaginatin goes crazy. I got a response abougt ghost b usters and that had nothing to do with ordinary sounds becoming sacray because of our overworked imagination,.I had not said one thinkg about ghosts in my discussion,.my title was to lead p;eople in but Idid not think people were going to respond to a title. they did no read it or get my p;point at all.I do check all profiles before i ever accepted friends so I knew the men and the women pretty well. .l

hi saphy how areyou doing as this character here is always saying. H is a character and at times repulsive as he has this horrid habit of making a noise much like one would make vomiting. this got him the' privilege of sitting in the c uby hole next to the kichen. so he calls hello to all who pass by and then when you say hello gerry he asks how you doing buddy and thats to anyone man or women., I feel a bit sorry for him as hes had several strokes and frankly his brain is slightly scrambled but he would not hurt a flea. any way I do check profiles to be sure if I do not know the gender. but for me I leave enough clues so I am not going to go out of my way saying I am not a guy. lol lol. I do my best and thats all anyone can do.