I'm just so difficult

I can sometimes be a little difficult. Gift cards aren't really my thing.. not from husband to wife or vice versa.. I think they're too impersonal. I can always use clothes and shoes, but I don't let him buy me clothes because they probably won't fit right.. and that's not his fault, it's just everything is made differently and I'm very picky. Everything I wear has to fit just so.. pants have to be snug especially in the leg, with shirts it depends on what it is.. some I want to fit tighter, others I want super loose.. most shirts need to be a bit on the long side for me. Shoes.. again I'm too picky and I fit into different sizes depending on the make of the shoe. That doesn't leave much else. I'm not much of a knick knack person.. not with all these kids around. Some years are a little easier. Couple years ago when I was losing weight I wanted a lot of things pertaining to weight loss. He got me some new work out clothes, a new water bottle, and a Wii Fit. Last year I was all about Twilight and he bought me all the movies, one of the soundtracks, and the Scene It game. This year I'm being much more difficult. Unfortunately my tastes are extremely expensive! I've been asking for a Coach purse.. LOL! Keep dreaming! I've also been asking for an Adele CD, I'll probably get that one.. if he remembers me asking for it. Other than that, I haven't a clue what he might get me or what I might want.

Every year since we been together we always throw out a few things that we would like so it's easier to buy stuff for one another. This year neither 1 of us could really think of what we wanted, we really don't need anything so we just buy little things to put under the tree, {Underwear and Socks might be part of it this year}. Lots of times we get each other things that we both can use so it's actually for the house more than for us.

I usually have a few things in mind that I want/need, and if I don't get them (no one has asked what I wanted this year!), I work on getting them later. Most of what I want are things for the house, like new Venetian blinds for the kitchen. Not expensive, but something I have to make an effort to get. There are three people on my list that are so hard to buy for! A son in law, a daughter in law and a granddaughter. I have another granddaughter who is easy to buy for; it's a difference in personality, I guess.

After years of struggling wondering what to get each other, my wife and I have decided to get what we want and then regard that as a Xmas present at this time of year. Personally, I would be more than happy not to give or receive anything, but nobody I know wants to go down that road. "We must exchange gifts!" They all tell me. So we do. I know exactly what I am getting from my wife and she knows what she is getting from me. We each just wrap them when they arrive in the house (we usually get stuff on line nowadays) and then open them on Xmas Day.. I don't even know why we do this, but I guess it is nice to have something to open. With my sisters it is another problem - I have 3 sisters and I am their only brother. We all have to buy for each other, wrap the gifts and give them to each other. That's OK, but it wouldn't matter to me if it didn't happen. _Derek

Hubby says the same thing about me and I must admit that I feel as you do. No gift is needed. I have so much to be thankful for and during the coming year I know there will be challenges so just having him by my side is all I can ask for. At our ages this is gift enough for me.

I am much like you. What I really want is a trip to Italy. Now, I know that no one is going to fork over $4000 so I can go, but we are slowly saving up. I have taken on some tutoring jobs etc, and we are really sticking to our budget, but I really would just like for my parents to write a check for me to put into my travel account. They will not do that. They still feel like they have to give me stuff. So i am stuck having to make a list of stuff that I am either going to return, or is going to collect dust somewhere in my house.

Just tell him! (*Face palm*) If you get something that you don't like for Christmas, then go complaining about it when he gets you something. Just give him ideas. That's all he is looking for. Remember what I was talking about on my discussion. This is it! This is what I was telling you about. You have to just give him ideas if you don't really know or don't want to tell him what you want. As long as he has ideas, then he has something to work with. Give him a helping hand on this one. He's trying to be thoughtful, and he wants to do what is right for you. Also, men are terrible at picking out gifts sometimes, so we women have to help them out just a little.

If my husband asked me what I wanted, I'd have no quick answer either. He and I do not exchange big gifts anymore, but we do stocking stuffers. Stocking stuffers are whatever we want - I am not picky I just want him to fill my stocking! He is a tech-head so usually ends up getting me DVDs or a game of some sort. For me, it's the thought that counts and that he actually remembered to fill it :) Not like I let him forget! One year I got his stuffed and he forgot, I was sad :( So now I constantly remind him with hints like "oh you aren't going to be home tonight so I have time to wrap your Stocking stuffers!" or I posted on FB "all done shopping - even got my hubby's Stocking stuffers!" Now if he forgets after all of that, I think I'll be mad instead of sad! Like I said, it's not the gift, it's the thought. I don't think he will forget this year though :)

I myself am a stay at home mom. And my husband an i go through the same thing every year wether it be my birthday or Christmas, there really is nothing i WANT.. there are things that i NEED and there things like slippers, anew purse, new clothes etc.. But i dont ever buy myself anything. And this is the perfect time for me to get those things without feeling guilty about spending money. SO when i make him a list of thes things he gets upset and says " those are everyday things you NEED to go out and buy those things AND THEN give me a list i can an want to work with" The thing is i feel bad because he makes all the money and i dont contribute and i feel badly about it so deep inside i dont want to get things like that, EVEN if i NEED them. Well every year while im out shopping and i get his gifts, i have to keep a tally of what i have spent because he insists that he needs the same amount to spend on me. An if i dont let him have that or if the budget doesn call for such then he wont open his presents from me. An that just erks me becuse he works so hard to support our family that i LVE spending so much on him for Christmas to GIVE him the thngs that i cant normally do. so every year i lie to him and say oh i only spent 50 dollars when i usually spend around 200, but im a good clearance and coupon shopper he would never think twice, LOL

NOT I...dear snuggles...I think you could wrap up a banana and put it under my tree...I would be a happy camper, I just love to see the gaily wrapped packages be reflected fr om the tree lights! I AM horribly practical..and I so desperately need a new pair of slippers, housecoat...the list goes on and on! Practical things for me! One thing I would love to have, as I so love baking is a "silpat" mat--but haven't researched them yet..and am wary that like teflon..they will off-gas! But they so help in making things like brandy snaps/peanut brittle, etc. Hard to buy for..please..my SON! Have you watched "SURVIVOR!" Outwit, outplay...and due to my EX ..OUTSPEND! Can't go there anymore, and my son (sadly) has the genes of my EX, "nothing but the finest!" Just can't do it, I gave up..! I don't want to buy love..but it hurts! May all your JOYS be real JOYS...and all your pain be champagne!

I don't need anything either...but when I do my Daughter in law is the one tha usually gets it for me. (she does the shopping) but I am pretty easy to buy for....get me something for my hobby and I am good to go. Even a gift card to JoAnn's, Michaels or Hobby Lobby works for me!

My dad and stepmother are difficult to buy for. They'll love anything I get them but dad is 90, mom is 85 and they have everything they want or need. My mom used to tell me when I was young that she wanted kitchen towels and wash cloths. I didn't believe her and when I reached the age she was then I understood that those new things would be a luxury. I'm not difficult to buy for. If my sons sent me a rock I'd be thrilled. They have no money, one is unemployed and the other is recovering from some poor financial decisions. A card would be a great present for me, just something I can hold and look at and know that they took the trouble to send me.

it must be because being a SAHM you do not see anything that you urgently needs. most SAHM moms, and some working moms, do not need see the necessity of a gift, even with occasions like Christmas. sometimes i am indecisive and reply to just hand me the money

We stopped the gift buying thing because we can't think of anything we desperately want other than things that are too big anyway - I'd like a new kitchen! I think the thing is that we are quite content with what we already have and have very few "wants".

hi 3SnuggleBunnies My son asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I just could not think of a thing then later I thougnt why did i not say I wanted a lamp to put above my desk as in late afternoon and early evening its pretty dark in this corner as we just have small bedside lamps and no over head lighting at all. maybe he will remember me griping about how dark it is here in this corner at night. too this is the first hristmas for ages that hes had any noney to use for Christmas so things are looking up. lol I just told him I an not hard to please really.Now what I wish is to be over this lousy virus I have,my throats no longer sore but I am couphing like crazy and have sore eyes too.

Ah yes... the infamous honey-do list. Have I mentioned lately that I love being single? lol

I don't think I'm particularly difficult to buy for - but apparently everyone else thinks so. I actually told my hubby I would be glad with gift cards from the Dollar Tree, or 99cent Store, or even a place like Goodwill/Salvation Army if there is such a thing - and he felt kinda weird about that - and perhaps most people I know would too. I'd have to say my parents are difficult to buy for. They don't have big "wants" - and have simple needs. We all used to give them gift cards, but then we know they will just turn it around and spend them on us. Even with restaurant cards, they don't want to go to the restaurant themselves. This year they were last on my Christmas list because I had no clue what to get them. And so it dawned on me that instead of a gift-gift, I would give them homemade lunch or dinner and deliver it to them every now and then throughout the year . . . that way my mom doesn't have to cook so much and my dad can have something "different" - ha ha. So I got some food containers and such for them with a note about it. Weird maybe, but I think it's a practical "gift". We don't have a Stein Gardens out here (I've never heard of them), but I LOVE LOVE LOVE JoAnn's!!!!!!!

No you are not difficult to ask as to what gift. It's just that, when he asked you haven't thought of it yet. But basing from what you like, i think they are just easy to comply with , by your husband. On the first place, he wouldn't ask, if he doesn't have the budget yet.

I had a girlfriend like you before. I just never knew what she wanted. I asked, and she refused to let me know. I guessed, but everything was wrong. I never got to know what she wanted, and she was even fuming mad. I ended up giving her gift checks. She got even angrier. At long last, I guessed it right. I left her.

LOL you just made me laugh out loud !