Controlling Parents??

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Ok, so I need to vent and to get an outsiders input on this one. Currently my boyfriend is 31 and living with his parents who literally control pretty much everything in his life. Here's a back story... he didn't always live there, in fact he has only been there this time for I think about a year. The reason he lives there is because he is a recovering alcoholic and is working on putting his life back together. Since becoming sober hes upheld a job and has climbed his way up in that job in only a matter of months hes been there. Hes been sober for almost 9 months. I've been dating him for almost 3. Anyways he goes to his AA meeting every morning at 7 then goes to work and waits a couple hours to get clocked in, when he gets off work he calls his parents to let him know he is on his way home. He doesn't have a key to the house at all and he signs all of his checks to them. They ask for $450.00 a month so he can sleep on the floor in a craft room.. not on a bed (which there is a bed that is not occupied in the house) and not his own room. He isn't even allowed to do laundry there since he accidentally left something in his pocket the last time he did laundry there. They never let me see him after work. Like never. The only time they 'let' me see him is on Mondays when I drive him around to deal with court stuff (he was homeless for a couple years while being an alcoholic and accumulated some charges). A couple Mondays ago I accidentally got him home 5 minutes after 9 pm when he was supposed to be home.. so this last Monday he told his dad he would make it before 9. I got him there 2 minutes til and his dad goes "I said before 9, not minutes before night". And now, even though they SAID I could come over on a Friday or Saturday night, they haven't yet agreed to it.. and this time his dads excuse is "not til you learn to be on time, she cant come over". They haven't even TRIED getting to know me. Ive tried setting up a dinner or something and his Dad and Mom turn it down. My boyfriend is such a good guy. I don't know what he was like before he was sober, but now?? Hes responsible, accountable, has similar values, treats me right. But we never get any time together.. we get in the morning before he gets clocked into work.. so like 3 days a week we get roughly 3 hours... but.. its just so hard not to be able to see him whenever. His 17 year old step sister has more freedom then he does. She goes to party's, gets drunk, gets home whenever at night, even on a school night. And yet they just are so hard on him. They haven't even acknowledged him for being sober this long, they just keep criticizing him for the dumbest things. Like last monday in between his court stuff we went to the Santa Monica Pier. When his parents asked what he did that day he told them all he court stuff he was supposed to do and did. A couple days later they go on my fb, see the album I put of like 4 or 5 pics of us at the pier and they accused him of 'omitting the truth and lying because he didn't mention it earlier. And now apparently I'm a bad influence because he didn't tell them about the pier. This is getting so ridiculous. I love him, I want to pursue a relationship with them but with his parents treating him like a 16 year old that's grounded for life, its so hard! And he feels trapped because he has no access to his money.. they claim they are helping him save but wont give him an ATM card to his own account. He doesn't have a key, doesnt have any freedom.. and it seems like the more he and I become a solidified couple, the more they are trying more and more to get in between us. The funny thing is my Mom really likes him, so does my sister. But his parents dont seem to get it. UGhh. Any thoughts?