I can't bear my friends' action anymore,,what should i do?
@tomlawbossking (134)
December 15, 2011 9:59am CST
I am a student live in my school ,,one of my friend always do something excessively with his gril-friend in our dorm ,,they always kiss in front of us ,,or go on the random ..i have my gf too ,,but i never do that in my dorm ,,cause i know our dorm belongs to all of us ,,you have to take account of others feelings..some of us may want to sleep ,,or study ,,how can they ignore our feelings
i want to know if it's ok in other country if not what will you do ...
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@davaome (1826)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
You should tell them to respect also your privacy, do they own the dorm for them to act that way? or even so, if they did own the dorm they should not act that way either.
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@tomlawbossking (134)
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16 Dec 11
yeah ,,,,up to now ,,,i can see most of your guys think they are wrong,,so i know what i should do now
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@Triple0 (1904)
• Australia
16 Dec 11
Wow! They must be very open with their relationship, maybe they're proud?
nah, if I had a friend making out with her boyfriend right in front of me, it would be pretty awkward. It's like, you're trying to study and you hear pecking and slurping sounds right next to you
Your friend should really be a bit more modest and take the lovey dovey stuff somewhere else because really, it's just taking over your personal space. No one likes it when their personal bubble has been popped and invaded by images you don't want to see. You guys are mates so I reckon you're close enough, so why not tell him upfront that it disturbs you when he's there kissing his girlfriend "excessively". You can't just let it happen and your friend, if he's a good friend will also consider your opinions. So tell them to take it somewhere else, couldn't they just rent a hotel or go some other place for privacy? It's not country, it's the person really like what everyone else is saying.
So speak up! No need to bottle it up because you'll be doing everyone in the dorm a favor or if you can't do it alone, involve everyone and hold an intervention.
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@tomlawbossking (134)
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16 Dec 11
thanks a lot and i will take your advice and speak up ...i don't want to bottle it up anymore...
@ardoy0731 (7308)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
I think you should talk to them about that.Tell them that you are not against or don't care on what they are doing cause its their life and I guess they are old enough to know what they are doing,that they should do it in some other place to respect the order dorm mates and to respect the feeling of other and to not offend others.
@tomlawbossking (134)
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16 Dec 11
yeah,, i did ,,,but you know we are very good friends ,,so each time i told them about it i would take a playful way ,,so they just ignore it ,,what makes me angry is that they should know that ,,but they just want to show their love to us ,,so they pretend don't konw the dorm rules,,
@weprosperonline (58)
• Philippines
15 Dec 11
Hello~ I think it depends on the person and not from where country we came from.
Maybe you should talk to your friend and explain to him how you and your dorm mates feel about bringing his girlfriend to your dorm. I think, if you explain to him well, he'll understand it and maybe he will give you and your dorm mates the privacy and respect that belongs to you and not to him. And if your friend needs privacy to give affection to his GF, your dorm is not the right place for them.. they must find some other place, somewhere else.. a place of their own where they can do whatever they want.
@tomlawbossking (134)
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16 Dec 11
Exactly..,,i will tell them our feelings ,,communication is a good way to solve the problem may be ,,,thanks a lot weprosperonline
@icyrose123 (133)
• India
15 Dec 11
I feel it depends more on the individuals than the country they belong too. It is really important to account for others feelings if they are around us when we do any actions.And kissing is very personal affair and they cant do it in dorm which is shared by many. Its better to speak to them directly and get this sorted.Many be they think you are ok with there actions.
@tomlawbossking (134)
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16 Dec 11
yeah ,,i think so ,we should say our views seriously..for me i don't want to share my private things with others ,,so i will never do that in my dorm ,,en,,,,at least in front of my roommates..
@tomlawbossking (134)
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16 Dec 11
yeah,,,,hahhahha ,,i am a closet lover too ,,,i like too share something only with my gf ,,i don't like to show it to others ...
@mohkanari (1957)
• India
16 Dec 11
I think you should tell him frankly that such actions bringing annoyance to your study. I think his parents may blame you for assisting his actions as you are friends. You can tell this reason too to him.
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