Stuff will hit the fan when son comes back tomorrow
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
December 27, 2011 2:19pm CST
my daughters bf has made this holiday a livinmg h3ll
my oldest son is gone to visit his gf in NY. and the whole time daughters bf has stayed messed up and arguing cussing, etc. which the wimpy bast4rd wouldnt be if son was here. my daughter yells at me and takes up for him though if i say anything. guess what after son comes back will happen? thursday night,first night son was gone,i got woke up at 3am with him screaming at daughter, throwing things around, just having the worst god awful fits ive ever heard and he cussed me. i was going to call 911 only to find that she had unhooked the main line. i asked for my cell phone. she said she couldnt find it and promised everything would be all right if i just let her take care of it and hed never do this again. he had slipped out and gotten rum. next day he apologised, tried to hug me. couldnt beleive he'd done it. RRighTT!!so that evening she went to work. he tried to act real nicey nice, but then he started freaking out, acting paranoid. saying the kid next door was running around with a gun. get down he kept saying. wheres your gun? i told him if i had one i wouldnt give him it cause he shoot some little kid!! come to find out he had taken something like cold pills called triple C. coricidin. people take it to get high, can you believe? ever heard of that? so my daughter said well hes ok when he just has a couple beers. just to get through christmas. saturday we let him have some beer. stupid me. he bought a 12 pack, maybe more! he took some more triple c, which he had promised he wouldnt. i could hear him carrying on at daughter all night. what does girls see in these good for nothing men? i mean, hes not even good looking. 
sunday, same thing. plus he was doing other crazy things. then last night,first he sprayed so much air freshener around i couldnt breath. i told him i cant handle that with my COPD. he said he wouldnt any more. then later, he sprayed mens cologne all over him and kept walking past my room. i had to lay in my room, and take oxygen most of the night for the first time since ive had the oxygen. another night of feeling like a prisoner in my own house. he doesnt work either as ive told you all before. plus i seem to have caught a cold or something to boot. of course daughter said im just cranky and he didnt mean to. we got into a screaming match and she threatened to leave again. i said if it takes that to get rid of him then do it. i love her with all my heart but when she begged me to let him come to when i needed surgery, she promised all kinds of things and never told me how bad he is. son will be back tomorrow night. and do you think im looking forward to that? lol. at least i will feel safe again. sorry its so long. hope you all had a much better cmas then i did. now i totally hate it.
my oldest son is gone to visit his gf in NY. and the whole time daughters bf has stayed messed up and arguing cussing, etc. which the wimpy bast4rd wouldnt be if son was here. my daughter yells at me and takes up for him though if i say anything. guess what after son comes back will happen? thursday night,first night son was gone,i got woke up at 3am with him screaming at daughter, throwing things around, just having the worst god awful fits ive ever heard and he cussed me. i was going to call 911 only to find that she had unhooked the main line. i asked for my cell phone. she said she couldnt find it and promised everything would be all right if i just let her take care of it and hed never do this again. he had slipped out and gotten rum. next day he apologised, tried to hug me. couldnt beleive he'd done it. RRighTT!!so that evening she went to work. he tried to act real nicey nice, but then he started freaking out, acting paranoid. saying the kid next door was running around with a gun. get down he kept saying. wheres your gun? i told him if i had one i wouldnt give him it cause he shoot some little kid!! come to find out he had taken something like cold pills called triple C. coricidin. people take it to get high, can you believe? ever heard of that? so my daughter said well hes ok when he just has a couple beers. just to get through christmas. saturday we let him have some beer. stupid me. he bought a 12 pack, maybe more! he took some more triple c, which he had promised he wouldnt. i could hear him carrying on at daughter all night. what does girls see in these good for nothing men? i mean, hes not even good looking. sunday, same thing. plus he was doing other crazy things. then last night,first he sprayed so much air freshener around i couldnt breath. i told him i cant handle that with my COPD. he said he wouldnt any more. then later, he sprayed mens cologne all over him and kept walking past my room. i had to lay in my room, and take oxygen most of the night for the first time since ive had the oxygen. another night of feeling like a prisoner in my own house. he doesnt work either as ive told you all before. plus i seem to have caught a cold or something to boot. of course daughter said im just cranky and he didnt mean to. we got into a screaming match and she threatened to leave again. i said if it takes that to get rid of him then do it. i love her with all my heart but when she begged me to let him come to when i needed surgery, she promised all kinds of things and never told me how bad he is. son will be back tomorrow night. and do you think im looking forward to that? lol. at least i will feel safe again. sorry its so long. hope you all had a much better cmas then i did. now i totally hate it.8 people like this
16 responses
@lajonez (477)
• Poland
27 Dec 11
your daughter might be in love with him but putting on her and his problems is just unfair! it's them life then can do whatever they want but they shouldn't involve you in them relationship and all of this sh**. you're not healthy and your daughter obviously didn't thought about how many problems her bf is going to make, but did she apologized to you????? did she said she'll not bring him anymore to your house????
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@yoyo1198 (3641)
• United States
28 Dec 11
Oh, bon....I'm so sorry that you're having to go through all of that. I think your daughter has failed to live up to her end. Both of them should leave and I hope your son tells them so when he gets back. Just let him read all that you wrote here. And I'm sure you're not telling us all of what is going on.
I realize you need someone with you but these people are doing more harm than good. I'll be thinking of and praying for you. god bless.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
thanks hon. well, i just got out of hospital and i didnt tell all to son. but anyway, ive decided if this is how its going to be, i may have to do without help. this is kind of the last straw with these 2 my daughter and bf. things better change now for sure. ive had it. you know.
@inertia4 (27960)
• United States
2 Jan 12
I feel bad for you. I can only imagine how torn you are about your daughter. I hope I never have to deal with anything like that in my life with my kids. I had a good christmas and I actually had a great new years this time around. My kids were here this year and it made all the difference. Again, I feel for you and I hope you could fix these problems. I hope you have a great 2012.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jan 12
great friend yes, i just got out of hospital last night. so hopefully it can only go up/get better from here.
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@margeryann (1845)
• United States
28 Dec 11
That is crazy. Your daughter sounds like my sister with her boyfriends.My dad when he was a live was tired of her boyfriend problems. She would and still today runs in and out of real bad situations and stays with them a while and then gets with someone again before the month is over and brags about them. When she has to deal with him by herself maybe she will wake up but I don't know. Every time my sister would end a bad relationship I would think and she would act like she learned her lesson but before the month was up she would be serious with another man. That is what my sisters problem is is she runs into relationships too fast. That is very bad that he even treats you bad and it doesn't bother her. That is how my sister is. Hopefully he doesn't have her hooked on things too sometimes that happens too. Some woman get involved with things that there men do but she might just be in denile since in her mind she is in so much love that was always my sisters excuse for letting men treat her the way they did. I just love him so much. Good luck. Hopefully your son can figure out how you can get him out of there. You might have to just kick you daughter out since she isn't respecting you by letting her boyfriend treat you like that.I know how it would be on feeling bad doing that to your daughter and worrying about your daughter. If you and your son can't get them to move out you might have to call the cops in having them move out.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
oh my son could move him out in a minute. believe me. i just didnt tell him everything. because in spite of it all, i still hesitate, since my daughter is not only important to me but i need her badly. like when i just had to go to the hospital 6 days, since this discussion. she was the one went with me and picked me up. son has been sick, plus working, and you know how men are. they think they cant do when they are sick. big babies
@PointlessQuestions (15397)
• United States
27 Dec 11
He must have overdosed on the coricidin. I remember having to take this antihistamine (I guess that what it is... I had bad sinuses) when I was a teen. I never got high.. but I only took one at a time. It was plain.. not triple back then.
I don't think I would allow someone like that back in the house again. I tell you.. people in relationships put up with a heck of a lot. That's nuts!
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@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
1 Jan 12
goodness dear bunnybon this man is really crazy. you must be a saint for putting up with him for such a long time now.
Hope things have gome a little more back to normal now as your son will be home too and put some boundaries on this losers ways in and around the house.
I almost do have a bad conscience cause I had such a lovely Christmas, was the first really happy guilt free Christmas without fears, without emotional blackmailing and without that wonderful (NOT) feeling of being on a tightrope without a security net underneath.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
oh dont feel guilty dear. im so glad for you. other people need to have a lovely holiday in spite of my stupidity for having myself in this situation. anyway, i guess iam a bit of a saint, since i didnt tell son all that went on and get the bf killed
spent 6 days in hospital and i imagine daughter is going to be a bit nicer now to!!glad its over and im better. hugs, bon@RitterSport (2451)
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Jan 12
hugs dear bon and I really hope you will be as good as new soon. Best would be this loser moves out quickly before you send something nice like a wooden rolling pin flying into his direction.
@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
28 Dec 11
wow. I'm sorry you had this problem over the holidays. I hope you've found a way to deal with this so that you are in control of your own home again.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
yes im having to deal with it but at least son is here to keep things a bit easier and help me.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
5 Jan 12
Oh Bon, you are so much more tolerant than I am. I would have kicked that dirt bag out of my house in the first place...even if my daughter would go too. That guy sounds like an accident waiting to happen and he's obviously some kind of maniac to take what he's taking and to behave the way he is. You just don't do that in someone else's home. I'd be so hissed off. I'm really sorry that you are having tpo put up with this crap.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
8 Jan 12
its better now dear. at least im out of the hospital and everything is working well with family now.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
13 Jan 12
Like Thanksgiving, I had 3 Christmases. Tho the first one was December 11th.
None of them were bad, but one night I spent out at the roomie's folks, trying to sleep on the couch with the Great Dane "roommate" who snored, farted and got up and walked around in the middle of the night was enough for me, I was glad to spend the next night in my own home in my own bed!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
13 Jan 12
oh you poor girl. well i think id have prefered your doggie roommate night to many i had while all this was going on. glad yours wasnt a pure nightmare like mine. 
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
28 Dec 11
Hi Bunny,
You need to get him out of your home. There is no way that you should have to be dealing with that crazy stuff and it is crazy. Your daughter is grown and if she chooses to stay with someone like that then that is her choice but there is no way that you should have to. I would call the police the next episode and have him removed from the home. If he is spraying room freshener and cologne around, he is probably trying to cover some smell and lord only knows what.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
yes i think you are right. but now im back at being dependent on them. so not a lot i can do. anyway, i didnt want to push things with daughter after my rant. son came home and i went in the hospital for 6 days with pneumonia. but this is the very reason i needed my daughter over such things as hospital help etc. so its like a catch 22. she still dont believe the spray caused my problems. hopefully this will work out now im back out. home. 
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
7 Jan 12
Oh ok...I didn't realize that you were counting on your daughter's help. Well, I'm glad to hear that you are back home and on your way to recovery. And whether the spray actually caused your problems or not...who knows but it sure could not have helped. The fact is that it bothered you and you don't want it and that should be enough said. Hope you are feeling better soon, Bunnybon!
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
yes you got that right. ive seen it tip that way a couple times. she argues with me. so i try not to continue to argue. then sometimes i see a glimmer of rational thought in her face and she leans away from him a bit. im just hopeing eventually she will see. maybe meet a nice guy would be nice @JenInTN (27514)
• United States
28 Dec 11
Wow...that guy is a real piece of work isn't he? I hate that you have been mistreated the way you have throughout the holidays...anytime for that matter. You certainly don't deserve that I hope that your son gets it all straightened out when he gets back. It might not be pretty but it sounds like the guy deserves whatever he gets. I do hate it for the thing that is coming between you and your daughter. That is the worst but I would be like you under that condition. I would be ready for them both to go if I couldn't get rid of the party boy.
Take care and keep us updated.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
well, i did opt to not tell son all because it would have got daughters bf possibley killed and that wouldnt be good for anyone in this house. but then after son came home, i had to be taken to emergency room over my breathing. i was in there 6 days and just got out last night. things are a bit better now and should stay that way i imagine though.
things are a bit better now and should stay that way i imagine though. @MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
29 Dec 11
I hope your son can help the situation. If your health is in jeopardy then maybe she needs to move. I know how you feel, you love your daughter and you do not want to see her in this situation. Apparently she has a boyfriend with some addictions. And there is nothing you can do for her until she can see this for herself.
I hope all works out.
May your New Year be Happy, Healthy and Prosperous.
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
thanks hon. since i went into the hospital and everyone sees how tough such things are on me, things have gotten much better to where i may never have be in that situation again. because need her or not, i wont chance it again. she will go to. 1 person likes this
@MaryLynn321 (2680)
• United States
8 Jan 12
I am glad to hear that things have changed for the better. Only you knows what you can live with and what you can't live with. Hope you feel better soon.
@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
28 Dec 11
Hiya bunnybon,
Its just not fair for you to have to put up with this kind of thing at any time of the year. You have enough going on just for yourself.
Like someone else says just because your Daughter is in love you don´t have to put up with that Person either.
I don´t see why you should have to put up with so much so unfair.
Hope to God your other Son gets back today and gets the situation settled once and for all. Hope he helps you out soon bunnybon.xxx
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
7 Jan 12
really late commenting on my discussions here. thanks for the concern hon. yes, i was in the hospital for a week from all this. but son is keeping things in check now and i dont expect any more problems from daughters bf. i think he knows to straighten his crap now.
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@lovinangelsinstead21 (36850)
• Pamplona, Spain
8 Jan 12
Hiya bunnybon,
You poor thing bonnie he should be ashamed of himself behaving like that what a lack of respect towards you as well and to your Daughter.
Well maybe he realizes what he did and he might feel rather sheepish about it all.
Glad your Son got back to rescue you thank God for him to be able to protect you.
Hope you are much much better now have a great start to year now hugs. Sue.xxx
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
4 Feb 12
thanks for the best response, how did it all turn out in the end?
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
27 Dec 11
Your holiday probably would have been more enjoyable if it was in h3ll, from the sounds of it. Your daughter's boyfriend is absolutely an addict if he can't stop for a few days. Your daughter acts like she has a co-dependancy problem, too - since she puts up with it.
And the hallucinating is beyond scary. By bringing him into your home, your daughter not only risks her own life, but yours as well. And to disconnect the main house phone line? What was she thinking? I would have walked to the neighbor's and called the police anyway. You'd be doing yourself AND your daughter a favor. Maybe she wouldn't thank you right away, but in time (I would hope) that she would. If he harmed you, her or a neighbor...do you think that 'Oops, I didn't mean to.' would cover the deed?
Is your son visiting the gf with the child that visited a while ago? Or is this some one new? You might need to put both kids up for adoption to get any peace! 
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Dec 11
should have done that years ago. since i didnt call the cops that night ive still been thinking about it. ive gotten my cell back now and keep it on me. ive been so sick, i wouldnt have made it to the neighbors. the night he was freaking out on triple c, i called my youngest son over with his giant brother in law and things calmed down a lot. you bet! anyway, except for last night shes been keeping him a bit in check. about the spraying stuff, im not sure how i could explain that to the cops. today he has been yelling some since she told him shes had it. if he goes and gets anything, she will lock him out. i told him i will call the cops to. they just went over to youngest sons to talk with them some. i think my yougest is going to tell him a thing or two
yes, jr, has went off to see the one with the little boy. its just for hook up time i guess, since she doesnt want to move here and he doesnt want to move there for different reasons.