friendship vs money

sometimes it happened because whom we understand as friend ,is not our friend ,he is just using you for their purpose time to time. i hope that you can understand am what i talking about! In this world now relationship does not matter when it comes in-front on MONEY.because everybody is not as good as you are. some times being good to some one is also very dangerous.so try to make friend not foe.if your are not able to judge people then it would be very difficult for you to find good friend ,who always stand besides you. so just leave him and move on buddy.at least you decreased one foe from your friend list.

Sorry to hear that from you. That person should not be called friend at all. He should pay back your money but if you already give up for him then why not you just let it go? Yes, it's hurt but it's already happened. It's a good lesson to learn not to lend your money to others unless you don't care if they don't pay you back. He's your long time friend. He should not do this to you.

Yes it is very true. If you want to have friends, don't loan money. Loan money to make people go away. If there is someone you don't like, and they ask to borrow some money, give them the money, and tell them you want interest back. They will never come around again.

probably your friend is still unable to pay you back and that is why he is not avoiding you for fear of you asking for payment, but on the other hand, the least he could do is to be honest enough to tell you of his financial status. just give him some time, and if he still avoids you, then he is not a friend as he is to you...

that's really disappointing if you invest your emotions in friendship and trust them that will not do something to hurt you after you helped them. but many are like that, they only treat you as friend because they need something from you, then leave you after they get what they wanted...true friends these days are really hard to find. but I only hope that your friend at least face you and explain why he did that and explain himself, well there's nothing wrong if he can't pay yet if he really don't have money yet to pay you, but hiding from you, it's not really good.

It's so sad, but yet it is very true, if you want to keep your friendships, never borrow money, electrical appliances' or anything of worth, because the reality of the matter is, you going to lose your friendships, if something happens to your goodies or they cannot repay your money back. Unless you want to adopt the attitude, ( I will borrow, but not expect it back than you will definately retain your friendships) Maybe the saying is true " Give and you will receive hundred fold back if you do not expect it back) Because God will see your heart and attitude in the matter and He will personaly reward you perhaps in another way, u never expected.

Well, money did not give any good thing to man. This is just a sort of things for us to live not for us to stay happy. I don't know why there are friends that really makes money matter most than their friend which is really care for them?

We share in the same belief and what is more painful to me is that the person whom I helped was not just a friend but a cousin of mine. If I were to say, I was one of the people left that my cousin could trust and rely on when she called for help but she broke that trust. People are very different, we should put that in mind and know where we stand in their life regardless of what we think. It was good of you to lend money to your friend and still you remain the good guy. That is what really matters. You did your part and he failed to do his. No matter what he does, he would will be indebted to you. There could be another situation though. He might be in need of money and may be unable to pay you back the amount so out of shame, he chose not to contact you anymore. Try to get in touch with him and express your concern. You might be able to help him out otherwise, you can just try.

Friends who borrows money from a friend could sometimes be abusive. Just because they are friends.their tendency is not to pay or simply ignore the friend, so she cannot insist on the payment. But money that is borrowed should always be returned, even if she is your friend. Once you do not return the borrowed money or anything that is important, the trust is broken, thus the friendship is broken too. And if you don't have the money yet to pay, then tell your friend so. But do not avoid her like a plague, because after all she helped you in your need.

I am afriad it's true. Money breaks a lot. If you help out your friends, friendship is over after that. That is what I experienced many times throught the past years. Also you don't make new friendships if you help out others. I will never understand why. Just know it's better to refuse, to be scolled at as helping out and be stabbed in the back.

I feel sad about what happened to you and your friend. Well, you have a point, sometimes, our friendship will get affected if there is money involve. I once lend my friend money, because she said it was very important, so i lend her. After that, She never called, i never saw her again. I don't know why, It's not that i'm mad at her. Maybe because she's just ignoring me, because she still don't have money to pay me. But for me, I think it's still ok. Because all i want was her friendship, she could have explained it to me. I would have understand her. But what she did wrong is that, she never called me. I hope that the friendship will stay even if there's money involve.

If a friend wants to hurt you he will do this even without lending him money. People hurt us all the times because most of them are selfish and care only for themselves. My advice is to try to track those people who try to take advantage of you and keep only the good ones.

The inclusion of money in a friendship has always been a problem for me, it brings about things that are more trouble than they are worth. The worth I think though is in the friendship more than the money. If money is the element of trouble, then this should be the thing to leave the friendship. Also, a good friend doesn't keep asking for money, the only time it should be a factor is if it is a gift or an emergency. Nothing else should be the case.As for me though, I try to be honest, and if I'm given money, I tend to freak out. One time I was given a quarter because a machine ate mine, and felt terrible for it, even almost cried when I actually got the soda. XD I'm a bit sensitive about these things, not so keen on taking from others, even if given.

its was painful, sometimes money can be a god to help us or a evil to destroy us. if you want to help friends, do not help them with money, or you will be exploited.

There's an old saying, "if you give someone $20 & you never see him again, it's most likely worth every penny...". When I lend someone money, I don't expect to get it back... There are only few people I'd lend money out to but still...

There are a lot of sadly false friends out there that only pretend to rather be your friend, until they need something. And then when they get what they want, they are going to drop you like no one's business. There are just a lot of sadly abusers out there, who are just out to take advantage of people with a rather kind heart and thus it is rather something that they are going to stomp on them. There are just going to be many times where I have been burned in the past. Which is why I don't lend out money. And if that destroys a friendship, then you really are going to wonder how serious a person is. If they see you as their own personal bank where they can withdraw money where they need a handout. It is rather sad, but unfortunately true to say the least.

Hmmm this is the same situation that I had experienced with a friend quite a while back.. I had lend him some money and then our relationhsip was never the same as he felt really awkward around me fearing I would ask the money back and started avoiding me and I was feeling hurt he was avoiding me.. Finally he did repay me and things were back to normal.. I believe money does complicate a freindship..Cheers

hello0 friend, all these things happen sometimes. But then, all these things does not happen often with everyone. But as you said, money should not come in between any relationship, leave alone friendship. Money just takes away those true relationships and happiness too. You never know when people will change for money. So it is always better to keep the money business out of any relationship for that matter! :)

Hi devildate... Yes when ever you are in problem friends help hard, that is 100% true. But in the financial thing you have to be carefull. Before doing finacial helps you have to consider your friend trustness. and some times you also need to understand your friend situations, he may be facing some other problems.. think abt it