I think I've Got Stalked

Hi Air, That's pretty scary! Are you living near your relatives or parents? It's better to have someone with you and your baby always as you know it's not so safe these days. Since you're pretty, I also thought maybe that guy likes you that's why he came to your house. How does he talk to you? Is it pure business only and is he asking about a lot of personal things?

You may be just thinking about it negatively. You haven't mentioned how many times he called you and how many times he paid you a visit. Were there any phone calls after his visit? How many times? If he called and visited you just once, I don't think he would mean as you thought he would. But more caution is important, just to be on the safe side.

I've been in your feeling way back. It's harassment sort of stalking and it happened at work when I'm still single. The guy was our section manager and married. He keeps on calling and visiting me on my work area. He make sure that when he's in my workplace, it will look just plain auditing or something to those around, he keeps on asking me personal matters like: where I live, have I been to this and that place. At first I don't want to think fishy about his actions but yes like you, I felt there's really something but I don't want to accomodate my feeling. I'm still expecting that I'm thinking wrong. But yes! Truth was, he's harassing me already! Time came that he's been vocal what he's into. He keeps on saying, he'll do something for my promotion etc. etc., he'll back me up to my supervisor and in the Focal Justification Team. To the point that he's asking me to go out. I'm very afraid that time. Don't know what to do and where to go! Yes, we have approachable and nice HR's but I'm shy to reveal it to the dep't.. He's decent performing his job and he had awards making the department proud. So, I'd rather wait for the guy to just stop. But he don't! Until, I knew that my brother in law was his basketball team (yes, my brother in-law was a company fellow)... I told my brother in-law that the man was messing with me, harassing. I know he talked to that man, I just don't know what and how he talked to him... and I don't care how it goes! Then, the man just missed in my screen anymore. He just stopped! Good for me and to him of course! Maybe, your stalker (I know he is) needs someone close to you, more likely a relative of yours (because I know what you feel not wanting him to talk about the regards) to do the corrective action to talk to him and say something that will stop him to mess you like what my brother in-law did to my big boss. But anyway, maybe you can do it for your at peace because you're grown up now unlike me before that single and unexperienced. Just get some fighting spirit and you're on! I know you can do it! Say it straight to his face that you're uncomfortable to what he's actions and he should stop calling and bugging you because you don't want him to do so! Feeling that easy huh but I know it's not! But you can try... I advice you to tell it to your husband overseas, but be sure you tell it first to your parents here and some close friends to ease your husbands worries that you together with your parents and friends are doing something to stop the guy in doing and always have someone with you wherever you're going until the time he's out forever! You can eliminta him of course! Just be brave and strong! Luck and blessing be with you airkulet!

Hi Airkulet! There is a thin line between stalking and being persistent so if you think the guy crosses that line, it's up to you to do the necessary actions. However, if the would-be stalker doesn't do anything yet (and I hope he doesn't), just put your worries behind since he may just be trying to be nice. I hope all turns out well.

WOW airkulet, you can never be to overprotected about yourself. first, what type of papers are you talking about...I am sure this jerk has a boss and I am also sure that his job description does not include bringing personal papers to clients...So stand up for yourself and go to his boss...No matter what papers they are, he still have rules and regulations that he has to follow. Don't be intimidated by this person...Where is your hubby??...Did you mention it to him??..This is not something you should keep to yourself. Involve your husband...its part of his vows...

Aww sweetheart, it is not wrong for you to feel afraid. I have been there to. As a victim of a stalker for many times, i can seriously tell you i am afraid to meet new ppl. Its not that i want to have the, Oh-stalker-come-to-me aura. But it jst happens. So don't blame yourself. Just ignore him, don't pick up his calls, or anything and tell your husband about it. Perhaps, go to somewhere else to process your papers? It is perfectly fine to be aware of people like this, as i have been stalked until i feel so helpless and all i can do is cry. Its as if every single movement that you are doing, someone is watching. So take care okay? =)

I think it would be better if you will tell this to your husband. Then, if the stalker tries to call again, explain and discuss to him why he shouldn't be coming back or call. It's important to keep cool and must not get angry when you talked. If possible, talk privately but with your husband of course near you. Make it a goal to make him understand why he shouldn't be doing that without offending him deeply.

If you are being stalked I would suggest going to the police. They properly be able to help you!I suggest you should tell you husband,too! This is truly a scarey situation and I hope this guy leaves you alone! I never been stalked but I have always thought it could happen if I wasn't careful! I had a friend who had one and she never did anything about it! The stalker never did anything violent with her but he was getting creepy like sending her weird gifts! The stalking only stopped when my friend moved to Colorado after she in love with someone she met on line! Please Be careful! You never know what can happen!

Oh no! Sounds scary! I'll be praying tonight that the stalker will be gone forever. I just hope he doesn't do anything crazier than these. Just don't give him a chance to get close to you. And don't smile when you see each other. Show him that you don't like him so that he will stop.

Hi aiekulet, First of all be firm and confident.Dont;t be afraid as its not going to help you.Whenever that guy call again just tell him clearly not to call you as its just the work regarding which you met him and its nothing more than that and you are married and very happy with your relation.If still he continues then you can warn him of calling police or complaining about him to his boss and also tell your husband about your gut feeling he can be a great support and help to you if this taks a serious turn.. For now be confident go there with your husband, submit the papers and do show him that you have your husband with you it might take him back... Hope it helps...Best of luck..