Do you Smell your Partner????

I feel sad about what happened to your one true love. Everybody is at risk for cancer somehow. My husband and I are always separated, because he have to work away from home, so most of time he's not here by my side, One thing i do, before he go is that, I keep he's last shirt that he wore. Which has he's perfume in it. I keep it, and always smell it. So that i could still feel that he's just here. But the reality is that he's gone again. It's hard being away from someone you really love. Maybe you have already accepted that she's gone completely. She'll just be in your memories.

I don't if I believe in what you say that you smell the perfume of you partner even if she is gone to grave? Because if you analyze the facts that your partner didn't know anything in this world even her love is vanished and nothing can do under the sun. So your presumption that you smell her that is a kind of joke...don't be angry with me, my friend but I only tell what in mind and what I believe on such case in your part

I'm so sorry for your loss. It's touching that you came up with such an idea with her perfume. It's a wonderful idea that I might even try if, God forbid, my husband passes before I do. The scent of my husband's neck both comforts and, shall I say it, arouses me. The only way I can truly explain it is that it's a musky, skin/salt scent that is absolutely the best thing I've ever smelled. I've told him before that if I could bottle it up and sell it, I'd be rich, but that then I'd be jealous that everyone else could smell it. Haha. He wears cologne that smells good, but nothing can beat that natural aroma of his neck. It drives me absolutely crazy. Sometimes he'll be in the kitchen cooking (he does all the cooking throughout the day), and I'll come up and just stand next to him and smell his neck. He's also told me that I have a very "sweet and sexy" natural scent. He usually goes looking for it anywhere between my neck and my stomach. Humans are like any other animals; they pick up on someone's scent and can distinguish it from other scents. In fact, back in colonial times women used to wipe their body odor on handkerchiefs and toss them at men they were attracted to. If the men were aroused by their scent, they would pursue the woman. If you can get past society's current view on body odor, it's something you can test out for yourself. I personally happen to be very attracted to both my husband's "odor" and my own. Being able to distinguish scents isn't strange, it's nature.

I am sorry to learn that your true love has been gone.You might have had a hard time of that.what you said about consoling yourself with placing the perfume that your wife liked all over the house is really a story which touches everyone's heart strings.What an affectionate couple you were!

That's so sad. Sorry to hear about your story my friend. I know no words can ease your loneliness, only God knows... All we can do is pray for you and for the soul of your beloved.... Yes that's true, every person has their own scent. Perfumes too smells differently to every person. Since Every person has different chemical reaction to perfumes being applied on their skin. Indeed, everyone is uniquely created by God. ;-)

Sometimes it can be true. If your partner used to love a specific perfume then it would remind you of him or her every time that you smell it. That is why it is better to get rid of all things that remind you of that other person if you really want to move on. Other times, it can be a form of denial.

I am sorry for your lss. You story is very sad and basically, whilst the perfume worked in the beginning, we all have to move on with our lives. I have noticed this with bereavements, although fortunately, I have not yet lost my partner. As the mind lets go, there are parts of the person that you may feel unable to remember. And on the other hand, you could out of the blue, suddenly feel that other person's presence. It could be a smell or just a strong feeling. Then is is gone. The mind does let go, slower for some people than others. There is no set period of time as we are all so different. I think it is important that we are patient with ourselves in such situations. _Derek

Sorry for your loss Bird. I have lost family members but never one that I was in love with and I hope I don't for a long time to come. But if I did, I could see myself doing the same kind of thing. The senses we have are powerful but I guess without the one who we loved, the perfume is just perfume

Hi bird: I can recognise the smell of the persons I love. It might be difficult to face this sad situation. I'm glad to know that this strategy works with you because, I think this would be worst for me. I mean, I would always thinking about her wherever I go so it makes harder to accept that I won't see her again. ALVARO

Each person has his/her own smell. We like it or dislike it. Some smells are familiar others are not. That is exactly why we also don't like people without even knowing it and why so many realtionships also break up. You don't like the smell of your partner anymore. It's still a miracle why (suddenly) this happens, or perhaps love is blind before (so the eyes does win it from the nose?). People who smoke, drink, use medication and are sick smell different too. I think it's normal you associate your partner also with a perfume or essence, my kids do the same with me. I wish you so much strengh, perhaps you fooled yourself for a long way but I don't see it like that. I think it's a way to remember and a way to ease the pain, to grieve. Nothing wrong with that. There is a time for everything.

Sorry about your loss. I also remember someone whenever I smell the same perfume that she used to wear. However when you get used to smelling it, the memory attached to that certain smell will go away as new memories will be associated to it. Same goes with music. I used to remember my childhood whenever I listen to the music that I listen to when I was younger but as I go along listening to it everyday, the memory was no longer attached to it. So, if you want to remember her, don't overdo it or the memory will be gone and as you've mentioned, it will be just another scent.

if you cannot tell us i can tell you what smell is thats, that is the smell of love and care. its a very beautiful lines you have used here for describing your late partner. although she is in other universe now but she is watching you with all her eyes wide open, seeing you how much you care for her, and how much you missing her. thats what seriously called trues love, we can smell our partners. you have made me emotional too, thank you bird its seriously a nice sharing.

I think you people should Lern to take shower at list twice a day

Dude, you really should move on now. I know it's hard to lose someone you truly love especially if it only happened a couple of years ago but you should try to stop obsessing about her, or in your case, her smell. You're only 31 and there's still a lot life has to offer for you. Your true love would never be at peace if she sees that you're lonely. Good luck bird123. I hope you'll be happy eventually.

::hugs:: yes everyone has a different smell, different feel and different footsteps. I think the perfume helped you cope better as you were regreiving.. I do not see it as hanging on.. I work with spirits.. I see it as your way of reminding yourself she was still around in spirit .. but fooling yourself is not good that causes more hurt in the end.. But I can tell you with spirit work it has been interesting I will often smell perfumes, or other scents in relations to passed on spirits as they approach me.. Grandmas old perfume, my stinky dogs furr or breath .. or the smell of smoke or firewood before my native ancestors in spirit approach me was there bug repellant.. reminds you of campfire really.. I many times may not be able to see or hear them but I can smell them and hear there footsteps other times its just see them.. or hear them.. other times it is just feel them standing there like feeling them looking over your shoulder. I never had a partner but my sense of smell is sensitive and everyone no matter how clean they are definitely have a different scent to them for sure.. I think my sense of smell developed strongly out of survival skills.. I also spent most of my childhood hiding from people in the woods and marsh and could smell them before I heard them often.. to know if it was someone I wanted to meet and greet or climb further up a tree to avoid. Avoid mothers stinky perfume.. Run through the woods to hug Grandpa :) and his barely noticeable calonge.. :)

I do smell my partner and I know it quite blinded that I can smell and know it's him on a street.. people have their own smell which cannot be stored into something..there was film name 'perfume'..watch it..in that the villin knows how to store the scent of a woman into a perfume and use it whenever he needs it.. my partner smeels like his own 'thing' and I quite love that..