Is it good to talk about the reason of fight after everything is settle down ???
By vishu252
@vishu252 (102)
India
January 12, 2012 1:04pm CST
Hey Lotters,
Today i had a fight with my friend and that thought really made me upset like hell. Just because I lost my temper I said those words which I never ever meant to say. Result is very clear my friend stopped talking. By the time we settle down I asked my friend are we even now......then it was all good and when we gave a second thought for the reason on which we were fighting....then we realize that is a very stupid reason to fight for and we burst out laughing... I felt good to talk about the reason of fight...what do think my Lotters ???
12 responses
@meholl (510)
• United States
13 Jan 12
In any relationship it is good to find the reason for a fight, after everything settles down.
It gives each of you a chance to improve your relationship and learn more about the other.
Also, understanding the cause or reason for the fight can help prevent future issues.
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@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
13 Jan 12
Sometimes when we are mad or just angry, we say things we didn't meant to say. Talking about the reason after the fight would be ok. So that you'll both know and understand that there is nothing to fight over. With my friends, We seldom talk about the reason why. It's just that we do understand each other. And just forget about the fight. Because we might just end up fighting again.LOL
@tatzkie23 (770)
• Philippines
14 Jan 12
LOL, sometimes it happens. talking about the reason why you fight, and then you start arguing again. LOL
@AmourHelen (136)
• United States
14 Jan 12
I think its best to reason the fight after everything is settled down. If the two of you are heated up then you will tend to say things you don't even mean.
@parascevi (313)
• Greece
13 Jan 12
Yes i think that it is best to talk about the reason of fight when things settle down.Then we can see the reason of arguing and maybe not to do the same mistake again in the future.I believe that it is a move that shows maturity and responsibility.You have done very well.
@ashleymosq (44)
• United States
13 Jan 12
Honestly, I think it depends on what the argument was about. Most of the time I say yes, it is a good idea to talk it out after everyone involved has cooled down. But there are some times when everyone should just let it go and move on.
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
12 Jan 12
Yes I think it is, because it will give the both of you a chance to learn from your mistakes. When the both of you are mature enough then you're probably gonna burst out laughing of how stupid the reason was, like the situation of vishu. Although if one of you is not mature then discussing the reason might ignite the fight once more.
Blessed be
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
12 Jan 12
I agree that its okay to talk about things once everything is calm. I wish I wasnt fighting with a friend right now but I am. Im not mad but she is. I hope we make up soon. I dont think our fights have ever lasted this long so Im worried that shes going to be mad for a while...
I know if and when we do make up we will laugh about it also in the future.
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
13 Jan 12
There are times it's good to talk about the reason of the fight. To understand why. But there are also times it's better to talk about something else. Too much talking can kill a lot too.
@selinachang (55)
•
13 Jan 12
yes ,it is necessary to analyse the reason of fight .after all,we never want to have a fight with our friends .but once the fight had happened ,we need to resolve the conflicts.when we find out the reason ,we can avoid the quarrel next time.
@geekygirl (27)
• United States
12 Jan 12
I definitely think it is healthy to talk about things after an argument has calmed down. This helps us to figure out the true reason behind the argument and may also assist in discovering ways to prevent the same issues in the future.
