If you are cheated on by your loved relationship partner, do you breakup?

I would say it depends... Being cheated on or having a suspicion that you are being cheated on can be automatic grounds for a break up for some people... I would not though say that it was an automatic breakup... You would still have to go through the motions of actually breaking up. A break up would not be assumed to have occurred. There are cases where there is a suspicion of cheating and actually no cheating is going on so it is wise to be sure that actual cheating has occurred before discussing your suspicions with your partner. If there are phone records, bank statements, text messages, etc. that can be found, these sometimes assist in obtaining the proof you need to have a discussion. Testimonies of others should be weighed to insure that actions are not taken based only on the words of those who might benefit from breaking up your relationship. Yet they should not be ignored. They should be evaluated. Prior to accusing anyone of cheating, insure that you are not yourself a cheater as often cheaters suspect that other people are cheating even when they are not. There are many instances where couples, especially those in married relationships, choose to stay together and work things out in relationships where there has been cheating but it is never easy. Trust can be rebuilt but it is not easy. Many couples stay together for sake of the children initially and often they do rebuild their lives together. If there is cheating in an unmarried or an uncommitted couple then quitting the relationship seems logical as infidelity is a difficult thing to deal with in a committed relationship. It does signal some lack of immaturity on the part of the one who is unfaithful. Sometimes it is motivated by anger at not getting ones' needs met... Sometimes the other party may not have had an affair but may have found himself or herself working too many hours, spending too much time with friends or doing other things that take away time, energy and attention from the relationship... The one who is unfaithful is sometimes not the first but the second person in the relationship to betray it... There are no angels or devils in any relationship, just people trying to get their needs met.

That depends on whether the relationship is before marriage or after marriage. If the cheating happens before marriage, then it's good riddance! Better that you know his or her real attitude before you walk down the aisle with him/her. But if it's a marriage and children are involved, it is more complicated. Breaking-up is not the answer for married couples. It is best, for the sake of the children, exception given in case of domestic and physical abuse, to forgive the cheating spouse and try to save the marriage. Spouses need to know that there is no perfect marriage and many go through all kinds of hardships and 'temptations'.

Being cheated on I'd say it was not an automatic break up when I found out he has been unfaithful to me and has actually allowed another women to get in between our relationship. It was no fun, not even a quick decision as I have to go through some hard times, and really painful experiences and days of being paranoid, etc. It was the hardest thing I had to go through in my life. I gave the person another chance and we are currently working on the relationship. It was not an easy decision too; I had to go through numerous times of just being alone, I admit I still remember the times when I discovered what he did to me and would be crying myself - I swear everytime I remember I would just find myself teary eyed. And I could have spared myself of this agony when if I only chose to just end the relationship. But maybe there was something in me that told me that I can still trust this person and God is helping me. This experience has brought me closer to God. Maybe God even allowed this thing to happen so i would know there is no one I could turn to but him and everyday I am really just trying to hold on. Everyday, if someone asks me how I am, I would stop and think for a while before I can answer that I am fine - even if I am not. I'd say for those who have been cheated on, It is your decision; You would never really know what to do until it happens to you. I used to say I would definitely not think twice and leave the person who is to cheat on me as fast as a blink of an eye. But somehow... I was not able to do it. And Maybe, It is out of love that I am able to still think and try to reason with myself and to think of what my final decision would be.

That maybe is the hardest decision to make. I will break up with my partner if he does that. I don't want someone to go easy on me. They have to respect me.

No, I wont breakup with him , since he worked very far from home , so , its ok if he finds someone to share and fill his lonelyness , but, I would like to do the same. Untill now I never hear something so , I stay home and wait for him to come.

This is a tough question to answer. I'd say if it's a relatively new relationship, or an old relationship that has been declining, then yes, but if it's a long term relationship, and you are deeply in love with your significant other then maybe you can give them a chance. Of course you will need to have clear understanding of why that person cheated. If they can't give you a straight answer then cut your losses, and try to move on as best you can.

Yes, cheating is a 100% dealbreaker. I've been married for over 10 years, but would kick him to the curb in an instant if he cheated on me.