why women can not be real friends?

I have a lot of female friends, and there is no jealousy between us... I think you're generalising a bit, because me and my friends really don't have this problem! :)

Insecurity is a negative attitude.Am I right that you mean jealous as- insecure?When a woman possessed a natural good attitude she will be happy for another woman more successful and better than her in her circle.Any woman belongs to an upper class can be a model but cannot be a person to envy for we do not know we are happier than her.

Hi Nezavisima, I know the type of women that you describe here and I have to say that not all women are like that at all. I have some very good women friends that I cherish in my life as well as male friends. If the woman is jealous of you then it is because she is insecure in her relationship and/or herself. She might want to take a look at what isn't right in her own life that she feels threatened by you. If I am in a good relationship then I am ok if my guy is around beautiful women because there is trust. If I feel that I have to worry, then something is wrong with the relationship...not other women.

You just have to choose the right friend my dear. I do have real good friends and we get along so well, no jealousy no contention only sisterly love. Now find the same kind of friends and surely there are. Forget about those who cannot be real friends, they are not worth keeping at all.

I think you attract the wrong women? Or perhaps there is something in you that makes women feel that way? I always sticked around with boy and men because of other interest they have, also I don't like many things women like, like shopping, shoes, cloths, make up etc etc. The never ending chats about children and husbands is not my interest either. But I do have female friends, married and unmarried ones and I never bumped into a jealous one. BTW I don't think men are more friendly towards eachother if it comes to friendship. They envy too, are jealous, agressive etc. So I think it's just who you met. My only advice is: be more picky if it comes to friendship. No matter if it's with male or females.

Hello nezavisima, Just what I have mentioned on my previous response, I think not only the women feel jealousy among other women. For all we know, men also feel this way. We just don't realize or see it because they don't show their emotions. It would be much better to be friends with people who are open minded and matured unless you are willing to help a friend overcome her jealousy/insecurity I think people who are often jealous just need approval from society. I mean, they need a boost of self-worth

I have a few female friends and I love and respect them very much these people had been there for a long time...when I first got divorced I lost a lot of friends...why? the women were jealous because they thought I could go for their stupid husbands![ who wants them any way?] as far as I Am concern they can keep them. But any way there were the ones that never left and we meet all the time I get invited to their homes to parties,birthdays,weddings and so on...they are my real friends! and the rest I don't care I guess they were not my friends after all.

Maybe because they want to feel more than other women..like more beatiful,more cool, richer..and so on.. I feel the same way too with my women friends thus i try to not too close with them

I don't think women is not being real in terms of friendship or anything about relationship. Men or Women they are same in gesture about friendship. There are men which is not real friend and there are women also in that category...

Hi! Because women are so unpredictable, at lest it is true for most of the women out there. I have meet few that initially really nice and when something went wrong, they change really emotionally and turn into enemy at last. I think that is because most women are too emotional and jealousy is the main problem to sustain to be a good friend. I hope the statement that I made here will not hurt anyone in mylot.

True! There are so many envious girls out there! But yes, there are, don't worry you'll find. The sooner we find out a gal is envious of us the better to end up the friendship.

neazavisima: The jealousy is a human quality. Whether it may be a woman or a man -- we always think that others have more than what we have or the things others have are more valuable than what we have. This is causing jealousy in human beings more especially women. Women in the olden days were not employed and were concentrating on household only and had more time at their disposal and that may be one reason for them to brood over such issues. god day.

I don't think so ...maybe women more likely to envy others but there does exist pure friendship between female,, my mother and his high school classmates are best friends all the time...

I think it is not envy or jealous thing? This is also felt by others men and women? And according to Abraham Lincoln-- There's no permanent friend There's no permanent enemies but a permanent interests!

That's not true. I love my male friends, and if they need me, I try real hard to be there for them. I also have some female friends who have been there for me when I needed them. If they are genuine friends, then they will be there for you.

A friendship with another woman means acceptance of each others scars, warts and weight gain. It's not that you are never jealous but that both of you accept that fact and move on. Believe me these friendships are few so they must be treasured and kept close. Blessings

hello, Yeah, I also feel being jealous to other women and I really mean it because I know they are more beautiful and sexy. ha ha I hate that but I know I dont have to because I am unique and we have differences. So, why envy? it never help me at all. Sometimes friendship got broken because of this envious.

nezavisima: when it comes to envy, I have a feeling it is gender neutral-meaning, men may be probably as jealous of other men as are women of other women. Perhaps as it happens with a lot many issues, the analysis always has a male perspective are male influence. And women probably sound far more vocal in their expression.

Hello~ I admit sometimes women are having a hard to make friends with other women..but it depends on the kind of person she is. Some girls have the evil eye towards one another. Unless they have been friends for awhile. And maybe because we exude more self-confidence which other women can find intimidating and make them feel insecure. There are so many instances. But then, we can't force what doesn't fit, let's just keep on trying to find real girl friends and for sure in time we will be surrounded by real, warm and caring girl friends.

I dont think jealousy only exists in women. I think you may think like that because of your past experience. For me, the case of being jealous to another individual depends upon a person's personality and his/her view in life that her envious or jealous. It may also be because of the feeling of insecurities one experiences.