Why are some guys so dense?

Somethings are meant to be bad, and if u don't do it, they will somehow think that u like them. It's their ego that's playing a huge part in their thinking.. haha It's either u be good to yourself and bad to him or the other way round, secret It doesn't hurt to be bad once in a while, especially when it's gonna give u peace of mind for the rest of your time there

Women are inherently averse to confrontation. Unfortunately guys are inherently confrontational. Guys are aggressive by nature. It's simply how we are wired up. Some women learn enough of how to confront a situation to handle themselves. Some women never learn this. It's simply not in their ability. This is another reason it's so important for young women to stay under the protection of their family. They are there for many reasons, and one is to be there when you need help. However, sometimes family is too far away to help. I would humbly suggest that you find a man, not a boy, but a man to help you. Someone you know and trust. If you go to Church, ask the pastor or priest to find someone who can help you, but preferably someone you know well enough. Then just ask that person to help you deal with this boy. Ask them to tell this guy to leave you alone. Most of the time, when a male tells another male, to step off his turf, they get it. Many years ago my sister got in with a very bad man. She made mistakes, and she didn't know how to say 'no'. She simply wasn't equiped to deal with it. This man dogged her for months and months. Finally she found a friend who was a guy, and asked him to deal with this man. After he got done, this guy disappeared for several years. Then she got married, and the guy showed up again. But this time she got her husband, who pretty much laid him out flat... and now we haven't heard from him ever since. That's a good warning by the way. Remember mistakes will follow you around for years on years. I wager this guy will be back again too. Don't do something you'll regret for most of your life, and a mistake can happen in just minutes. Anyway, find you a guy who can tell this jerk to go away.

I think to be honest it's an ego thing, he doesn't want to think that you have rejected him, spurned him or just don't want to see him again, so to protect his precious ego he will continue to think that you want to see him, only until you lay it on the line, or with a sledgehammer that you don't like him and you wouldn't want to see him again even if he was the last man on Earth, ok that is taking it a bit too far but sometimes you have to be brutally honest for them to get the message! It's male pride, it's ego, call it what you like, they don't like to be rejected and there's the little child inside them that wont take no for an answer. At the end of the day you simply have to be cruel to be kind. It is not easy but if you want this guy off your back then that is what it takes. No you are not a bad person, you have to be kind to YOU. You matter! You are important, put yourself first, you are a nice person because you are thinking of him! Most wouldn't worry or bat an eyelid about dropping a guy and letting him know exactly where he stands!

Geez mate, I wish I had your problems...

being a guy, i think i understand how you feel. but sometimes, its not about being dense. sometimes its just the fact that we guys (well, most of us) can't easily accept rejection, specially from people we like. we tend to be indifferent to how people react just to get what we want. but hey, there's always guys that are simply too dense.. the best thing for you is to simply say it up front. you don't really need to embarrass the person. just say it flatly (as you describe it), chill and move on.

Ignore him. Just ignore him. He will feel tired to chase you when no response come from you. Or when he send messages you could reply and asked his intention then say the truth. Sometimes to be honest is the right way to deal with it. If he still doing the same thing ignore it. If he do it and you can't deal with it then you can log a report-but that is for serious level.(^^)

That's too bad. I know if you even found a "nice" way to tell him he probably wouldn't get it...which in a way is flattering to you because it means he is not going to give up on someone who attracts him this way! Good luck though!

secretbear, now you know you're going to have to tell this guy with a quickness and strong conviction that you don't want him. Ya need to add a bit of crazy when you tell him so he knows you mean business. You are not a bad person, he is just a bit off, and he will only get worse if you do not put a halt to it quick, fast and in a hurry. Think safety! Leading him on is a lot meaner than telling him the truth. Ya heard?

If he is that dense, there is other way but to tell it straight to his face. Yeah i know it is awful..but can you still go through his everyday persistence?

Sometimes the hints don't work. They might figure you'll change your mind. Maybe you could just tell him your not interested and he'll move on. I know it's not easy, but sometimes it's for the best.

It takes a man to understand a man. Dense? No! This man is anything but that. He is being persistent. Failures are the stepping stone to success seems to be his game. He is waiting for the walls to come down. He wants you to give up. You are desirable and that's why guy's want you. And I put it to you, who wouldn't? Your being a nice girl isn't helping you. Bring out the claws lady, if you want him to beat it!

No you don't feel upset for this guy. if you don't like him then you tell that you don't like you. don't take pressure about this. you just chill.

Maybe you directly said to him that you don't have any feeling about him. I think your silence make him confused whether you like him or not. At first he'll feel hurt when they know that you don't like him, but that will be good for both you and him. Don't hesitate to say straight.

Most guys do that, rarely some girls too,, don't know why and i think that is what makes them even less attractive and appealing.. Like if they had self-respect they should understand and save themselves from the humiliation.. But not judging the guy,, and to be fair,, may be he loves you too much, doesn't wanna let you go.. its hard you know to deal with rejections.. And you know what telling him directly will make you a better person and not the other way round.. At least he wont be confused about what is into your head and would be better equipped to deal with it.. So in short i would say, if you ever cared for this person, i think he deserves a breakup talk... And if he is a kind of stalker then do whatever you want!!

Uhhh...because they are guys? They think differently than we do. However, it is less awful for you to tell him, nicely, but TELL him to lay off than if you wait around for him to get the drift, which he is not likely to do on his own. You should not feel bad unless he keeps chasing after you even after you have clearly told him...or if he stalks you or something. Then you should be MAD, not sad. Good luck.

Hi Secretbear, I know just what you mean. They say it is hard on the guys and I'm sure it is but it is equally hard on women to find a way to say NO. I usually just say that I'm seeing someone whether I am or not and thank them for asking.