No One Is Appreciating Me For My Cooking.... :( :(

@Dassodils (2010)
India
December 30, 2011 3:57am CST
I am sad...No one is appreciating me for My cooking..They reveal their opinion to the other one..I heard that one day my father was talking to my mom about my cooking..He was telling good opinion...And the food was delicious..Then Why they are not saying that to me???I don't know..I had this same feeling from one of my cousin brother..He was saying a good opinion about my cooking to his mom...I heard that...But No one is appreciating me directly....What will be the reason????? :(
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
30 Dec 11
Yes Parents do not appreciate any thing done by their child in front of them ,may be they fear that we become proud and it can spoil us .They like to give a comment or a feed back.Never they like to give a positive or a plus so that it cna give strength to us and confidence to us.
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@ravisivan (14079)
• India
30 Dec 11
Daffodils : Nice you have time to create more topics. Good. I go to various engineering colleges and I use to ask the girls "how many of your help your mother in cooking?" Nobody use to raise their hands. it is rare to find girls like you who like cooking. You really deserve appreciation. Which dish you make very well? Parents -- we normally do not appreciate because it may give a sort of proudness --and that may lead to bad performance. anyhow I appreciate you for your good cooking and especially volunteering to do that.
@Dassodils (2010)
• India
30 Dec 11
Hai Ravisivan.... I cook all foods...Chicken and fish dishes are my favourite..Today I made fish curry..I like to fry fish and chicken with applying the paste of ginger,Garlic and onion....Oh..That's super taste...Some of my relatives appreciates me for my chicken curry....Thank you...
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
2 Jan 12
Have you ever heard that nobody appreciates something till they lost it??? Maybe you should go on strike.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
Don't be sad,at least they really appreciate your cooking my dear. Some parents or other people do not want to give praises in front of the concern. But you have to be proud, they are spreading how good you cook
@ravisivan (14079)
• India
30 Dec 11
jaiho: same point struck me. Parents normally do not appreciate because children may not be able to use it properly. You are right Daffodils can be happy that her cooking is appreciated indirectly.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
31 Dec 11
There are some people who don't really say to you directly if they like your cooking, but at least you have heard that they say something positive and appreciates how you cooked. The best you do is you can asks them directly while they are eating the dish you have cooked, in that way you may know if they like it or not or needs some improvement.
@aghiuta (525)
• Canada
31 Dec 11
Not everybody is aware of the needs of the people around them. So you have to be blunt and ask for their opinion! Sure,that means that you might hear some negative opinions,but that is a risk,that I am sure you would take.It seems to me that you are a good cook.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
31 Dec 11
Hi,i think your family members just don't like to speak out their feelings. As you have said, the foods you cooked are delicious, and your father was talking that to your mother. You know, there are lots of people who are not so openly when they praise one thing. I think though they have not thanked you for that, but in their hearts, they do appreciate. Don't be sad, when you see they have good appetite on the table, you see the smile face when they eat, i think you must be happy, and in some sense, they are appreciating your work. don't you think so?
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
31 Dec 11
As a man (and a cooking hobbyist) I can appreciate good cooking! Most people enjoy good food but some do not verbalize it. In lieu of thanks or praise, the cook soon comes to realize that real appreciation is in the eating. A smile as they eat, and a burp when they finish, might be all the thanks the cook requires!
@mayka123 (16605)
• India
30 Dec 11
If you invite me home for lunch I will definitely give you a very frank opinion of your cooking and appreciate it if it is good. That is a promise!!!!!. I think all of us have experienced this. We always hear of our good qualities from a third person and never directly from the person who we would want to hear it from.
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
30 Dec 11
There can be only reason. Your father is not telling you how good a cook you are, as he does not want you to become overconfident and cook badly. And then there are people like my elder brother, who awards grades to what my sister-in-law's cooking everyday. It frustrates her, 28 years of marriage and an exam everyday. I am more tolerant, anything that will go down and stay down is okay with me. He calls me "a waste basket for tasteless food" Thank God your father is not like him.
@nikelaz (33)
• Bulgaria
30 Dec 11
Do you cook to get a good opinion about it? Do it for fun. Your opinion is important, not your dad's, your mum's, your cousin's or anyone else's opinion. This is the life. You must like your cooking.
@Orson_Kart (6775)
• United Kingdom
30 Dec 11
I find it is always good practice to compliment the cook. That way they are more likely to cook again for you in the future. If your family don't show their appreciation then tell them you won't cook any more for them as it's obviously not good enough. I am sure they will then tell you how good a cook you are and beg you to make another meal as soon as possible.
@sjvg1976 (41281)
• Delhi, India
30 Dec 11
Hello Dassodils, Anyways your cooking is appreciated by your father. I too have the same habit i don't appreciate cooking of my wife though she cooks delicious food i feel she will try to make more delicious food in order to get my appreciation.
• Indonesia
30 Dec 11
May be you can make a cooking as a birthday gift or marriage anniversary gift to your parents and look at their direct reaction. But make it as a surprise. I think if they show good reaction, then it means they like it but do not want to reveal it to make you do better and better.