How To Move On
By fayol727
@fayol727 (31)
December 14, 2011 11:42pm CST
i have been on my 8 mos of grieving since my boyfriend left me. it really hurts a lot but what should i do? move on? it is easy to say move but really hard to do. until now i cannot accept that he leaves me without any reason.
please do suggest what is the best way on how to accept these..
3 responses
@shrijsr (574)
• Bangalore, India
15 Dec 11
hello fayol! First of all, welcome to Mylot! 
Well, Boy friend has left you and its been 8 months and still you are not out of it is something that i understand. One of my friend is also going through the same thing. All i would suggest you to do is, concentrate on something else that could grab all you attention towards it. Try reading some books, like biographies or auto biographies of people if you are interested in reading books. By that, you will gain a sort of strength to face the present situation of your life. Life is not always fair, sometimes people only come to our lives to teach us something. Once they are done with teaching it, they move on, leaving no traces of their existence. So, life has to move on. Spend some time with your close friends, or friends who are very light hearted one's with whom you can actually smile or have a laugh. That will help you realize that you are not alone in this world. Spend some time nurturing the nature, it will give you the inner peace that you most need at this point of time. If you love sports, then try some hiking or learn a new new sport. And ya, you are always welcome to spend your time here around in mylot. People here will sometimes be more supportive than the best of your best friends. Don't forget to smile at the little things of life. Force the smile in the beginning, it'll then come very naturally to you. It will take some time, but surely you will get over it and once you are out of it, you will be someone who has learnt the meaning of life and i am sure you will find a lot of meaning to your life.
Never regret anything in life, everything happens for a reason. Good things give happiness and the bad things give you experience. Just move on hoping that one day when you turn back and look at this day, you can surely give the moment a smile!
Good luck take care!
Well, Boy friend has left you and its been 8 months and still you are not out of it is something that i understand. One of my friend is also going through the same thing. All i would suggest you to do is, concentrate on something else that could grab all you attention towards it. Try reading some books, like biographies or auto biographies of people if you are interested in reading books. By that, you will gain a sort of strength to face the present situation of your life. Life is not always fair, sometimes people only come to our lives to teach us something. Once they are done with teaching it, they move on, leaving no traces of their existence. So, life has to move on. Spend some time with your close friends, or friends who are very light hearted one's with whom you can actually smile or have a laugh. That will help you realize that you are not alone in this world. Spend some time nurturing the nature, it will give you the inner peace that you most need at this point of time. If you love sports, then try some hiking or learn a new new sport. And ya, you are always welcome to spend your time here around in mylot. People here will sometimes be more supportive than the best of your best friends. Don't forget to smile at the little things of life. Force the smile in the beginning, it'll then come very naturally to you. It will take some time, but surely you will get over it and once you are out of it, you will be someone who has learnt the meaning of life and i am sure you will find a lot of meaning to your life.
Never regret anything in life, everything happens for a reason. Good things give happiness and the bad things give you experience. Just move on hoping that one day when you turn back and look at this day, you can surely give the moment a smile!
Good luck take care!@fayol727 (31)
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15 Dec 11
hi shrijsr
thank you for the very inspiring words. i have to help myself so that i can have a very meaningful life. you really inspired me a lot.this is not my lost its all to that guy who left me. well i wish that he will be happy now and i should be happy also with what i am now.
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
24 Dec 11
Well,time heals..It took me a year to get over my ex who broke up with me 4 years ago due to family reason..the relationship was so complicated as he is my bro-in-law`s cousin whose (late)father was my brother-in-law`s uncle. He was not brave enough to fight for our relationship, however 6 months after we broke up, he sent me sms asking"how are you?"i replied"i am better off without you,after you left me for someone else".he said"we broke up not because of another girl".what the hell???but i don`t want to remember it too much as he lost his dad 2 weeks ago and now he has GF who is...10 years older than him ( I am 4,5 years older than him as well)
It`s hard,i understand that..however just enjoy doing your activities,make friends..hope you`ll find the right one.
@bubuth (1815)
• Philippines
30 Mar 12
I agree it is really hard to move on because there are lot of changes in your everyday routine of your life like he is not sending you a text message anymore and he is not calling you anymore and there is also tendency that you may see him in some place with his new partner or new lover but i think the best thing that you can do for you to move on is just accept the reality that your relationship with him is already came to its end. Just try to hang out with your friend so you can forget some of the hurt feelings inside you even in a short time.
