am i over reacting on this

Absolutely not. If my husband ever spent that much time talking to his "friend" who just happens to be a girl trust me we would have words. If your husband is spending that much time chatting with her, & texting etc. etc. then something more then mere friendship is going on here. I also agree with you on the gift as well. I've had a lot of good friends in my time, but none of them ever spent that much on a gift for me like that. I can't think of any friend that would. I think you & your husband need to sit down & have a good long talk to find out whats really going on here once & for all.

I don't think you're overreacting at all. It's one thing to be friends with a girl but it's totally different if they text and chat all the time. I don't know your husband so I couldn't tell you what he's up to and I don't want to make any wrong assumptions. To me, it's really weird that he would do this and I know for sure that my boyfriend and I would have major discussions if he was talking to a girl all the time. Did this just recently start happening? Or is she a friend he's known for years?

No, I definitely do not think you are overreacting! One question, though, did he talk/text this much with her before you were married? I mean, is this something he's always done or did it just start suddenly? If it was suddenly, then I'd say you have a problem that needs to be addressed. Let him know that the general reaction by women is that it is NOT normal for a man, especially a newly married man, to be spending so much time with a female other than his wife. He needs to respect your feelings. When it comes down to his wife and his friend, he needs to back away from this "friend" and spend more time with you. Oh, one more question, has he changed the way he interacts with you since he's been talking/texting this female? If so, it sounds like you two need to sit down and be honest with each other. I know you will be, it may be a problem getting him to be completely honest. The XBox gift is extreme. Unless she is incredibly rich, she has no business buying YOUR husband such an expensive gift. You said she was in your wedding but is she your friend as well? If not, then you do have a problem. If my husband started doing that, he'd find himself alone very quickly. Oh, he might hook up with his "friend" but he'd be paying for his little indescretion for the rest of his life, believe me! I'd get everything in court that he'll ever have. Stay strong!

i think you react normally.. you are her wife..and you are deserved asked like that...but maybe you must try not to blame your husband the first.. invite him in the comfortable situation and tell heart from heart about your curiosity about your new friend of your husband..

I am not fully aware of the past of your husband and his friend, but talking that much and showing affection by buying an expensive stuff is really a cause for confusion or maybe even suspicion. Not that I am insinuating anything. By the way, are you and your husband do healthy conversations together? He may have somethings that he would like to discuss with you but to unknown reasons, this is not happening. Engage him in a healthy and fight-free conversation :)

It is just right to react that way because first he is you husband. You don't want him to be stolen by anyone out there. Confront your husband properly because talking and texting with a girl almost 24 hrs a day there must be something going on between them. He could have girlfriends but he has to limit himself cause he is already married and have obligations to you.

Like everybody before me, I too don’t think you are overreacting. Friends are OK but they can never be part of our deepest personal life…then they would no longer remain friends but become a spouse! As it is a spouse is supposed to be the best friend for you for life…if you are happy with your spouse, why do you need a friend to talk to all the time!

Nope, not over reaching at all. Something is going on there and you need to get to the bottom of it. You don't mention your ages but I think you all are still fairly young. An older person would already know that things are not what is claimed. Just being truthful here. Hopefully, you can get things stopped before the Christmas gift thing. I would ask what does he plan on getting her for Christmas? For you?

Whilst their friendship might be happily platonic, what I would be concerned about is his spending so much time focussed on one thing. Point out that it isn't because it is her, but the amount of time - and this would be the same if he was gaming for hours, off playing golf or spending so much time with a male friend. It isn't WHAT he is doing, but for how it seems to leave little time for anything else. If she is a relationship it might be bothering her partner too. If she isn't then the amount of time she focusses on your husband might be stopping her finding that someone special - it might do her some good too if they set limits on how much time they allow their friendship each day. It's good to have a good friend but not to the exclusion of other people who matter. You haven't said how well you get along with her. If you do get along then put it to your husband that she could come over perhaps twice a month for dinner and you can all catch up together. I think he should also set limits on gift buying - it may be that she is lonely and so happy to have a good friend that she is going over the top to make him happy when it isn't something that is needed. It's hard without knowing much more of the back story. How did they meet -randomly or through a shared interest? Does she not seem to have any other friends and is this making her a bit clingy? Again, for HER sake as much as yours, he might need to create a little more space between them so she can expand her social circle.

As a wife, you have the rights to do that.And as a husband he should know how to take care his wife's heart and feeling.

Hi Kristinad, honestly, i don't think you are over reacting. You will have this kind of feeling is because you care about your husband. That is normal. But i think you really have to handle it carefully. My suggestion is try to communicate with your husband about your feeling. And dont push him too much because i worry he don't like people to put pressure on him. If the girl really want to buy your husband xbox3, just encourage your husband to take but of course you also have to prepare something better.

hello, I think there is something fishy here? I dont think it is applicable anymore when your husband wants to buy something that cost a lot. Sorry? that is just my opinion. If this will happened to me? Maybe my reaction is the same like yours and I think it is normal because you are just protecting something.

Hi kristinad I am sorry to say this but I think there is something really fishy here. I am a person who believes one should not jump to conclusions but this is a situation I put my neck on the line because no one, I mean no one can talk and text to a girl who is just a friend for so long!! I have colleagues too who are girls and the only time I call them is when I have some work to discuss on.. SO talking as guy I really think you should be more firm with him and confront him.. And I am also sure that it is very strange for someone to spend so much for a friend unless she has some other feelings for him. So I think its time you got tough with your hubby and have a talk to really understand what he wants and where this relationship with his so called "friend" stands.

I think you are fair to behave like that. that is, he is your husband and you are entitled to know what he is doing. spent $ 200 for other women, is a thing that ought to be questioned, especially for female friends. Maybe you need now is patience in the face of this, while trying to give meaning to your husband.

I don't think you're over reacting, I would feel the same way. I don't know why he would need to talk to ANYBODY that much. I would do some serious research and get some facts before confronting your husband. Get all your facts straight first, check his pockets, look for receipts for stuff he might have bought her. Have his behaviour changed? Do you think he's cheating?

I think you don't overreact to his action. Friends won't be so close, friends can't talk all day and all night, friends maybe once in a while have a good talk, but they don't so cling to each other. Your husband is lying to you. Just ask him, can he accept the fact of you having such a opposite gender close friend? But you know what, sometimes maybe at first, he just takes her as a close friend, then little by little, as the time goes on, the friendship can turn into other things. Treat such kind of things needs wisdom, the more you are crazy and angry with him,the more he will be close to her. First, you need to know why he does this, just to provoke you or he really has affair with her.

I do think that's excessive. On both counts...spending that much money and spending that much time talking. He should be talking and texting with you that much. He might need to be reminded!

My thoughts on this are probably the same as most women if they are honest with you about it. Of course it would bother me!!! Talking all the time and buying expensive gifts...sounds a little more than just friendship but thats just my opinion. I could be wrong and I hope I am wrong in this case. Im sorry. I truly hope I am very wrong.

I think you have the right to overreact! If I were you, I would be pretty anxious and worried too, no friend talks for that long too. How close are they?! I thought guys would be closer to their guy mates and why this woman? Now this woman is planning on buying him an xbox!? Woah! They must be like the best friends or something! It's alright and fair for him to have a few female friends but really to talk to her all day and night is very troublesome. Does your husband want the xbox? Or does he think that his friend is like crazy to get him something as expensive as that? Now if he accepted the gift happily I would be very worried. When it comes to relationships, there has to be a sense of trust and when one partner has an issue the other partner should consider it too. You should really tell him that it is really bothering you and as a good husband he should consider your view in the situation. Have you spoken to the woman? Try confronting her about it, maybe not say "back off, he's mine" but really get to know her and see if she slips anything about being possibly interested in your husband. But the question is, do you trust your husband?

Only married 5 weeks ago and he talks for hours with another girl ?That`s weird. Anyway i will tell her to buy games too because that`s the trick with the Xbox ,yes the console costs 250-300 dollars but then he has to spend a fortune on games